The person I have been seeing just broke up with me. We used to be best friends, but I decided that I couldn't anymore because I've been hurt in the worst way by this person. I love them but I can't keep going through this. I need advice.
2006-10-19 11:58:27 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Amelia, I'm really sorry about your relationship, and I hope that your okay. It takes time to heal...My ex-boyfriend continued to hurt me too, and I couldn't take being hurt over and over again. I mean he even broke up with me on the same day my grandmother had passed away. So not only did I have to deal with that, but also with the death of my grandmother. I would take everything a day at a time. Start over and find someone new. Go have fun and do the things you enjoy most that u could not normally do with the person you had been seeing. I did, and now, I have found the man I've been looking for, and he means everything to me. Good luck, and I know you'll be fine, you're a woman, u can handle it; and you deserve better than him.
2006-10-19 12:18:53 · answer #1 · answered by american_cowgirl_2008 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things so happen for a reason. Although at times the reason is not so clear but please understand that time is the greatest healer. The memories of all the good stuff is whats causing the grief right now. But you know there was the not so good things that would undermine the good person that you are - if you continued. Don't sell yourself short - aim high, you know deep inside you deserve a prince and a half. You are not in the least bit alone in your situation. It can be devastating for one to think they are the only person its happening to. And the pain is just a way your body and mind is telling you its healing itself, and when you do, you will be all that much stronger and smarter and that's just nature doing its job. People deserve to be happy - and I promise you will be too very soon. See how many ppl here care? Btw love your name. :)
2006-10-19 12:22:12 · answer #2 · answered by Magnus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to remember that you are the most important part of this equation so you need to make sure you are taking care of yourself. Don't be stubborn call up some people you trust, even if you haven't spoke in a while and get yourself busy with other people! It's gonna feel like the most painful thing in the world for a while, but time will heal your heart, give it a chance. I feel for you, I've had my heart crushed and I was in bad shape, lonely, mad, and hurt, but now i'm happily married with two kids; it took a long while, but i got through it and you will too.
2006-10-19 12:16:04 · answer #3 · answered by EllieMae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you share you pain with someone you trust, you cut your pain in half. That's a start. By realizing that you refuse to be treated with anything less than love and respect you are traveling on a fruitful path. Thirdly when you have fully experienced the pain and sadness of the poor treatment and failed relationship, realize it for what it was, and then choose to move on in your life and prevent the abuse from impacting the remainder of your life negatively. A good place to start this journey is to write down your lifetime goal list. Such as, What do you want to:
Have?
Do?
See?
Become?
Share?
Try to write ten things in each category. This will immediately give you 50 things to live for. Review this list every year and cross off those goals that you accomplish. It will feel great. When you cross off a goal, add at least one more new goal back to the list. Ask yourself everyday, what can I do today to move one step closer to my top goal? Good luck and have a blast out there!
2006-10-19 12:18:08 · answer #4 · answered by Bullwinkle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it is always hard when you love someone and that person does not love you back. You did the right thing to cut things off. Obviously, the other person just does not love you or care for you. Enjoy your own company, do things with the community that will be rewarding for you. Take good care of yourself and I'm sure that soon enough someoen else will come by who really appreciates you!
2006-10-19 12:03:35 · answer #5 · answered by Mitch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key words here are...just broke up with. In time, the pain will ease. You just have to be patient and not get wrapped up in the pain portion of your feelings. Take time, focus on yourself and in no time you'll be like....what was his or her name again? Oh, and the friendship thing never works out until you are truly over your feelings for the other person.
2006-10-19 12:03:25 · answer #6 · answered by Bonnie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you, first of all. You cannot keep going through pain if he is the one causing it. It is going to take you lots of time, lots of tears, and lots of good friends who will listen and support you. You will go on and find a better life out there. I am so sorry this happened to you and am going through the same thing myself. Take good care of you. You are the most important person right now.
2006-10-19 12:00:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Much like a death when a relationship ends you need time to grieve. Trust me when I tell you that things will improve and that hopefully you may indeed renew your friendship but not your love life.
2006-10-19 12:04:03 · answer #8 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it some time and do some things to keep yourself busy and don't sit at home and feel sorry for yourself. That is not a good thing to do.
2006-10-19 12:01:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every community has a community mental health clinic. If time does not heal your heart, they may be able to help.
2006-10-19 12:00:22 · answer #10 · answered by Clown Knows 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋