my dad just doesnt 'get it', he should be in a mental institution, but he rules over me and makes me look like the crazy one, i give him my power, and i have nothing left. today was the first time today how i acutally saw he does this. how to conquer him so i can get my power back, and not be so afraid of what he says and to stand up for myself so i dont end up in a hospital.?
2006-10-19 09:30:13 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Has you Dad been diagnosed with mental illness?
You think he rules over you, you give him your power,
you have need to conquer him.
You sound like you have serious issues, no one has ever gained power by conquering another person. Taking from another does not give you strength. See a professional where he is or not.
2006-10-19 09:37:05 · answer #1 · answered by Wolfpacker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some parents simply don't know how to parent and are only doing what they think is best. Unfortunately, that can have detrimental affects. Hang in there. It's sad when a parent can't relate to his/her kids. I'm nearly 50 (a mom of a 20 and a 14 yr old) and have parented them the empathetic way: I simply remember what it was like when I was their age. Works too. They've earned the freedom I allow them, and we have a wonderful relationship. I'm not their best friend, but their mom and yet we get along great. If you can't sit down with dad and have an honest and mature talk with one another, then try and find an adult who you can relate to.......a teacher? Pastor? a friend's father? Perhaps any one of these adults can talk with your dad and help you find a happy or at least a compromise somewhere. Generation gaps can be a pain in the butt, but there's such thing as both people giving and taking. Good luck.
2006-10-19 16:58:52 · answer #2 · answered by Nose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
--Because I was in your position once , I really want to help ;you . It would be interesting to know your age so I could give you better advice. I lived with a man(husband) for 32 years and he was bi-polar and had a few different personalities . It was horrible. He could even convince the doctors tha I was the crazy one.the last ten years I was convinced that I was the crazy one even though he had had shock treatments .I go t a divorce- he was toxic to me. Does your mom or siblings agree with you or are they too afraid to give an opinion? Is there anyone that you can seriously talk to about this? Do not re-act to his craziness -space yourself from him if need be and figure out your own sanity . Promote your own life and interests . do not worry about getting power over him-it won't work and thats your ego talking . Don't llisten to yur ego -it will get you in trouble. Go for inteligence progress in yur interests. If you are not now , you will eventually be on your own and can choose your own lifestyle . Forget about getting even ar upstaging your dad--you won't win and thats not what you want . You want sanity at all costs. Praying for you . Silence is sometimes more powerful with this kind of person but be careful because silence can make them get very angry. -----MEntal illnes is a chemical imbalance int he brain that it treatable if the person wants it but they usely don't realize they are mentally ill. Help yourself first before yu try to help him.
2006-10-19 22:38:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone who was brought up in a dysfunctional household will have issues, because family members learn to adapt to the dyfuction. Many times, the person who is the most dysfunctional is not even aware of their dysfunction, or denies the behavior outright. You now have realized there is a problem; this puts you in control immediately. You cannot change other people, only yourself. Get yourself some help on how to deal with it.
2006-10-19 16:43:22 · answer #4 · answered by Flea© 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
coping.org!
Free site!
May help you!
Has helped me and still is!
they have something for everything on there! and i refer back when ever i have issues i can't work out myself!
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He never took your power! you just forgot how to tap into it!
if you know he is crazy then mark it off... yes let it go! that's how you "Get control back" don't let it get to you! you can only control your feelings by the way so learn to have control and what you ahve control over! you have no control over anyones actions!
nore does anyone have control over you!
once you believe this you'll fully understand this!
we are going threw this course here at work 45 day challenge self improvement and motivational speaker and were were just told that we have onlyl control over our emotions and how we deal with things emotionally
eg.. if someone steps on my toes i have choices to make
those choices are what i can control!
i can 1. get mad and throw a fit!
2. be respectful and realise that this wasn't a personal attack and let it go
3. even if it was a personal attack i only control my reactions to this how do i want to appear to other people.. mean, nice , standing up for my self... or does something like this mean nothing is it so trival that i won't remember it in 20 years!
or will it be my last thougth when i die!
is that what i want to be remembered by!
oh my i went off again!
sorry for the blabbby in jsut go on sometimes!
check out the site
if you get a chance by the book
are you up for the challenge!
Good luck
:)
go for your goals everything else is just wasting your time and we dont have as much time as we want!
2006-10-19 16:43:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you , can you break free and live on your own. Best thing to do is get away from that situation if it is that bad. My father was also like this and our family suffers still today because of it. He says I am the only daughter he can get along with, but if he only knew how I felt about him and his controlling ways, he would die. When I was young, I used to wish him dead.
2006-10-19 16:34:17 · answer #6 · answered by cal gal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are a very inconsiderate individual. You should put yourself into a mental institution and see how you like it! You ungrateful child!
2006-10-19 16:39:21 · answer #7 · answered by ☼Earthbound Misfit☼ 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If he IS mentally ill then he cannot put YOU into a home. I think you are the sick one.
2006-10-19 16:42:05 · answer #8 · answered by ms.melancholy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
congratulations
2006-10-19 16:33:00 · answer #9 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋