Need advice from people who had long term relationships.?

Question

I was in a long term relationship for 6 years. She was my first g/f and we were together for a long time. We were engaged and were getting ready for marriage when I stopped having feelings for her and ended things. That was a year and a half ago. I've since met other women and none of them have really done anything for me.

Only one other girl ever ignited any kind of emotion within me but she's made it clear her and I will never be.

Other than that, I can't ever see myself in a relationship with anyone but my ex. I can never see myself kissing anyone else. I can never see myself singing a song to any other bride at my wedding. I miss putting my hand around her waist. We never had sex, but I can't see myself having sex with anyone but her. I can't see myself having kids with anyone else. But I still don't think i'm back in love with her.

Am I just missing her so much because she was the only one I'd ever been in a relationship with? Or am I in love with her?

I dont think I got scared. And she's around...we've been in close contact since the breakup...we're pretty good friends and she's made it clear that she's still got feelings for me, so if i want her back, i think i can have her.

Answer 1

Make sure that she is what you really want as you are not just going back to the old thing that you had before. Their is a reason on why you broke it off with her the first time. I am just talking from my own past experiences. "What you can't get is what you usually go for then after you have it, you don't seem to want it anymore.

Answer 2

I think that you love her. You probably got scared and that's why you backed out. You should get in touch with her and see what she is doing.

Answer 3

Life is so complicated….don’t you think?