I am 22 and just got married. My husband is in the process of joining the Army. I have 3 older sisters one that used to live in New Jersey and has 3 sons. Well about 6 months ago she just up and went to florida and married another guy and left the two underage boys with their father. He was granted full custody of both of them but I want to try to get custody now because he is not providing very good care for them. they keep missing school and not getting good grades, one keeps getting in trouble at school. He is more of a friend playing video games and stuff with them then a father. I am just wondering if anyone knows any way that I can try to get custody of them Any ideas will hep because I don't even know where to start. Thanks in advance!
2006-10-19 09:53:18 · 8 answers · asked by kitty_cat_casper06 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Instead of taking these children away from their father (since their mother obviously doesn't want much to do with them), why not try to work out something with their dad and see if he'd be open to your suggestions? To be honest with you, if the school begins to see an issue, they will report to social services themselves, without your involvement. There may be issues that you don't know about. The boys are most likely hurting because of their mother's abandonment (and let's face it, that's basically what it is), and he might not want to elevate those feelings. Talk to him. The best thing for a child is to be with their parents, providing the parents can give a good and loving home to them. Don't just try and rip them away from the only thing they know at the moment. It won't be good for them, and it might cause them to resent you. Just let your nephews and their dad know that you're there for them, whenever they need you, and you are willing to help and give advice when needed.
2006-10-19 10:02:44 · answer #1 · answered by Shayna 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Chances are no, you would not be able to as unfortunate as it sounds most courts try to keep children with their biological parents... only in rare situation such as abuse, neglect or abandonment will a court award custody to another family member and that is done after a home study occurs with the intended caregivers. If you do not have strong supporting evidence that one of those are occuring.. do not attempt it. All you will do is drive a wedge between yourself and the father. If you believe there is cause for modification of custody contact the child protective services in the county the children live in and ask thenm to investigate both home life and their schooling. You will have to give your name. However, it is confidentual. Otherwise, the best thing that you can do is befriend their father and get involved in their lives, perhaps you could persuade him to allow you to have the boys. Maybe at first for just extended visits such as for the school year....to get some stability back into their lives. Maybe he will become accustomed to his freedom while they are away and he will be more willing to let you keep them perminatly?
2006-10-19 16:56:36 · answer #2 · answered by shughes2000_2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well- that's a tought one. Here are some ways
1
the father of the children doens't want them and is willing to grand you custody
2- the mother is unfit to have the kids and is willing to give you custody but her and the father have to agree to this because if she agrees and he doens't then the kids will go to the grandparents or even the county!
Get a good lawyer you can have the process done quicker rather than doing it yourself!
Prove to the court that the parents are not fit to be with the kids (drug, abuse etc) but you need proof . It's relly hard for a judge to rule out against the parents if they are perfectly fine!
2006-10-19 17:05:44 · answer #3 · answered by Ms.Budonkadonk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Childrens services. Contact childrens services. All states have a legal aid foundation that you can get legal consultation. If you contact childrens services and tell them that the father is not taking care of the children, they will investigate, if they find that he is in fact neglecting and not taking proper care of the children, they will start a process where he will have to go to parenting classes and counseling etc... you may then go to court and file paperwork for custody of the children. Keep talking to childrens services and they should guide you through the court process. I wish you all the best of luck!! God Bless
2006-10-19 17:06:31 · answer #4 · answered by ladystarrchild107 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would call the Department of Children & Family in your area and see what they suggest. It might be called another name like Child Welfare. Sorry, I don't know where you live.
I would start by asking a lot of questions in the jurisdiction they live in. You might need to get both parents to waive their rights and etc. It might be a long process... It is just hard to completely advise you without knowing your complete circumstances.
2006-10-19 16:59:10 · answer #5 · answered by The It Girl ∆☻乐 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all contact a lawyer. Then try to get copies of their school report cards attendance sheets so on. Plus get copies of their medical records and police records. A lawyer will get you through the process. Good LUck!! I hope it works out for you.
2006-10-19 16:57:51 · answer #6 · answered by littlemama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you could get a lawyer and file suit to have him declared unfit, and also to name you legal guardian, but based on what you've said, I'd call your chances of success unlikely.
Maybe you can help out in other ways?
2006-10-19 16:59:35 · answer #7 · answered by Sheik Yerbouti 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can start by learning how to spell get.
2006-10-19 17:01:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋