I am recently divorced, was hurt and let down for nearly the complete 7 years of marriage and now I am happily single. My dilemma is I have options but I am really attracted and want the man that has 6 kids 4 baby mothers, keeps a minimum job and does not mind begging for money. I have told him I do not want a relationship with him because I know he is not the committment type but feel myself slowly but surely falling for him. He has been honest with me and answers all my questions but I know that is why I am attracted to him, because I did not have that in my marriage. He is also a Christian, not devoted, but I can see the potential of so much in him.(Sad as it sounds, I know I am crazy). I like being able to help or take care of my spouse but I am not going to put my family in jeopardy for him. I can answer this question myself, but I know what he is because he has told me and that has alot of merit, the truth.
2006-10-19 10:38:50 · 12 answers · asked by "Red" 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What's wrong with you? Girl, please! You are recently divorced, so you are in panic mode because you are afraid that you will never find anyone else that will want you and you are thinking about hooking up with the first useless user that has crossed your path. THIS IS NOT THE MAN FOR YOU! And he is NOT a "Christian". He is a scrub. You are not falling for him, you are horny. Be patient, be grown, take your time, and find a real quality man.
2006-10-19 10:45:52 · answer #1 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah, thats what us women do, huh? We see the good inside a man and wait patiently for that good to grow stronger. I've been married 14 years to a "good man" who makes poor choices. I always told myself that I never wanted to be the type of person who gave up on someone else. My marriage evolved into a more mother/son relationship than a husband/wife relationship as I "nurtured" him. It has taken me 14 years to finally realize that I may be 80 before I see him fully develop into the man I know he can be. But do I really want to spend the next 50 years cleaning up his mistakes, guiding him like a mother figure and generally feeling lonely for a mutually respectful and loving relationship?
I know you want to see the good in him and be there to see him mature, but his past actions are the best "crystal ball" for how he will behave in the future. You are obviously a smart woman, or you wouldn't be questioning this. You can probably clearly see what heartaches and pitfalls lie ahead in a future with him. If you are willing to pay that price, then follow your heart. But I would suggest that you love yourself enough to know that you deserve a man who has already matured.
Good luck to you.
2006-10-19 10:55:14 · answer #2 · answered by Semi-charmed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Help him if you desire. Don't fall for his crap and be careful not to let your own family down. He might change, he might not. I ask you is he worth the effort it will take? The decision is up to you. Make it a good one.
What does 6 kids 4 baby mothers mean anyway?
2006-10-19 10:44:28 · answer #3 · answered by omvg1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, just because he answers your questions doesn't mean its a good thing. I bet you feel that since he answers your questions that somehow your different then all the other women before you. He has 6 kids with 4 women for god sake. Your setting yourself up for heartache for sure. Dont do it or you will look back with many regrets. The signs are all there. Please dont overlook them.
2006-10-19 10:43:18 · answer #4 · answered by JustMe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Play the Playa!
Make a bonafide sex slave out of his sorry a s s .
Make his face look like a glazed doughnut on a daily basis, but don't let him have actual sex with you. He want's to be an irresponsible, worthless little boy toy, so give him what he wants, and treat him like crap. It'll be fun!
2006-10-19 10:46:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop torturing yourself! You are falling into the same pattern with your men. Find a devoted christian. Maybe he is just using that as a ploy to suck you in.
2006-10-19 10:42:52 · answer #6 · answered by mama 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he grew to become into possibly insulted which you have been looking him up at school database...who're you inspector device? He pronounced that he mandatory to replace it via fact no longer all people is on facebook religiously. he's possibly a pupil who doesnt prefer to pass out with some psycho chick with have faith matters.
2016-11-23 19:54:40 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a player....please stay away!!!
2006-10-19 10:41:02 · answer #8 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
forget him u might regret in future
2006-10-19 10:42:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
enjoy it it wont las t for ever
2006-10-19 10:40:49 · answer #10 · answered by tomtoride 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋