For instance, my husband hasn't been gone two weeks and already the dishwasher has broken, changes had to be made to our lease. The last time he left, two weeks later I had to have a major sugery. Don't get me wrong I CAN handle these things, but it seems like they always happen during this time.
2006-10-19 10:11:27 · 12 answers · asked by Microbiology.girl 5 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
This is my second deployment and I have been through a couple of fexes (field exercises) so I'm not going crazy missing him or anything. I just wanted to know if I was the only one this happens too.
2006-10-19 10:46:11 · update #1
I can feel your pain. The day after my husband deployed my car's window stopped working, while it was open. Of course that part was not covered under the warranty and cost $340 to fix. Both of my porch lights have burned out. My garbage disposal caught on fire. My son has gotten in trouble 3 times at school. The topper, my dog had puppies which my neighbors tried to steal. He's only been gone 28 days. I hope things let up a little.
2006-10-19 10:21:46 · answer #1 · answered by sleepless in NC 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel alone! It happens to just about everyone ... I have dealt with six deployments/tdy's in the past eight years of service and something always happens. Usually it is my car breaking down. As for not missing him ... lots of wives feel that way. It is not uncommon. I think it is a protective reaction to your spouse being gone ... a way to protect your heart. As a spouse you will deal with more separation than you know, but it's up to you and your spouse whether you let it make you or break you. Over the years, my husband and I have come to look at these separations as a way to fine tune our communication skills. If you take the day-to-day activities and the sex away -- well communication is all you have left. Even if it's only by email or phone calls once a week. Personally, our marriage is stronger for it. We understand each other on a deeper level and have a lot more respect for one another ... and he's definitely more sensitive to what I go through when he is gone now too.
2006-10-20 00:08:21 · answer #2 · answered by sgtleone1201 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is exactly what happens. You are so busy the weeks prior, preparing for the deployment. Making sure you have the POA(power-of-attorney), all the finances in order, gathering everything needed for deployment, and trying to get as much family time in as possible. Then the spouse is gone and you feel things are going to go smoothly. That is just so wrong, because Murphy's Law (if it can go wrong, it will) takes hold of your life. Hang in there, it will get better. If you need help please remember to ask your husbands unit, the Family Support Center, and the Chaplain if necessary. The legal office should help you with legal documents such as your lease. The American Red Cross at your installation can help you with problems arising from the situations such as surgery. Remember those left behind are suppose to help the families of those deployed.
2006-10-19 10:39:33 · answer #3 · answered by student 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand you, I know exactly where you are coming from but as you know things get better in time.. Keep your head up.. Continue to be encouraged.. And I wish you the best of luck.. I have like 4 months before my husband comes home... At one point I thought time was flying, now the closer it gets I think time be at a stand still.... However, I wish you luck , if you ever need a friend or someone to talk to hit me up... Know matter what part of the branch there in.. Were all one big family......
Good luck........
2006-10-20 07:30:36 · answer #4 · answered by The'Truth 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes everything does go wrong when they leave. I went home after my hubby left and things there went wrong. Then when he was on his way home for his R&R I was in the hospital and I was freaking out because I was sick the whole time he was home. Also my car had to have alot of work done to it a few days before and that cost us a pretty penny. After he went back I was still sick and in and out of the hospital. Now he is one his way home for good and I already sprained my ankle.
Best of luck to you and your hubby!
2006-10-19 22:40:13 · answer #5 · answered by Ashley 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it does seem that way but in actuality it's because you havent had the time to adjust to the change. Once he's been gone awhile you get used to doing for yourself but at first its a lot harder. All good luck to you and to your husband.
2006-10-19 10:18:10 · answer #6 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My problem is stuff usually goes haywire right before he leaves so he either has no time or makes excuses to not fix it before he's gone, and then I'm left with a broken car, a crappy apartment, and (this time) his office to clean out to make room for the baby.
2006-10-20 10:32:42 · answer #7 · answered by desiderio 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear this. it would be a good idea to have a support group with other military wives.
Good luck to you and husband. May he come back home in good health!
2006-10-19 10:20:18 · answer #8 · answered by HermosaMujer 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Remember, You have a lot of help in the military. Best of luck to you.
2006-10-19 10:16:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Murphy's Law! LOL. Navy?
2006-10-19 10:13:28 · answer #10 · answered by Miss Anthrope 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋