I drink every night, and get pretty tipsy. I work full time, it doesn't interupt anything. I excersice regulary. But, i just got a new boyfriend who definatley does not drink every day, and I don't want this relationship to be clouded by alcohol either. I can not act open enough with out the booze. What do I do please? I do really need advice.
2006-10-19 10:30:41 · 31 answers · asked by Bean 2 in Food & Drink ➔ Beer, Wine & Spirits
Thank you all for your concern. I guess I really needed to hear that. I promise my self I will not drink tonight. this will be the first night in years. Thank you
2006-10-19 10:39:40 · update #1
Girlfriend DON'T let alcohol run your life your obviosly drinking to help deal with some kind of pain or loneliness there is a bigger problem underneath the alcohol that really needs to be dealt with or the next thing you know you will be going to work drunk and can't function without the booze so un mask the real issue so you don't create another one its okay to have a drink in a social situation i do a lot but not everyday once a week at the most on the weekends with friends but when you can't open up to this new man without being drunk there must not be cemistry or something if you really like him get the other issue off your back stop drinking and open up i know its easier said than done but if you believe in yourself you can do it i've been there not with alcohol but with other stuff i stopped completely and i thougt i was gonna die but somehow i made it threw and once i stopped my life turned completly around you wouldn't believe me if i told you were my life was 8 months ago compared to now i just hope you get the strength to do it and believe me it helps to have close friends to talk to or family but if you don't have any of that you can talk to me and i'd be happy to listen and tell you my opion
2006-10-19 10:45:47 · answer #1 · answered by Kadie-bird 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Successful relationships are never based on hiding things from the other person. Sounds like you might be more compatible with a guy who has the same drinking habits you do. You'll both be a lot more comfortable.
You might want to consider cutting back, because when people say that they cannot do something "without the booze" that might be a red flag there.
2006-10-19 17:37:33 · answer #2 · answered by Lee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a case like this just asking is a sign you may have a problem. You should think about trying to be around him without drinking to see if you 2 still click. Otherwise you maynot be compatable unless you drink.
Reguardless of all the experts having a drink or 2 in moderation isn't so bad. If you have a 2nd personality when you drink and get out of hand then you may want to think about stopping.
2006-10-19 17:42:18 · answer #3 · answered by Scott 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you have a light case of social anxiety and you're just using the alcohol to self-medicate which is something I did for years but I had severe anxiety. Then I went to my family doctor and told him that I was having problems with anxiety and I told him that I had to drink to lower my inhibitions and function in society. After that he wrote me a prescription for this medicine called Ativan (Lorazepam) and I thought it would be a lot better to take a couple of pills rather than have 2 or 3 beers before going to class or going to work. Boy was I wrong! I had no ideal that Ativan was very addictive and that it was a "controlled substance". If I knew what I know now I would have stuck to drinking instead of taking pills. I don't work for Jim Beam, and I'm not encouraging anyone to drink, but it's a whole lot better than becoming addicted to Benzos.
2006-10-19 18:28:40 · answer #4 · answered by fordfan444 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear, you definitely have a drinking problem, you may or may not be an alcoholic yet. If you are you will not be able to stop by yourself. don't be alarmed there is help, there is a solution. read the book Alcoholics Anonymous, if you are not sure if you are an alcoholic then try some controlled drinking, try to stop for a month. even if you can you may still be an alcoholic... be careful. Alcoholism is chronic and terminal... but there is hope... good luck
2006-10-19 17:35:22 · answer #5 · answered by robtiger2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are drinking every night and drinking alone then you do have a drinking problem. It will only continue to get worse because you will need more and more to feel the same "open" feeling you get now. You should seek help immediately. Talk to your new boyfriend maybe he can help you too.
2006-10-19 17:40:19 · answer #6 · answered by Ask Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One drink a night for women is probably about the most to have on a regular basis before you slip into other categories
If you need alcohol to act open, then you have a problem . . .
Talk to a counselor to start out with . . .and then explore other help resources in your area.
2006-10-19 17:34:55 · answer #7 · answered by a_blue_grey_mist 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you don't have a drinking problem, you have a dependency problem! You can't open up without booze? Is this really YOU? Try life with booze for awhile -- if you start falling apart, well, then you know you have a serious problem.
2006-10-19 22:25:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that maybe there's something in your life that you're trying to hide or avoid by drinking. I can't say for sure because there wasn't enough info, but maybe if you stay sober U can talk 2 your partner & open yourself up to him so that at the same time you're staying sober & bonding with him. Hope this helps
2006-10-19 18:06:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might have a drinking problem, but maybe more importantly you should look at the fact that your saying you can't act open enough without drinking. My advice to you is to re-examine why you are drinking, that may be the real issue
2006-10-19 17:46:07 · answer #10 · answered by kristen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋