I know this girl who used to be a really good friend of mine but recently I have lost almost all respect for her. My problem is the way she is raising her kids. I don't like to judge but when it comes to neglect I can't put up with it. Recently her husband was deported to mexico and the two of them have 3 kids. He was a very poor excuse for a husband and I actually witnessed him beating her infront of the kids. Now that he's gone, she has completely forgotten the kids. She leaves them with her sister every day and most nights. She refuses to work and any money she gets she sends straight to him. Her sister is being forced to pay for the childrens food and even the rent. Her sister is extremely upset by this but fears what the family will do if she trys anything. Should I report her to srs? Her kids have been stripped from her before for neglect and now she's doing it all over again.
2006-10-19 11:14:27 · 15 answers · asked by Chelle's Belle 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Her sister does take care of them well but me and her have talked about it and we do see it as neglect. If she were to actually care for her kids when she was around it would be different, but she hardly even looks at them and if they ask for food she sends them to her sister. Whats worse is that they have a 2 month old and the baby doesn't even recognise her mother and won't let her touch her. I have known her for years and she has always put herself before her kids but now she has taken it too far.
2006-10-19 11:25:56 · update #1
Yes you should report her. That is no way to be a mother. she should take care of her children no matter what. there are all kinds of programs that can help if she is poor. but for the children sake i think you should report her right away. no child should have to grow up like that. :(((
2006-10-19 11:19:08 · answer #1 · answered by blah blah blah 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would report her. Children don't have a voice and can be seriously affected by abuse and neglect for the rest of their lives. We need to protect innocent children otherwise who else is going to? If you don't, you will feel guilty. Everything happens for a reason and you might be the reason down the road that these children are saved from neglect. If you were one of those children, would you want to live like that?
2006-10-19 11:23:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The children are more important than her anger. Talk to her sister- if the state gives them to her at least she will have some financial assistance while raising them. If she is willing to keep taking care of them call SRS. If they have to go to foster homes would it be better for them? If so do what you must to maintain their safety. What a terrible situation. Best of luck to you and the little ones.
2006-10-19 11:22:27 · answer #3 · answered by therealprinsess 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow thats so hard! Are the kids in danger? Does the sister look after them well? If she is a stable influence then I would say leave them there, but if not, and it is a danger then it would be a consideration. Its something you have to do what your heart tells you to do. No advice will give you the right thing to do, only you can do that. sorry!
2006-10-19 11:21:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would report her. There is no need for that. What have the kids ever done to her? Probably nothing. The kids are innocent. I'm sorry to hear about the situation. I Hope it gets better for the kids and the sister.
2006-10-19 15:41:39 · answer #5 · answered by Andy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Those poor children need to be protected and so you need to report what is going on. It's not like your friend is ignorant in this case, she has had her children taken before, so she should be even more careful now. I'm sorry to suggest this, but you do need to call social services.
2006-10-19 11:54:57 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
neglecting the kids is never acceptable. I can understand this young woman's position of having her husband deported (very well, actually...) but she needs to take care of her children. if she is sending her husband money that is fine, as it's very hard to live in mexico and he might really need help, but she should only send it AFTER her children's needs have been met. as far as you are concerned, I don't think you should interfere. it's the sister who needs to put her foot down.
2006-10-19 11:19:30 · answer #7 · answered by advicemom 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Report her. If the sister is caring for them, they may leave them in her care. Then, at least, the sister can get some assistance in paying for things.
2006-10-19 11:23:14 · answer #8 · answered by Tracy S 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is her children to raise and as long as she isn't leaving them by themselves, or beating them, etc then you have no right to call cps. You may not like what you are hearing, but I suggest you stay out of that and break off any realtionship to this person. This sister of hers is the one that needs to make that decision on whether they are being neglected.
2006-10-19 11:19:17 · answer #9 · answered by hehmommy 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that you should call because these childern are being neglected and maybe they will be better off actually they will be better off.
Just think about it before making the call, is it really that bad? If it is then I would suggest you do it right away... Good Luck!!!!
2006-10-19 11:21:35 · answer #10 · answered by Vicky 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋