Is this cause for concern, or are my insecurities getting in the way?

Question

I discovered my boyfriend checked out his ex-girlfriend's school's website and looked at pics of her and other women. Is this reason for suspicion, or are my insecurities getting in the way? When I asked him about it, at first he was upset and defensive--I think because I found out. Then he said it doesn't mean anything and he was trying to find someone else (not his ex). He's always told me how committed he is to me and we have discussed marriage.

BTW, this ex was in his life a very long time ago

Answer 1

I'd definitely say trust him first, but keep any eye out for more. He could be nostalgic or just happened to run into the pictures. It sounds like you're very comitted to each other, which is great.

It's probably innocent, but still, be careful.

Answer 2

I'd say just give him the benefit of the doubt right now. Trust can be a very difficult thing to have in a relationship. If he hasn't done anything else, try to just let it slide. If you see more strange behavior, just calmly tell him that you're slightly concerned.

Always keep this in mind: He's entitled to his privacy. Dont' go digging around looking for stuff. It could jepordize what you have. Just go with the flow. :)

Answer 3

then talk to him and tell him ot bothers you..when he do it again..then you better do something about it..like tell him to stop or you'll dump him