I am 18 and in love with a guy who will most likely go to jail for Vehicular homicide was not done on purpose he was just trying to scare the girl as a joke.I really still love him and feel heartbroken will i ever get over this?When will i stop feeling this way? my mom says i will just forget him and this will just be a bad memory and i will find someone else better but i dont think i ever will.
2006-10-19 11:06:28 · 13 answers · asked by Kayla R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My mom says she does not want me to have anymore contact with him and no letters to prison either while i live under her roof!
2006-10-19 11:22:31 · update #1
here's how it is...absence makes the heart grow fonder....as in the first few weeks he's away from you, it's gonna be like someone tore out your heart and it left a gaping yearning hole in your chest...you'll miss him like crazy, think about him 24.7, and wanna die.
but then out of sight, out of mind kicks in....you'll eventually move on. you'll get busy with school, work, life, whatever and it'll be like he's at the back of your mind and then eventually out of your mind.
how quickly this happens is up to you..if you keep fighting and thinking about him and dwelling and obsessing it can take years...if you just let it be and move on it'll take a few weeks.
good luck.
2006-10-19 11:13:14 · answer #1 · answered by tell_me_whos_sleeping_with_who 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not a switch that you can turn on and off. If it was, love would be a hell of a lot easier.
If you do move on, it will take some time, but you will get over him and find someone else. To help you along, maybe you can talk to that girls family and see what kind of damage his little 'accident' has really done.
2006-10-19 18:10:24 · answer #2 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about how to fall out of love with him becasue you eventually will. The imortant thing is that you need to understand that most of us love somone that we can't ever be with. It is obvious that you can't be with somone who is in deep trouble. And geesh.....so what if he didn't mean to kill someone...he did.You need to be with someone who doesn't feel they need to scare someone. Big point here is that just becasue you love someone doesn't mean you can be with him. It is obvious that you love him and it is obvious that he is trouble.
Yes, your mom is right, as time goes on your feelings will change. It is important for you to realize that you will love again.
And more important that you carefully choose who you hang out with. If you hang out with a guy who FEELS like he needs to scare someone as a joke..with a car. Geesh that isn't a matrue guy.
Spend some time what you want in a guy. More important make a list of things you DON't want in a guy, then stick to it.
For instance I don't want a man who is violent, or has a history of cheating or does drugs. It doesn't matter how charming a guy is, if they have a flaw that is too big, then you honor yourself and find someone who has the quality that you look for and need.
You have many years ahead of you. Honor yourself and know that you are worthy of a great guy.
2006-10-19 18:17:04 · answer #3 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can never fall out of love, it would be a total contradiction,but there is a difference in being in love, and loving someone.I am 43 years old and married two times. said never again then this summer I met my third wife. I still love both my xxx's but not in love with them sweetheart you will see as you get older you will have many chances at love and heart break you dint fall out of love but once you know what being in love with a person means you will see.as for me I knew .when the first thought you have as you awake, is of that person and the very last thought you have just before you drift off is of that person that is being in love.Its different for every one.you may hurt now but you will live to love again and each time you get better at it.sorry for your pain my prayers are with you,.
2006-10-19 18:13:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The situation is very sad for the girl's family, your boyfriend and his family, and for you. But as sad as it is, your boyfriend made a bad decision, that he is going to have to live with. Give yourself time. You are young with a future in front of you, that you can either make it the best and do something that will be satisfactory for you, or you can choose the path going nowhere, trying to keep him in your life, which as long as he is in prison, will be of no benefit for either of you. I hope you choose to take the right path, for yourself and your future.
2006-10-19 18:23:11 · answer #5 · answered by kayboff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still young and you will find someone else or they'll find you. It's not easy "getting over" love as you called it. Sometimes one never does and just lives with it in their mind, heart,soul and whole being forever and alone......
2006-10-19 18:11:52 · answer #6 · answered by silhouette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I fell in love and the girl broke up with me. i thought i was never going to get over her but before i knew it she was out of my mind and dating again. Just give it time you'll forget about him.
2006-10-19 18:11:49 · answer #7 · answered by east_sidevato 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont think of it as finding someone better..Thats not it. you are 18 right? i think its time for you to concintrate on you! his future is already marked out for him for awhile. its time for you to move on. you can always have love for him and write to him but you have your life ahead of you and there will be the right one for you. i dont think he is because if he were this would not have happend. i beleive that . you should get busy living and thinking about you. and if he cares about you he will tell you the same. good luck
2006-10-19 18:13:42 · answer #8 · answered by cult45 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Name your bed "Love", flop on it and roll over a few times.
2006-10-19 18:08:17 · answer #9 · answered by eantaelor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hit him in the gut with a salammi
2006-10-19 18:10:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋