her dogs,cats, and birds a lot more she said. how do i get my mom 2 love my kids,
2006-10-19 10:34:14 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You won't get her to like kids, it's just the way she is. Limit the time with Grandma and find another loved one for the kids to get that special nurturing from. Just because she gave birth, doesn't mean she likes kids. I've said it before, the term "mother" is not synomous with "perfect".
2006-10-19 12:09:40 · answer #1 · answered by Mo the treehugger! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might feel the same way when you get to your mother's place in life. Raising a family and taking care of responsibilities take a toll on a woman. She has always put herself last and now that the kids are grown, she can do what she wants to do. I'm sure your mother loves your children. Being a grandmother has it's priviledges, like not having to watch or listen to the noisey little suckers if she doesn't want to. If you're worrying about your mother loving your children, you might be seeking her approval because you don't feel adequate or you are feeling unloved yourself. Enjoy your kids! Find yourself and your "calling" in other ways instead of demanding your mom interact with the kids more than she is comfortable with. She will come around when you stop pressuring her. Also, maybe she would be better with them one-on-one. As they get older, she might be more interested. In the meantime, let her decide how she spends her time with your children and be open about it. Don't expect her to drop everything for them or you. She loves you all....and she needs some down time right now. Give her some space! Godloveya!
2006-10-19 17:43:00 · answer #2 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot make anyone love or even like someone else.
I am so sorry for you, your kids and your mother, that she doesn't want to know the joy of being a grandmother.
She sounds like a person who has been hurt so much she doesn't want any one in her "circle." It sounds like she is pusnishing you or taunting you to say she loves her animals more than her own flesh and blood. There must be some conflict there.
Animals are safer to give your time and attention to, because the only way they disappoint you is to die. Otherwise they can take your love and affection and give back total devotion.
My granddaughter and I have a special relationship, close, cuddly and funny. She says I am her favorite grandma and she has 4 to choose from.
She comes to my house to spend the night and we do origami and play poker. She is 7, and we are best pals.
I wouldn't trade my experince of her for anything. It is wonderful watching her turn into a wonderful person, and knowing that I am helping her to feel loved and secure.
Your mother is missing out. Your kids are missing out, too.
You might try sending grandma pictures of your kids, or pictures that your kids draw with hearts and flowers on them. If she lives in town, you might send her an invitation to a party and have the kids on their best behavior have a tea party with you and grandma. Serve real food and let her go home as soon as she has had enough. Don't try to make her feel guilty or bothered or jealous.
She can't give you what she doesn't have.
Tell your children to be patient with grandma and try to understand that she is ill. Treat her like she is a mental case, because MOST people would at least TRY to love their grands.
If all else fails, adopt a grandmother from your church or neighborhood, and let HER be the one to dote on your kids.
2006-10-19 17:56:26 · answer #3 · answered by Lottie W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have a mother like yours, I'm 53 now and the oldest of 5 children....my mother should never have been a mother.... no abuse but total neglect....I havnt seen her now for 12 years and probably thats how it'l stay but I'm not bothered....your mother will never change if she came out with that statement....dont waste your time....give your children double the love for her....
2006-10-19 17:40:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that your kids are her blood and that they came from her.
Tell her that there is nothing more innocent than a child because a child does not do wrong and does not know how to cheat or lie.
Tell her that children are the future
2006-10-19 17:38:36 · answer #5 · answered by Mr Business 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she must of liked children at one time, she had you.i am wondering how old your mother is. maybe she just has a hard time showing it or you are expecting to much,how did you and your mother get along when you were going up?
2006-10-19 17:43:53 · answer #6 · answered by wisdom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋