You and your gf were both virgins when u met. dated 3 years had sex 10000 times. took a 2 month break and she went out and screwed a white trash piece of crap after you told her you wanted to get back with her. you stayed faithful to her.... after her affair with him was over she came crawling back. what would you do
2006-10-19 09:31:55 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you want to be with her you get back with her... if you don't- then you don't really its rather simple.
2006-10-19 09:33:39 · answer #1 · answered by rachel o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends how '2getha' u were at the time she did it. Also, were u still sleepin 2getha (at all)? Whose choice was it 2 'take a break'? The fact that he's a (I'll omit the colour reference) 'piece of trash' makes no difference. If he'd have been a mega rich film star, would that have been better?! Have u ever watched friends atall. The whole Ross & Rachael 'we were on a break' thing may b relevant. Sounds like u & ur girl definitely had a different understanding of the nature of ur relationship during that time. If u r gonna get back 2getha, COMMUNICATE better in future (sorry if that sounds like a lecture). I feel ur pain either way. I've been thru it (from ur perspective. we got back 2getha 4 a further 18months, but I'd never truly 4given him, & I never really trusted him again)
Good luck, x
2006-10-19 09:41:47 · answer #2 · answered by viv friend 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could not have been having an "affair" as you two were not "officially" dating. She merely went out with someone else for a while and it didn't work out. You don't own her and she had free choice. Now that she wants to get back with you (I very much doubt that she is "crawling back") she is saying "I tried someone else and I think that you are a better choice for me at this point in time. Get over your ego, stop trying to over analyze life and enjoy the friendship!
2006-10-19 09:41:35 · answer #3 · answered by Dan J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the two of you were not with each other at the time. when you say break, that means you are free to date others. so, now it is up to you. can you deal with the fact that she was with this other person? if you are able to put it behind you and start your relationship over then that means that you really need to put it behind you, not talk about it again, or bring it up in a fight , nothing!! but if you can not , then i suggest that you move on. you also said this person she was with some white trash piece of crap, so i would be concerned with std. so, think about it long and hard.
2006-10-19 09:37:57 · answer #4 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me there's no such thing as kind of cheating either she cheated or she didn't. I think she did. It was wrong and no one deserves to be put through what she has put you through. You deserve better than that. If you let her come back she'll just think that what she did was okay and possibly do it again because you'll be right there waiting to take her back. Don't give her the satisfaction let her find her self another personal door mat to use.
2006-10-19 09:53:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would you do ? Get up on your feet and stop making excuses. Girl if my mother can do it too. Baby you can do it too.
What would you do if your son was at home
Crying all alone on the bedroom floor cuz he's hungry
And the only way to feed him is ta
Sleep wit' a man for a little bit of money
And his daddy's gone
So we're smokin' rock now
In and out of lock down
I ain't gotta job now
So for you this is just a good time
But for me this is what I call life
2006-10-19 09:41:41 · answer #6 · answered by MIA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she didn't respect you enough to remain faithful throughout the break she doesn't deserve you. She had sex with someone even after you told her that you wanted to get back with her. Keep in mind Karma is a big fat lady.
2006-10-19 09:35:18 · answer #7 · answered by alphasweet06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys broke up and she had sex with another guy then thats o.k. I wouldn't get back with her if I were you. She don't give a sh** about you it sounds like you don't need someone like that. Like you said after her affair with this other guy was over she came crawling back to you. Just think about that.Thats messed up what she did to you and she needs to know that.Good Luck!
2006-10-19 09:42:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say follow your heart. If you think that you can forgive her for being with someone else, then get back with her. You weren't together at the time so let it go. Maybe she needed to do that in order to realize that she wants to be with you. Give her another chance, it may be better this time around.
2006-10-19 09:41:46 · answer #9 · answered by sea shell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would make her suffer for a while but i would in deed get back with her i mean you cant let 3 years go down the drain and start all over agian thats hard and stressful at the same time just take my advice and learn to trust her give her another chance!!!
2006-10-19 09:36:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You took a break so does that mean you were not involved? No matter who she slept with you guys were not together & then you accepted her back so either go on with the relationship or end it if you can't get past it.
2006-10-19 09:35:13 · answer #11 · answered by "karma" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋