I asked this question yesterday and got great responses so I am reasking to see who else has an opinion....
Would you rather be with a guy that gives you gifts, money and whatever other material possesions you need but he only wants you for sex.... (basically a sugar daddy)
or ......
Would you rather be with a guy that ignores you doesn't appreciate you, doesn't give you gifts or anything but says he loves you
Please pick one or the other and give a reason why you made your choice
I dont want anyone to get the wrong idea abt me...I am neither of the choices given...the question just popped in my head and I thought it would be a good question to get a rise out of people and really make them think about what's more important hearing the words "I love you" or a good time with no commitment.
2006-10-19 10:45:34 · 29 answers · asked by geom1974 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The second guy. If I must have a relationship with a guy, I'd want it to be as casual as possible. In fact, I wouldn't even want him to be in love with me — a FwB, yes, but nothing more than that. a sugar daddy would just make me feel inadequate, which is the worst feeling in the world, if you ask me.
2006-10-19 13:07:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd rather have a guy who is in the middle... I don't want a sugary daddy, but I don't want someone who doesn't appreciate me either. If I had to choose one of the choices you gave, then I would choose the sugar daddy because like I said, I want someone who appreicates me and won't ignore me.
lol actually, after reading Violet Purple's answer.... I'd rather be single then date either of the two guys you described.
2006-10-19 10:49:53 · answer #2 · answered by Green-eyed Nikki 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give me the "sugar daddy" cause the guy who doesn't appreciate you and just "says" he loves you doesn't. When you love someone you show it. At least with the 'big daddy' you get something! And....no...I'm not a material person. I'd really want a man who would love me and show it. Godloveya!
2006-10-19 10:49:18 · answer #3 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is an interesting question, not because of what it asks but rather what it reveals of the asker. I can tell that you are an individual who lives within the realm of extremities; there is no median but rather a pendulum that swings one way or another : ). Am I reading you correctly?
Given this drastic scenario, I would have to say that I'd rather be celibate and work for my own money. I'm not interested in men for what they can give me but rather how we can compliment and complete one another. A man who says he loves you but doesn't demonstrate it through his actions is just towing the party line - nothing of value there either.
One things for sure, I wouldn't settle just to be with someone.
Ciao
2006-10-19 10:54:31 · answer #4 · answered by Ich*Liebe*deutchrock 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guy 1 is for whores. They accept money and gifts in exchange for sex. That's called prostitution.
Guy 2 is for morons. Why be with some jerk who ignores you yet claims this is love?
Given the 2 choices, I'd be single.
2006-10-19 10:49:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i will say the second choice, this is because I'm not a material girl, i go for commitment- someone who will be with me and not with every other girl, now gift is great, but having him say "i love you" and meaning it is more than i can ask for-because he said it straight from the heart. So to answer your question i will most definite chose the guy who doesn't lather me up with gifts and tells me he loves me
2006-10-19 10:51:46 · answer #6 · answered by Mimi A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if the day ever comes that my husband was not living anymore i would want a sugar daddy
i believe in only one mate for the rest of you life
one love in a lifetime in eternity
he is my soulmate and if he were gone no one would be in my heart like him so the emotional dynamics of having a sugar daddy would be fitting
nothing just everything physical that has nothing to really do with the intimate and personal commitment with the one you vowed yourself to be binded with
a woman has needs but it would be just to make it easier and the gifts would be a plus but would not have the same meaning and value from the one you ewould be with if not for their loss
2006-10-19 10:55:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow that is a hard decision because I just got out the situation where I wasn't apperciated and was told I love you on numerous occassions and didn't appreciate it but I staied for a year in misery and the first makes you seem like a gold digger and thats not me but I would have to say that I would go with the first one because at least I'm feeling appreciated if just for the sex.
2006-10-19 10:52:28 · answer #8 · answered by Ms Drea 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well....I'm living the second option right now.lol .for the last 7 years...drives me nuts and I think there has got to be something better than this. I think having a sugar daddy would be fun for a while, but that would get boring too....gosh...can I try the sugar daddy thing for a while and I'll get back to ya?
2006-10-19 10:53:57 · answer #9 · answered by dozertank 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll take a happy medium, please...
I love little gifts and gestures of affection that shows he cares, but a sugar daddy ain't worth my time; I want a man who means it when he says he loves me and doesn't just want my body.
My heart is no toy and it will not be treated as such
2006-10-19 10:49:29 · answer #10 · answered by Ayumi 23 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋