2006-10-19 09:57:50 · 9 answers · asked by meister_sarah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sweetie, you don't have to please them!! Stop trying!! If they can't accept you for who you are, then oh well. If they already have an opinion of you, then more than likely that's what they're going to stick to. The only advise I can give you is to stay strong and don't let them break you. That's what they're trying to do. If you just stay strong and just keep being you, they eventually have to either accept you or stay away from you because it's going to drive them crazy. You're not married to them though, you are married to your spouse, and as long and she/he accepts you, that's all that should matter. I know we all want to get along with our in-laws, but they have to be willing to compromise also.
2006-10-19 10:02:51 · answer #1 · answered by ladystarrchild107 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, from personal experience I can tell you that no matter what you do, you can't change how they feel about you. They have to change their opinion on their own. The best you can do is be gracious to them when they're around and treat your spouse well always. Live your life for you and try not to worry about what they think. You're not on this planet to please them. If they can't accept who you are, they're not worth bending over backwards for because you'll never be able live up to their expectations. Why frustrate yourself?
2006-10-19 10:07:24 · answer #2 · answered by swordarkeereon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what kind of trouble? do they talk about you behind your back and don't think you're gonna find out about it? do they make funny faces at you when they see you?? just ignore tehn and try not to visit them. Talkt o you husband aabout it and tell him they make you feel unwelcome. Trust me- no matter what you do- if teh inlaws don't like you from the git-go they won't change and there's nothing you can do a bout it but ignore then other than that you will live your life feeling sad, angry because they don't accept you or like you
2006-10-19 10:01:46 · answer #3 · answered by Ms.Budonkadonk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't change them. The relationship between you and your husband is what matters. As long as he's standing his ground and defending you when needed, don't let anything else get to you. My hubby and I both come from dysfunctional families, so trust me, they will not change. In fact, we no longer talk to my husband's family. They are just outright mean.
2006-10-19 10:05:36 · answer #4 · answered by Shayna 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try and find out what they want u to do and if it is within your means u can do it to please them but if they are not satisfied with it and your partner doesnt see anything wrong with what you are doing then they can take a hike cos u are not married to them.if the one who married u too does not have a problem then they dont have a right telling u what to do in ur marital home.but try and accommodate them to the best of ur knowledge first.
2006-10-19 10:06:06 · answer #5 · answered by signorita 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be civil, live your own life and don't do anything that really inconveniences you. In other words, you can be kind to a point, but don't make huge sacrifices thinking that you'll win them over.
2006-10-19 10:11:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't exchange wedding vow's with your in-laws.......
Invest your time in your spouse and let them find someone else to make miserable......
2006-10-19 10:11:32 · answer #7 · answered by Freethrashing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop trying. Focus on you. You think about them too much and thats why it concerns you so.
2006-10-19 10:03:54 · answer #8 · answered by Carrie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it with a pinch of salt you are better than they are ignore them and look after number 1
2006-10-19 10:23:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋