I had threesome with my man. And now I can't get the image out of my head of him having sex with another woman. It is literally driving me crazy. My boyfriend doesn't know. I don't act any differently it is just when I am alone it hurts. I feel like I have no right to say anything because I agreed and actually found the other girl. I liked it but at the same time I am still jealous. I don't want to break up but I also don't want to feel this way. I know that I probably shouldn't of done it but it is too late for that. The other problem is they both want to do it again. What should I do?
2006-10-19 08:53:01 · 23 answers · asked by Lil Ma 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Fess up and let him know how hurt you were sharing him if he really loves you he will inderstand
2006-10-19 08:54:33 · answer #1 · answered by R C 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to give yourself time. DO NOT DO IT AGAIN! If they push for it you already know that you are not made for this . You lived the kind of fantasy that only others such as myself wonder what it would be like because it is nothing more than a sex FANTASY it does not mean that it is to become part of the relationship . However the hurt that you are going thru was obviously not worth it. You do have a right to feel the way you do after all you are a woman who wanted to please and excite your guy , but you love him and your relationship even more and if he loves you enough back he will just take it for what it was a wild night. However you put yourself in a position that will bring other issues,and if you cannot think of nothing else than it may be time to move on from this issue and start over emotionally. Good Luck!
2006-10-19 16:06:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
damn your hot!!! did you and the other girl get it on also or did you both take care of your man? If you enjoyed the physical aspect of it then do it again but let your BF know that you have a jealous feeling inside you that you don't want to have but you can't get it out of your mind, tell him your not mad at all and that you enjoyed the moment. When a guy gets a chance to have sex with another girl and has complete approval from his girl and his conscience then it like a kid in a candy store, not his fault for for performing something you willingly participated in. Don't tell him you love him just to prove your commitment to him (might scare him away), tell him he means everything to you and that you hope your the right girl in his life physically and mentally
2006-10-19 16:03:17 · answer #3 · answered by mohvictor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The human heart is capable of loving more than one person as far as nature is concerned one male and many females is ok we humans block our natural side with our minds i think your main problem is in all the instances where there is one male to many females there is a dominate female the first she sets the rules for the others to follow so u need to be assured of yer dominate standing and once u r u will feel better he needs to let u know u r number one and the other women will not come before u . then u can let go and enjoy.
2006-10-19 16:00:48 · answer #4 · answered by Vinny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do for yourself is listen to your own gut instincts and then act on them. Don't let anyone else tell you what is good for you when you already know it yourself.
You may want to be with this guy, but if you stay with him you are asking for trouble. He is most likely not going to change and still want this type of sex. You need to find someone who is compatible with you so you don't have to live a life of stress and despair.
Good luck to you.
2006-10-19 15:59:50 · answer #5 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you want to have a threesome with two guys and you. Let him see what it is like to watch you having sex with another man.
2006-10-19 15:56:12 · answer #6 · answered by tractor girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do, don't do it again. Let your bf know how you feel about the situation and that it was big mistake on your part. He will be very upset, but if he like really loves you he'll understand that his actions are causing you to become jealous and he'll make the needed adjustments to satisfy his gf.
2006-10-19 16:03:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely have a heart to heart with my boyfriend and tell him how you feel !!! and do it now before something is planned and you feel forced to go along with it. Maybe this guy is not the right one for you if this is going to be a regular part of his sexual scene. You know what I mean? good luck hon I wish you the best.
2006-10-19 15:59:40 · answer #8 · answered by sosueme534 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that you love him and can't stand seeing him with somoen else. It;s honest and compassionae. But you know damn well you started something because if they both want to do it again and you don't they might just cut it back to two people and that means them - you. Just let him know how you feel and that you don't enjoy the fact of him having sex with anoother woman.
2006-10-19 15:57:08 · answer #9 · answered by kiki_t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it bothers you, you obviously care deeply about him. If he wants to do it again, time to find a new boyfriend. He is obviously not happy with just one woman so let him go do his thing. There are many other guys out there worthy of your attention.
2006-10-19 15:58:23 · answer #10 · answered by Patricia S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be completely honest with your man. If he can't take the honesty then you guys have a lot deeper problems. If you don't want the threesome... don't do it.
2006-10-19 15:55:20 · answer #11 · answered by Brent 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋