Before I ask this question, I would actually like to emphasize that its been 4 years, 4 months and 24 days since my last and ONLY g/f... So 1) I honestly have no idea of how to handle the situation 2) I need more specific instructions.
There is this very annoying girl at my job that contently feels the need to talk to me on the job (which is actually bringing down my performance at work), constantly bothering me about looking at her drawings (and she brings in a whole book each time), and constantly being me food that I don't want to eat. I think she likes me for some reason or another. Its not really that I wouldn't date her, as I plan to stay single (no g/f/significant other) for the rest of my life. Anyway I need some advice on how to handle this.
I work at a college, and she is a (Art Major perhaps?) student. I need to know how to handle this somewhat professionally since I have somewhat of a low job title, and am TRING to get a promotion.
Any advice would be helpful.
2006-10-19 12:11:18 · 10 answers · asked by D 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ignoring her, and constantly telling her I'm not hungry didn't work.
2006-10-19 12:11:52 · update #1
tell her straight up or just kiss a girl mek she see
2006-10-19 12:15:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her that you don't like her. You can't make her stop liking you just like she can't make you start liking her. But I would just be blunt with her. Unfortunalty, her feelings will get hurt. Sometimes that is the only way though. Just tell her as nicely and as frankly as you can. Adults SHOULD be able to handle the truth. Also tell her that you don't ever want a serious relationship, that may just get rid of her. There is probably not a way to do this without hurting her, but you have to do it, or put up with her annoying behavior.
But don't tell her at work in front of everybody, maybe ask her if she wants to go for a walk, or go get shakes (I don't do coffee or drinks) or something informal like that. Not telling her just leads her on, especially if you are nice to her. I know first hand how difficult it is if you are guessing if a guy likes you or not. Be blunt, it will hurt her now, but in the long run it will be better. And don't give into her crying, many girls use that as a manipulation tool.
2006-10-19 12:19:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no offense, but ur situation is actually funny. anyway, there was this guy that i used to like, then he started acting really immature n crap, so im over him now. do something that u know bothers her.
or even better, get a guy that u think she'll like 2 flirt with her and see how that goes.
if niether works, then just tell her 2 leave u alone, its not exctly nice but...
or u could always pretend ur married n that ur wife just got pregnant. good luck
i dont care if these r really lame answers, but could u give me 10 points anyway? i really need them
2006-10-19 12:27:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what kind of work do u do? if ur older than her by more than 8 years tell her she's too young. try telling her u have a gf. or just being honest (but don't be 2 harsh or u'll make her cry) if all else fails, get a new job, or try harder on getting that promotion. hopefully u won't have 2 see her anymore with a new position. good luck!
2006-10-19 12:17:31 · answer #4 · answered by hannah t 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would be basic with you. there is not any way you are able to injury out of the "i such as you too lots to get close to to you" or "you're my brother" What she is doing relatively is utilising you as a scapegoat. you're her emotional tampon which she makes use of to get rid of her issues. she would be able to by no skill think of of you as somebody she would be able to truly love. the excellent concern to do is to interrupt up all ties with that woman. people think of of you as that considering you're too spectacular, too common to step on. you may desire to strengthen a backbone and get obtainable. If a woman is utilising you, be an *** till now she thinks of you as her emotional trashcan.
2016-11-23 20:04:26 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ask her to go have drinks with you after work and talk to her then. Drop hints that you have someone you are getting over and you have decided to fly solo indefinitely. She will get the message if you are nice and direct about it.
*Remember the secret weapon - "Let's be friends" *
2006-10-19 12:15:41 · answer #6 · answered by Sirena 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe...you should just give her a shot. cause you staying single, is really stupid, i mean seriously, dont give up cause of one girl, that just makes u pathetic
2006-10-19 12:15:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her you have a new g/f and you think she is the love of yur life
2006-10-19 12:15:42 · answer #8 · answered by Marcus. 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell her to blow on ur wissel
2006-10-19 12:14:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
well....if I was you I would tell her you have a girlfriend
2006-10-19 12:19:05 · answer #10 · answered by Nicole S 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋