MY "FRIEND" IS STAYING WITH ME FOR A WHILE, THE LENGTH OF TIME HAS NOT BEEN DISCUSSED, A COUPLE OF FRIENDS ARE READING WAY TOO FAR INTO THE SITUATION AND TELLING ME THAT IT'S NOT A GOOD IDEA. WELL I KNOW THIS GUY, HE IS NICE, HE'S GOOD WITH MY CHILD AND WILLING TO HELP ME IN ANY WAY POSSIBLE, SO WHAT IS THE BIG DEAL? I AM NOT THE TYPE OF FEMALE TO PRESS THE ISSUE OF WHETHER OR NOT THIS MAN IS MY "MAN." I TAKE IT FOR WHAT IT IS. WE DO THINGS COUPLES DO AND HAVE GREAT SEX, SO WHY DO I NEED TO GO TO HIM AND ASK HIM TO DEFY THIS RELATIONSHIP? I LIKE IT THE WAY IT IS...CAN SOMEONE GIVE ME MORE INSIGHT? B.T.W. BEEN THERE DONE THAT, WAS ON LOCK DOWN WITH ONE MAN FOR FOUR YEARS, I AM NOT THAT CONCERNED ABOUT MAKING THIS OFFICIAL....
2006-10-19 09:24:30 · 22 answers · asked by Tomika 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hon, I think you answered your own question!!! You do not need any of us to help you "define" the relationship that you are already satisfied with. Just tell the others to MYOB and enjoy what you have going on. As long as there is no sign that your daughter is struggling with the situation it's alllll good!!!!!
2006-10-19 09:27:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell these other friends to worry about themselves. You both are happy with things the way they are and so no one else needs to be concerned with what the two of you do. Maybe they are just trying to be cautious but it is your life and if you are happy and he is good with your child I say go for it. Maybe sometime down the road things will move further and you two may decide to become official but if not who cares. I have a friend that lived with her man for 13 years before they decided they wanted to actually get married and by then all marriage was was a piece of paper officially binding them. Live your own life and tell the others to mind their own business. Good luck!
2006-10-19 16:30:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Based on what you said in your question, it sounds like you are getting exactly what you want out of this relationship. the question is does your "friend" see the relationship the same way? if the answer is yes then you have nothing to worry about at this time. the only bump in the road that I see coming is that sooner or later one of you will decide that they want more or less from this relationship, and that's when sparks start to fly. As for your friends, simply tell them you are happy with the way things are and that they should be happy for you. BUT dont get mad if things change and they say "i told you so".
2006-10-19 16:38:53 · answer #3 · answered by Johnnyb66 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So don't make it official. If you enjoy being his FwB, there's no reason to change that. Having a FwB is fun, convenient, and safe (for the most part). Tell your friends to mind their own business — it's your sex life, do what you want with it. Personally, I'd rather have a FwB than any serious relationship.
2006-10-19 20:21:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl!!! This sounds like it is great! There is no reason to define the relationship, why? He's happy, you're happy, and most importantly, your child is happy. Great sex, and you do couple **** together, why ruin your happiness with a title. Titles make men go crazy. Friends with benefits sound just perfect! You Go Girl!!!
2006-10-19 16:36:01 · answer #5 · answered by Nessy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the problem?? Maybe you should talk to him.
Its not a problem as long as you two have an understanding. But somewhere, along the way, one person's feelings get stronger or weaker. Its not always going to stay the same.
2006-10-19 16:26:49 · answer #6 · answered by Your_Star 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not looking for anything more than what you're getting...and you're ok with that, then good for you. There's no reason to seek out a definition if you don't need one.
2006-10-19 16:32:00 · answer #7 · answered by lyricaleight 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cool 2 points
2006-10-21 18:33:50 · answer #8 · answered by EL GANGSTA. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You go girl! Sounds like its working good for you. Tell your friends its your life and its non of their fookin business.
2006-10-19 16:27:07 · answer #9 · answered by kandekizzez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and he both know the score, and are comfortable with that...then that's y'alls business...don't worry what others think. Do what works for the two of you.
2006-10-19 16:26:40 · answer #10 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋