Ok, so my dad lives 45 minutes away and he's getting ready to move about 10 minutes away from where he currently lives. He lives alone and doesn't have a lot of help to move. He asked me and my husband to come help him move but its on halloween on a tuesday and my kiddos will be in school and I was supposed to help with the class party in my 1st graders class. Plus my dh will be at work. Should I feel guilty if we can't/don't drive out there to help? He enlisted the help of my brother who doesn't have children and lives closer but they're both making me feel VERY guilty in their passive aggressive way. HELP!
2006-10-19 09:55:42 · 10 answers · asked by Petri 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Thanks so much for all your great advice. I just called my dad and told him I would come and help him on the weekend to unpack all his things and he said that he really didn't need anymore help and that he appreciated me offering. He's going to come spend the weekend with us before his move so I think he's much happier now and so am I. I love my daddy-o and its true that family is soooo important which is why I was feeling so guilty. I liked all of the answers---thanks!!
2006-10-19 10:38:11 · update #1
Moving is more important than a party: you´ve got your priorities wrong.
2006-10-19 09:59:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Can the move be postponed a day? You have some important obligations going on that night. Don't feel guilty if you can't be there for moving day. Offer to come over and help in pack a day or so ahead of time instead
2006-10-19 18:32:55 · answer #2 · answered by Classy Granny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I know what it is like to move, and it is not easy, also it is your dad! I would tell brother and husband (if he's not at work) to give him a hand, (mom being with the kids is good). And there will plenty of work to do in the days after, so maybe you can offer to help out for that or help him with food (I'm sure he will be tired after moving;)
2006-10-19 17:11:19 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
With all do respect, but isn't he the one who raised you, and put you through school, and got you where u at now???? Plus he is alone You should definitely help him and be around him more often, cause he is not going to be with you for ever!! You always stick to your family, You want your kids to the same when you get older right??
2006-10-19 17:21:54 · answer #4 · answered by Feras 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just do what you can from where you are..... make arrangements for times/places for everyone.......book the van.....phone companies for him......and be there as soon as you've finished everything else your committed to with your family.....probably be around tea time-ish...? they'd probably appreciate it if you brought them some food and helped with the unpacking at the other end.
there's a lot more to moving than just filling and unfilling a van, and by the sounds of it, that's the only bit you're gonna miss. so no, don 't feel guilty at all, you can only do as much as you can do and no more....your dad will have someone with him after all.
2006-10-19 17:04:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell him NO, and standfirm. Ignore the guilt they are trying to impose on you. He could always hire a moving company if he was really desperate. And start telling them NO more often, It seems like they depend on you a lot. You could possibly go on the Saturday before, if you really feel he needs help packing. But he is a big boy, now, and must learn from his mistakes.
2006-10-19 17:00:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him to buy some help, come on moving is hard work and people are always being cheap about it
or tell him that you would come the day before and move help him, nobody has a 1 day move , you try to get a few day to move
why Holloween when you have kids, he should know better
2006-10-19 17:05:01 · answer #7 · answered by bkbarile 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My dear don't sweat this so much , let others help, and when your important priortys, are taken care fo go over and make a meal as awelcome gift and help to unpack boxes you will feel great and all guilt wil just melt away. moving is the eay part unpacking is h**l I know.
2006-10-19 17:03:54 · answer #8 · answered by lytesdelite 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1800 3men moving company
2006-10-19 17:13:30 · answer #9 · answered by Karrien Sim Peters 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
send ur husband to help ur dad, or help him on Monday, explain to him that ur busy with his grand child, if he isn't selfish he'll understand
2006-10-19 16:59:28 · answer #10 · answered by bad person 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋