My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. Today is our 3year anniversary and I want to ask him to marry me. I'm so scared though. I don't want to get rejected. He is my soulmate. I love him with all my heart. I don't know how to go about asking him to marry me. I need help. I want things to go as good as they possibly can. We just got an apartment together although we have lived together for 2 years. I'm not totally sure what his answer will be. I hope it is yes. I need ideas. Are guys put off by girls that ask them to marry them? Are they more likely to say yes when a girl asks them? I need all the advice and ideas I can get on this subject. Thanks
2006-10-19 11:27:39 · 25 answers · asked by Wondering 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is the 21st century. If my girl asked me after 3 years, I would say YES in a split second! He probably feels the same way you do, being rejected. Just say it straight out, I love you and want I want to marry you.
2006-10-19 11:35:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the girl asking is perfectly fine. It's a scare subject to say the least. However, slight of hand and clever thinking are always great. First thing you have to do is loose the fairtale BS and be unique. What are his interests? Go with what he will be comfortable with. If it's sports, go with the Proposal over the announcers box. That type of thing. I had a friend that did a scavanger hunt and was a huge success.
Good luck. let us know how it went!!
2006-10-19 11:32:50 · answer #2 · answered by clownzinc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men aren't the same as women when it comes to romantic gestures. We don't really need the romantic setting, the candles the nice restaurant or any of that. I suppose you could make it memorable by being somewhere with him that is special to him or to you both. And from a guy's perspective, being told by someone that you love that they want to spend the rest of their lives with you should be good enough to make it special.
From my perspective, however, I would rather do the proposal than be proposed to. Not that I'm old fashioned or anything, I would just like to be the one to give such a gesture because women really appreciate that kind of thing. I guess I would feel a bit immasculated being denied it. Sorry to rain on your parade.
2006-10-19 11:37:14 · answer #3 · answered by Chris D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 3 years, you two should communicate well enough for the topic to be discussed. I think you should expect to be disappointed unless you can work a shotgun and maybe a mean older brother into the conversation. Boyfriend knows people get married. If he wanted to get married after three years, he's be asking already.
2006-10-19 11:32:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls DON'T ask.
In fact, if he fails to propose today, the normal girl thing to do would be to act all moody, then break up with him in a week or so without explanation. He'll get the message, and everything will turn out as it should; with either a marriage proposal from him, or you getting away from a guy who doesn't really want to get married to you.
2006-10-19 11:29:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's supposed to do it. If he hasn't it's because he doesn't WANT TO GET MARRIED. Wake up and smell the coffee!
Sorry, but the truth is hard sometimes. Guys know what to do, they know how to buy a ring, and they know how to ask a question. If he hasn't done it after 3 years? He's not planning on it anytime soon. If you say marry me and he blinks? You either take it as it is or walk.
2006-10-19 11:30:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if u just come out and ask him if he want to marry u. i mean you and him been together for 3 years that is a long time for y'all to get to know each other and what you both like and dislike if i were u i would just come out and ask him.
2006-10-19 11:30:58 · answer #7 · answered by marlenabob 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHY WOULD YOU WANT TOO??? FIRST LET ME SAY IF YOU HAVE BEEN TOGETHER THAT LONG THEN IT SHOULD BE A TOPIC THAT CAN BE APPROACHED IN A FRANK AND STRAIGHT FORWARD WAY...DON'T EMBARRASS YOURSELF BY PUTTING YOUR HEART ON THE LINE AND NOT GETTING THE RESPONSE YOU WANT..BRING UP THE SUBJECT AND BE THE JUDEGE OF HIS DEMEANER...IF HE'S COMFORTABLE CONTINUE THE TALK AND TELL HIM WHAT YOU WOULD LIKE...IF HE'S NOT YOU MAY CONSIDER YOUR PLACE IN THIS RELATIONSHIP AND HIS HEART...PERHAPS HE'S NOT AS DEDICATED TO THIS RELATIONSHIP THE WAY YOU ARE...I WOULD HAVE TO ASK MYSELF SOME PRETTY HARD QUESTIONS AND THE ONE I HAVE FOR YOU IS WHY HASN'T HE ASK YOU YET...THINK BEFORE YOU ACT...
2006-10-19 11:34:22 · answer #8 · answered by chameleon5657 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you probably know, it's more traditional for the guy to ask the girl. Have you discussed marriage at all with him? I'd be very careful about the proposition, as it's a HUGE commitment. If you haven't talked it over with him, then it might be best to wait.
2006-10-19 11:29:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're living together, what's the point of getting married?
I think it would be funny if you were both on the couch watching a game, and you turn to him and say, "So, wanna get married?"
2006-10-19 11:29:54 · answer #10 · answered by Amigurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋