We all went through the Hurricane Katrina in New Orleans. Well my friend was given over $10k from Fema and about 6 months of free rent also from fema. Then he came back to New Orleans (as so did we) and lived in his grandma's house (she moved to a different state) for a few months until she sold her house. He did not work this whole time except for a few very short contract jobs and hangs out with his friends all the time, living off of fema money, etc. Well since his grandmother sold his house he is now at me house. He has moved a lot of his stuff in and has a part time contract job. He has been here since around the 1st of October. He does not pay anything. I feel that 3 weeks is coming near so what should I do? He does not even share toilet paper, he carries his roll to and from the bathroom.
2006-10-19 09:27:46 · 18 answers · asked by Angelcupcake 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He also has a masters degree.
2006-10-19 11:16:02 · update #1
Tell him to pay his half of the rent and utilities. If he doesn't agree to pay, tell him he has to leave. Didn't you discuss this before he moved in? He's not a friend. He's a freeloader.
2006-10-19 09:34:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well - at least he's using his own toilet paper! (JK)
Seriously, it would have been a good idea to come up with some kind of a contract/agreement BEFORE he moved into your home. Since that didn't happen, now would be a good time to make it happen. There's no need to be ugly about it - just state that it's important to you that everybody is "on the same page" and has an understanding about what is happening regarding the living situation and the cash flow. Ask him what he thinks is fair - and tell him what you think is fair - and then come up with some kind of a written contract. It doesn't have to be fancy - just something you can refer to in the future if you start to feel he's not keeping up his end of the deal, or vice versa.
Also - just my opinion - but he doesn't sound like a "friend" to me.
2006-10-19 09:58:06 · answer #2 · answered by liddabet 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This looks like trouble-- the guy wants to mooch off you as long as possible-- you must feel that in your bones.
Tell him-- TELL HIM-- he has been a guest for 3 weeks and you are not looking to adopt a big child, so he can just get out ASAP. You could try asking for money but you have already lost money by having him sap you of utilities, food, probably laundry and a newspaper. Get him out, you don't need a bum mooching off you.
If he has so many buddies he can hang with during the day, tell him to find one whose house he can crash at-- you are not running a social services agency.
2006-10-19 09:35:31 · answer #3 · answered by ladsmrt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey you're the boss of your home-does mooooch sound something like him?If he has a bad track record when it comes to paying his own way, move him out tomorrow. A man would pay you something, a mooch will never pay. What you got to loose? He didn't offer you any money to move in did he? He never will, Grandma had the right idea, she sold out and got away from the mooch, do it! Friendship can only go so far..Good Luck......
2006-10-19 10:51:13 · answer #4 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This type of abuse of our system really ticks me off. He needs to get off his lazy butt and get a full time job. He needs to either move out or pay half of the bills for where you are. Since he's the type to carry his own toilet paper to and from, I doubt he'll agree to paying half. He's not much of a friend to you, is he? I'd present him with an invoice for half of the bills for the length of time he's lived with you - including groceries, and ALL expenses pertaining to the costs of living where you are now. If he isn't willing to pay, tell him he's got to move out - immediately.
There are too many people who are unable to work, and don't receive any or enough assistance to live above poverty. There are too many working minimum wage jobs to try and support themselves. Can you tell this gets me going? What a jerk.
2006-10-19 09:36:21 · answer #5 · answered by sassybree1979 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you wanna be nice about it, try something like this: Hey, I was just wondeirng what the plan is... Are you looking for a place to live? If he says yes, ask him when he's planning on moving because the bills are getting high now that there's an extra person. If he's planning on saying, say the same thing and ask him to start contributing to the rent.
2006-10-19 09:33:13 · answer #6 · answered by Annette J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you all have been through alot and getting back on our feet is hard, but you need to pay your fair share around here. You enjoy his friendship and wouldn't want to jeprodize that but enough is enough. THe whole hurricane was hard on everyone and you need to survive and pay the bills if he is gonna live under your roof, he needs to pay his fair share and discuss with him what he thinks is fair and try and come to an agreement. Oh you may want to mention to him how insulting it is that he won't even share ar contribue the toilet paper!!
2006-10-19 10:00:01 · answer #7 · answered by just wondering 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him it is time to start paying as that you cant afford to keep paying for everything. Be nice be firm and give him a deadline not more then 7 days or less then 3 days to pay or find a new place
2006-10-19 09:32:19 · answer #8 · answered by danzka2001 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are asking the question if it is time for him to pay, then the time is already there...and who really carries their own toilet paper in and out of the restroom?!!?? That should tell you something right there!
2006-10-19 10:01:46 · answer #9 · answered by April 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's past time for your friend to share, pay up, or move on. No one appreciates a free loader. You may want to consider if he's even worth having as a friend. Sounds like a bad influence to me.
2006-10-19 09:39:18 · answer #10 · answered by delmaanna67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋