today my dad was asking me to go for a ride with him, i went back and fourth a few times, then said yes in the end... when he was heading for the door calling, r u ready? i didnt answer. he asked again u wanna come? i didnt answer i just ingnored him and kept doing what i was doing... when i was ready i got up towards the door. he looked dissapointed. i feel like this changed the whole relatoinship. is this possible. i know this was a sin. i know it sounds like im making a big deal out of nothing but i knew what i was doing and it was wrong, and now i feel like a different person and how can i be forgiven or change this and go back to listening to my parents, what do i do?... the car ride was ackward, we couldnt related to eachtoher anymore...it just didnt feel like i was with my dad anymore.... :(... hve i commited a terrible sin. how can i fix this?
2006-10-19 11:11:41 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Hey man. It's good to hear from a kid who has a heart to follow the Lord. This is a SIMPLE one to deal with. 1) Ask God for forgiveness 2) Write out your thoughts EXACTLY as you wrote them here and let your dad read it. Then ask his forgiveness. Your relationship will be STRONGER than ever before.
2006-10-19 11:23:00 · answer #1 · answered by yagman 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad asked you to go on a ride. You didn't want to.
The question is why, or why not?
you didn't state where he was going, and why you wouldn't want to go. Are there reasons why you wouldn't want to?
further, assuming that it was just a ride, and nothing more, ie, to go someplace you didnt want to, perhaps a movie, shopping, church, school, I assume you just didnt want to. The where may impact any answer.
Again, assuming it was just time with dad, you state, "But I knew what I was doing and it was wrong". What were you doing? Were you doing drugs, looking at porn, just hoping he would go away, and leave you alone?
Sometimes, people need their space. I don't think it's a sin to want your space, and be alone.
If you were intentionally trying to hurt your dad, you should ask yourself "Why?" Then, I would go and talk to him, and explain this to him.
One other thing you did not state was your relationship with your dad. Are you visiting him, have you known him all your life, or most of it? Is he your biological dad? Do you resent him?
As you can see, there are many factors as to why you might have reacted as you did. Maybe you are just a jerk. Maybe he is a jerk. Maybe there was nothing more to it than you just needed space. Only you know what happened, and why. But, again, i'd be honest with myself, and then go from there. Don't judge yourself because he placed unwarranted guilt; and, dont justify yourself, if you were in the wrong.
Then, learn from it, and grow.
2006-10-19 18:31:01 · answer #2 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be such a drama queen about something so stupid. If that is a sin then you got a sucky god that let's everything bother him. Even your childish drivel if it offends god must make him not worthy of being a god. This question is a typical example of how foolish religion is and how it keeps us from functioning like a human that was supposedly given free will. You were exercising free will not sin. If it is proven by god that you have sinned then you should be tied to a plywood cross and hung from the rafters in your garage for several hours. A simple plywood cross can be made with velcro strips to secure your arms, body and legs in a jesus like pose and then suspended by a simple pulley system. This will display a sinner in it's proper environment and bring some discomfort and humility so that you will sin less.
2006-10-19 18:43:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask God for forgiveness and help in talking with your Dad in this situation. God wants peace in all of our relationships and not war. So, go to God and then go and apoligize to your Dad for what you did and ask your Dad to forgive you for your behavior against him.
2006-10-19 18:20:44 · answer #4 · answered by marcyfiorica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow.
You are taking this way to seriously. Your Dad too or he is just thinking you are being a kid and doesn't find the silence ackward at all.
2006-10-19 18:14:30 · answer #5 · answered by missgigglebunny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just ask GOD for forgivness he knows your heart and he will forgive you if you ask him.
2006-10-19 18:16:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, me too.
2006-10-19 18:19:20 · answer #7 · answered by Maus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋