I have a boy aged 17 mths he is great does not stop. But i would like to have another now so they are close plus get it out the way but not in a bad way. I'm in a large family of six children so i know i want a sister for my child.Yes i would like a girl. But on the other side i would like to back to work as i feel I'm missing out as i have no friends or really go out. money is not to bad we get through. what are you thoughts......
2006-10-19 11:35:06 · 17 answers · asked by amanda e 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
my boyfriend wants one now
2006-10-19 11:42:31 · update #1
It is nice to have the first two close in age. Your son is 17 months now and would be over 2 when the new baby arrives. That is a good space between children.
My first two were 18 months apart. My oldest daughter was born on the day my son turned 18 months old. That may be a little close :-) But, I survived and they were very close. They played together and were such good friends. Of course, they got into trouble together too. You ask one of them now "which one of you really did that?" And they still insist that the other one did it, but they laugh too that I am still trying to find out.
Really, I think you and your husband should sit down and weigh all the pro's and con's. Talk it over and decide what is best for you and your family.
As for friends, maybe you could let your son go to a playgroup and he could have children his own age to play with and you could meet the mom's of those children.
Good luck in your decision!
2006-10-19 12:04:37 · answer #1 · answered by grandmaL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are really ready to bring another life into yours, you might want to be there the early years of the childs life. Many women do this and then when the child is about 3, or 4 put them in a daycare. This lets you be there to see babys first step, babys first words and all that really great stuff. But going back to your job in the same year is also a fine thing to do, as long as you get a good trustworthy daycare, and dont neglect your child by not spending enough time with them. Over all it"s really a personal thing you can't let someone off of a computer tell you to do something that will effect you, and your upcoming child severley. In the end DO WHAT YOU THINK WILL BE BEST FOR YOU, YOUR FAMILY, AND THE CHILD. Good luck.
2006-10-19 19:17:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to your baby, it's not about what you're missing out, tho. children are harmed when separated from mommy for more than 10 hours a week, under 5 years old. the harm happens socially, intellectually, emotionally, and physically. your baby needs you.
i would find other ways to connect with people - through play groups or some interest you have.
it would be great for him to have 5 years with you home and before a sibling arrives. kids are actually smarter, happier, and more confident when they have about a 5 year spacing between siblings. Your 17 month old is going to need more and more and more attention and one on one interaction with you in the next three years, to powerfully develop his vocabulary and social skills, self-confidence and passion for learning. No one can teach him that better than you - research show over and over that mom is much better than preschool.
look at getting your wants met in a way that don't mean your son won't get his needs met.
2006-10-19 19:01:00 · answer #3 · answered by t jefferson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're financially able to stay home and have more children, I would do it personally. I would give anything to be financially stable enough to stay home and just be a mother and get started on making that big family. But you need to examine your financial situation carefully. If you would need to go back to work sooner rather than later then you might want to go back to work now and wait a little for the rest of your family to be born.
2006-10-20 04:59:06 · answer #4 · answered by evilangelfaery919 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried a play group to get in contact with other women? If you really want another these can be a great way to meet other adults and keep sane. Don't discount the park or the local pool either. I actually met some great women at antinatal visits.
2006-10-23 02:17:06 · answer #5 · answered by obenypopstar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a stay at home mom with two kids, they are 5 years apart in age though, i wish that they were closer because they are intrested in different things and its hard to do things with them together because what one enjoys the other doesnt. So i say go ahead and have the other kid, they will be closer to each other and easier for you also.
2006-10-20 00:11:23 · answer #6 · answered by button 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have another now so if you want to go back when the next one is older you won't have to put your career on hold a second time. Plus, having them closer together makes for a tighter bond I think. Good luck!!
2006-10-19 18:39:26 · answer #7 · answered by therealprinsess 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1- this is btw you & husband
2-money is not to bad that is great
3-noted that if you have this other child now you will definatly need to stay home for good because child care is so expensive
So you need to think about staying home for another 6years
when everyone start school
2006-10-19 18:44:25 · answer #8 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can make that decision. If you want to have another child, this would be an ideal time to do it. On the other hand, that would keep you at home even longer. You decide.
2006-10-19 18:42:15 · answer #9 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your husband think you should have another child now?
Could you wait two years to work, get some money saved up, and then get pregnant again?
2006-10-19 18:39:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋