my sos is 2 yrs old i work full time and well i feel like the only way i can make up for leaving him is by buying him stuff. the thing is that sadly to say he is turning into a lil spoiled brat, he expects me to jump at his every need.....and i know its my fault but is there any way i can undo this behavior?
2006-10-19 10:57:15 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
No you're not bringing him up right--at least not in that aspect. Yes there's a way to undo his behavior--stop buying him stuff, don't give into his wants, and don't be afraid to say "no!" He's 2 yrs. old and already mastered how to win mom over. Imagine how he'll be at 5 or 6. You better put an end to it now before it gets worse.
2006-10-19 10:59:55 · answer #1 · answered by CelebrateMeHome 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It won't be easy but you've got to learn to replace the money you are spending ON him with time spent WITH him. This can be accomplished in several ways. When he gets up in the morning and is getting ready for day care, have him help make his bed and tidy the house up before you leave. If you have an hour lunch and the day care is near your work why not stop in and have lunch with your son at day care? Or take him outside and sit on the lawn with lunch. Once home let him help prepare dinner with you. He can wash veggies, set the table (no knives though), he can set out the condiments, place napkins near the plates. After dinner let him help with the clean up (my daughter LOVED to "wash" the dishes when she was about 2). On weekends when doing the household chores enlist his "help" give him a dust rag and let him "dust" the furniture. Show him how to pick up and put away his toys, clothes. He can help carry things to the laundry and he is capeable of folding and putting away his own laundry, however don't expect perfection. During all of these "together" times you can sing, tell silly stories or jokes and just enjoy being together. It's not the money you spend on him that is going to make a difference in the years to come but the time you spen with him that will make that difference.
2006-10-19 22:47:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't buy him love. My mom did that for years and it didn't make us love her more. If you think he is turning into a spoiled brat then you need to stop. There are so many other ways to show him your love. Of course he expects you to be there %100 because you are at work. Make weekends very special and give him one on one attention without buying toys. Go to the park, play with him etc. My mom was a full time working mom and we missed out alot because she was the only one to provide financially. Kids need you not toys.
2006-10-19 18:28:08 · answer #3 · answered by sally 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you are most definetly doing things right by being concerned and caring for your son. Now, everything has a solution so don't worry. First, you have to stop buying him stuff all the time, yes, he will be upset, mad and make a fuss like all kids tend to do. But remember its for his own good, this will make him value and appreciate things more, and when you do buy him stuff, he will appreciate it. Little kids catch on quickly, you have to be firm, tough love may be required, but well worth it. He will love you so much for it. =) Good luck. God Bless..
2006-10-19 18:04:14 · answer #4 · answered by latina ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
set boundaries, those little tots are sharper than you think, no means no, crying in public means we drop everything and go home. When you say no tell him 3 times than stay silent, Trust me they have the manipulation factor down sharp. They are smarter than we think. Don't react to everything and try to make them happy, imagine the terror he will become at 16. My best firend is a brat, and she spoke to her parents horribly, and they spoiled her horribly, now she is a 24 yr old brat. Sometimes she even annoys me. "a stitch in time saves nine" , nip it in the bud before your friends avoid U and your kid.
2006-10-19 18:09:56 · answer #5 · answered by humdrum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not. You're buying him things out of guilt to make up for not being there with him and for him.
When you come in the door, spend a few minutes with him doing what he wants, whether playing with toys, a book, or holding him and rocking him. Kids just want our time.
2006-10-19 18:42:41 · answer #6 · answered by cowgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you have time, play games, read books, etc. Spend time with him instead of buying him things. I too work full time, it's normal to feel a little guilty about not seeing your child as often as you'd like to. Good luck!!
2006-10-19 18:01:49 · answer #7 · answered by missyhardt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its not like u can explain to him and he understands, you gotta undo what u did. Let me say this, atleast he's young now and not older as to where it would be harder cause you would have already been doing it for years. Its all about making your child see that your the parent and their the "kid".
And guess what??????????? I don't even have any, I would love to though!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-19 18:05:35 · answer #8 · answered by SWEETNISSS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to have to stop buying him stuff, and In your spare time play games, read books, go to the park, spend quality time, he is going to have a hard to adjusting, but he will get over, it, you better stop while you are ahead, because its only going to get worse.
2006-10-19 18:07:11 · answer #9 · answered by Teaza19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No means No!!! Stand your ground and he will learn who's boss. Don't feel you need to buy his love--just fill it with extra hugs, kisses, and lots of extra playtime.
2006-10-19 18:57:01 · answer #10 · answered by heavnbound 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋