I have a 10 month old daughter. I find it rather daunting when I think of having to go against the influences of pop culture to protect her from its negative influences. I know that as her father I am the most important person in her life. I will do everything, even kill, to protect her.
2006-10-19 08:35:37 · 16 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No dating until 17
Match your daughter with like minded parents
No makeup
No wacky clothes, No racy suggestive TV, movies
Talk to your child, talk, talk talk, make the communications now, dont bother by age 8
Finally, no female hormones allowed until age 25
2006-10-19 08:36:50 · answer #1 · answered by god knows and sees else Yahoo 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My father never really talked to us about any of this stuff. But we were really really close. Although we never talked about sex, drugs or anything I think my upbringing played a big role. We were always very involved as a family. We ran the family farm together, we ran a local fair, we organized a few horse shows. All of this we did together the 6 of us (mom, dad and 4 kids). We would attend all family events together. A lot of people looked up to our family because we were always together and happy to be so. I feel this was the main reason non of us ever really fell into the traps. We were happy to be at home with our family and didn't need to go out and hang in the streets. We had everything at home pool, trampoline, video games, four-wheelers, the list goes on. Why leave home when you have all that?
2006-10-19 12:20:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First- I just have to say that you are an awesome Dad for thinking ahead like you are. With my children I have thought of everything that I did and why I did it. It was mainly to get attention. Make sure that you are a BIG part of her life. Take her on dates (have her dress up and go to dinner or something), play outside with her, include her in things like mowing the lawn or stuff like that. Make sure you know what is going on in her life. BUT the biggest thing you can do for her is show her how a man is supposed to treat a woman. If you put her on a pedestal and make her feel like she is the best- when she does start to date she will try to find a man that is just like you- which will be hard if you have made her feel like a queen. Also show her how a man is supposed to treat a woman by treating her Mom like a queen. Trust me- women usually look for a guy that is similar to their Dad's (even if they don't know they are doing that). So- good luck and I am so grateful to see a Dad that cares so much about his daughter!
2006-10-19 08:46:10 · answer #3 · answered by Tammy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*You will have to be a good role model for her. Do not smoke or drink. You will only increase the chances of her doing the same.
*She will choose who she will have as friends, but you will have to filter them out for her. Remember, one bad apple can spoil the rest!
*You will not allow her to wear whatever the fad might be. Teach her to dress decent and conservatively.
*The wrong type of music can have bad influences.
*Teach her to repsect herself.
*Do not permit her cursing.
*No dating until 17. At that time, she will have chaperoned dates.
*Give her rides whenever you can.
*Be there for her at all times. Show her how much you love her.
*Most importantly, you as a parent must keep the lines of communication open! Talk to her. Start from when she is little, that way it will be so much easier for her to go to you when she needs you when she is older.
*Do not kill anyone. Not only would you be taking a life, but, you will only go to prison. You would break your daughter's heart and leave her alone and vulnerable in a world of evil.
You have a long rode ahead of you. The teenage years can be the hardest. Hang in there. Be consistent! Even after she is 18, she will still need your guidance and protection. The frontal lobe in the human brain is not yet mature. It matures around the age of 26. The Frontal lobe has been found to play a part in impulse control, JUDGEMENT, language, memory, motor function, problem solving, sexual behavior, socialization and spontaneity.
Good Luck in parenting!
2006-10-19 08:59:56 · answer #4 · answered by Fudge 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well you should love her no mater what happens in her life or what she does. Even if she gets a couple of bad grades every now and again. Always be there for her no matter what. Let her come to you about things don't always run up to her and ask what are you doing who are you doing things like that if you let her come to you then you two will have a better a relationship and you won't really have to worry about her as much as long as you two keep close and have a good relationship
2006-10-19 09:06:28 · answer #5 · answered by 30 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remind her not to follow what her friends and the media dictates. Remind her to use her own mind, think very logically about life situations, to think for herself and very rationally.
Remind her that just because her friends say something to be true, doesn't mean they actually know what they're talking about. And just because something is in the media or written in some magazine, doesn't mean it's true, and tell her don't believe everything she reads.
Tell her to use her own mind, and be truly logical about life to find the correct answers. Remind her that If she doesn't, she becomes a tool or lemming like the majority, following what ever society believes for the moment until society changes it's mind and believes something else to preach to the public.
2006-10-19 08:41:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From someone who had a rough childhood -
I think the best thing you can do is to be open, loving, discipline, set an example and dont watch too much tv. Be present in her life. Dont just go home and watch tv every night you get a few hours every day with her make them count. Play together, eat together, READ together. When she is 16 it will pay off I promise. Learn to talk with her about her day and her life. shes 10 months talk to her now get her used to hearing you speak with her.
LISTEN. Listen to what she has to say.
Pay attention to her.
Kids are sponges. Talk with her, be her parent. Discipline.
Let her experience life. She will have to experience heartache and joy to be happy and content, to appreciate it. Allow her to make some choices while she is a child so she can learn and you will be there for her. Be present in her life. When she is 16 it will pay off.
Dont spoil her. If she doesn't listen to you know imagine when she is 16. Mean what you say and do what you say - nothing makes me crazier than hearing parents say 'if you do that one more time Im going to ---" and then they dont do it. you cant expect your child to respect you if you dont follow through. Always let her know, you will do what you say and you are going to do. and be willing to do it. Don't say you are going to do something that you yourself aren't ready to do.
Listen, Love, pay attention, discipline and be present in her life. you will be fine.. and she will thank you for it.. It is never to early to discuss drugs, drinking and smoking.
2006-10-19 08:49:27 · answer #7 · answered by donyafs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As the father of a 13 year old girl, let me tell you it aint easy. We very closely watch the friends she chooses and have instilled in her a good foundation of morals and values. I dont know if it is because of our parenting or just good luck, but she is a great kid, never given us any trouble at all, well if you dont count not cleaning her room lol. Just keep your relationship close with her and let her know you as a friend and a parent, spend one on one time with her as much as you can, they grow up too fast.
2006-10-19 08:39:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
let her loose and just trust her. the ones that are locked in the house and don't get to go anywhere or get to do anything are the ones that do the really wild things. I know because I have a friend who doesn't get to do anything and she just goes really crazy when no one is there to stop her from doing what she wants and because she has no freedom she just tells lies and hates her parents.
2006-10-19 08:42:32 · answer #9 · answered by prissymiss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Derek has stated that a number of his classmates were very damaging. What are 2 recommendations he can use to dodge being inspired through their damaging behaviors? examine all that word. answer: practice constructive self-communicate even as round them, no longer spend time including his damaging classmates.
2016-10-16 05:38:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋