So a couple months ago a guy friend on mine fell for me, and I have fallen for him. Thing is, he's got his whole future planned out for him...he's got the ideal wife planned out and somehow I fit into that...
He is already established with a decent job and house...he's 25 and ready to find somebody to settle down with. I'm 20 and I still attend college.
I've got dreams of travelling, going abroad to study medicine...I've got big dreams I am certain I will accomplish...If i want something bad enough I get it....
Problem is I can't accomplish both dreams of having him and having my dream career at once. He is not really the type to do long distance.
What should I do?
2006-10-19 09:41:00 · 13 answers · asked by Soraya 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
To the first question.... NO, what is love today is hate tomorrow.
To the second question... I can not give advise.
2006-10-19 09:46:38 · answer #1 · answered by sable_laser 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, go with the career.
Why?
Well, if you guys are meant to be together nothing will come in between. Not even the distance.
If you go with love right now and put your dreams on hold...chances are that you will never get that far and there are no guarantees that this is your true love either.
He accomplished everything he wanted to...you need to do the same thing.
Love is great and beautiful but success can do a lot too...do not rush!
2006-10-19 16:46:32 · answer #2 · answered by miquelina2004 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Follow YOUR dreams.
If you follow his then one day you WILL look back and regret it and you will begin to resent him.
If he loves you then he will stick by you and wait for you. If not then it would not have worked out anyway.
If you don't take advantage of the opportunities given to you you will be wasting your life by not following your career. You are still young at 20, and haven't experienced the world and what it is about. He is still young at 25 and can't possibly comprehend what it means to be married and stable.
If you give up your dreams for him, you will blame him and regret what you could have done. You might even carry over that blame to your life, you, your kids with him and see this marriage as a trap or prison and not as something good.
If it is good and strong, it will withstand you following your dreams, If not, then it wouldn't have worked out anyway.
2006-10-19 16:47:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're too young to give up on your dreams for a relationship. I did it when I was 20 and lost myself in his world. Five years later I am still trying to bounce back and find out where I fit in again. Once you reach your goals and discover your dreams you will find someone who has done the same. Hope this helps.
2006-10-19 16:54:53 · answer #4 · answered by Mollie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you give up everything for love you will regret it and become resentful. Look at all these people on here in unhappy relationships. If you give everything up and you guys split in a few years you will never get that time back. Stay with your dreams.
2006-10-19 16:49:17 · answer #5 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes love should not get in the way of future plans.You might find another love in the future better than him.Look at your options and start making a list.You will see the truth.Till then by
2006-10-19 16:47:37 · answer #6 · answered by DR.Frankie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go after what you want. If you squash your dreams to fulfill someone elses you will not only end up regretting it but you will also end up in a bitter broken marriage.
Marriages are about sacrifice and comprimise. If he can't comprimise to help you achieve your goals then he doesn't really want to marry you.
2006-10-19 16:48:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love him and can't imagine your life with someone else - go with him. If he's established and has a bright future - he can take you on wonderful vacations...you can accomplish all your goals and be married.
*If you want something badly enough - it can be worked out*
2006-10-19 16:44:29 · answer #8 · answered by Sirena 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if he has really fallen for you then he will wait for you and let you accomplish all of your dreams but, don't let him stop you from going after your dreams.
NEVER GIVE ANYONE YOUR ALL BECAUSE WHEN THEIR GONE YOU HAVE NOTHING!!!!...
2006-10-19 16:49:01 · answer #9 · answered by prissymiss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get everything you want done first and if its true love he'll wait and if its meant to be it will be.
2006-10-19 16:48:08 · answer #10 · answered by littlemama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋