My boyfried drinks a lot. I don't know what to do! I love him but I don't have very fond memories of people drinking a lot because of my childhood. I've talked to him about it but he doesn't seem to care. What should I do?
2006-10-19 10:39:17 · 27 answers · asked by bsbabygurl6988 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
try to express yourself more and more to him. how much you hate drinking and what will you do in the future.
2006-10-19 10:41:56 · answer #1 · answered by RIMAZ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is a serious problem....it will always be there. You have two choices either deal with it and go to therapy for your memories....or leave him. Trust me I was in your shoes 10 yrs ago and I married him. He still is a drinker. Now 4 kids later I wouldnt change anything but his drinking. Did I make the right choice 10 yrs ago? I dont know but I look at my 4 kids and would have to say yes. Good luck!
2006-10-19 10:42:59 · answer #2 · answered by Missy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure how long you have been together but I wouldn't just walk out on him. He may need a few pushes. I did. It took me 3 yrs of everyday drinking to finally stop. It will become a problem. You need to let him know how you feel about this. He has to at least try for you and himself. If he's not ready then you know what you need to do. I'm thankful my husband put up with my ****. But some people don't have that kind of patience. Good luck..L
2006-10-19 10:45:32 · answer #3 · answered by ben and lisa h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much is a lot? Fridays and Saturdays? Or everynight?
Drinking on the weekends is something you're going to have to come to terms with, it's normal, and it's not a lot. More than 3 or 4 nights a week is when you have a right to tell him to slow down - for his own good.
2006-10-19 10:42:14 · answer #4 · answered by HoneyLegs 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have two solutions
1. you can either accept that he drinks and at this time has no inclination of changing.
2 or leave him and not just because he won't change but because he dosent seem that he respects you
In either case before you decide, talk to him and be sure to fully explain why you feel the way that you do.
2006-10-19 10:44:23 · answer #5 · answered by dreson k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If hes not even gonna take into consideration your opinion... he doesn't care about you enough anyways, and it could also show that he doesn't care about his drinking and it's gonna throw u back into the same situation u've been in before whether w/ family or friends or other relationships. I think you need to consider that he may not be for u if he's not willing atleast to compromise or take it seriously.
2006-10-19 10:42:05 · answer #6 · answered by Beyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough thing to go through.
And I know it.
But, if he dosen't care enough to stop drinking, then mabye you should find another man.
Have you tried talking about therapy with him?
Try If You didn't.
The 2 of you Might be able to get through this together.
Regards,
Noodle
2006-10-19 10:42:39 · answer #7 · answered by My Chemical Romance= Love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone else that drinks as much as you do or let it go. If he does not do what you remember from your childhood memories then I would not worry about it.
2006-10-19 10:47:29 · answer #8 · answered by omvg1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he seems not to care about himself or you so I would do this. Give him the benefit and try to help him somehow. Then let him know that your not going to take those actions much longer and once he does nothing again then leave his a$$.
Just know you tried to help and you gave him a chance.
2006-10-19 10:42:10 · answer #9 · answered by DLB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is a serious problem for you, then he should be man enough to face it. Check out the website for Alcoholics Anonymous for advice on what to do and whether or not he has a real problem.
2006-10-19 10:40:58 · answer #10 · answered by politechaos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is he still your boyfriend? You are not his wife or his mother and you are trying to fix a situation that shouldn't be your problem at this time in your life unless he is drinking and driving. Are you in the habit of fixing losers?
2006-10-19 10:42:00 · answer #11 · answered by gina 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋