that old ***** turned my 65pounds boy into a 254pounds boy!did i mention that my son is 7?!my company send me overbroad for 6 mounths so i had her keep my son,when i came back i found him fat and now i can control him!he always wants more and when i say no he says he loves her more!i tried put him on a diet but she would come to his school and give him candy,cookies,cheesbergers only to love her more and makes me the bad guy!now,i don't allow her see my son amymore,but this is wrong!i don't wanna be a bad mother or a bad person but that woman crossed the line!don't you think?i don't know what to do any more!my son cries and overeat all day because of her!please help!
2006-10-19 10:50:42 · 11 answers · asked by barbara 1 in Health ➔ Diet & Fitness
I find it hard to believe that your son gained almost 200 lbs in 6 months. If this is true, a trip to his doctor is in order. He most certainly has a glandular disorder. Let his doctor be the bad guy and put him on a diet that you stick to for his health. Get him interested in physical activities that are fun. You and him can have a race in the park, play ball, go to the play ground. Did she cross the line...NO. She indulges him because she loves him. She did you a big favor to watch him for 6 months. Find out the real reason he gained so much and don't point fingers till you do.
Good luck.
2006-10-19 11:04:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume you mean mother in law, not low.
First of all, keep him away from her. She has no regard for your parenting philosophy. Don't feel bad about it either, you priority is the health and well being of your child, not her.
Second, don't relinquish control to your child. Your child is trying to manipulate the situation and you're falling for it. You are the parent, not his servant. Knowing how to say no is your responsibility as a parent, quit being so afraid to say it. It's your job. What makes you think that being the parent means always being the buddy or the good guy?
Your son can't eat or overeat if the bad food isn't in your house. Stick to your guns, your child will thank you later.
2006-10-19 17:58:48 · answer #2 · answered by Janet H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't blame your mother in LAW for your son's obesity. Take control of the situation as the parent. Where is your childs Father? Why didn't the school stop the food being dropped off? Stopping
him from seeing her after she raised him for 6 months is going to cause him to act out more. Take control of the situation stop being afraid to be a parent. Look into child obesity programs.
2006-10-19 18:01:10 · answer #3 · answered by Magalicious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mother just bring toys or something useful. Tell her you dont want to have a next generation of high cholestrol, diabetic, diseased, and infectious hard-to-cure type of generation. Tell her to bring him healthy foods, and cut off or limit all the harmful ingredients. Let him excerise and its your son, so you have the power to control your son not your mother-in-LAW.
Problem: Your son will be sad, but treat him about you still love him and you dont want him to get fat. Tell him the consequences he might face in the future like people harassing him in the future, or he has no or little friends, and he'll he sad for his rest of his life. He'll be in a point of where he wont be married and wants to die.
Have fun! and Good Luck!
2006-10-19 18:01:50 · answer #4 · answered by Red Panda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your the mother and you need to put your foot down throw all the junk food out get him outside playing and excercising and you need to speak to your mother in law and she needs to respect you and if she doesnt he needs to spend less time with him and your son still loves you and will always love you but I would put and end to that also him making threats like that he loves her more and you need to explain that does not mean she loves him more maybe you should show him pictures of healthy hearts and unhealty hearts and stuff like that to see that is not love and you can make it to where he just eats junk food a grandmas but at home you have him eat a balance meal because grandparents just want to spoil there children so you guys will need to discuss that
but what does dad think?
2006-10-19 18:03:56 · answer #5 · answered by Jaime T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A 254 pound 7 year old...this I gotta see. Post a pic.
2006-10-19 17:58:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's sad what she has done, but ultrasad that you chose leaving your son in someone else's care for 6 months while you were out working.
2006-10-19 17:58:53 · answer #7 · answered by cherub2031 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is he really 254 pounds? I'm surprised he hasn't suffered from a heart attack yet. All you can do is tell him that junk food isn't healthy and he needs to exercise.
2006-10-19 18:01:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you tried telling her not to give him all that??if yes then keep him away from her and make him exercise...7 and 254 pounds???you're kidding right???
2006-10-19 17:59:08 · answer #9 · answered by luiz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don'tlet your mother in LOW (Law) take care of him
2006-10-19 17:54:34 · answer #10 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋