I have 3 girlfriend prospects but am confused which to pick to focus on to go to the next level.
1st one is my girl bestfriend who I have known for a long time now. She still needs a lot of growing up to do and is the best looking out of the three but her attitude needs a lot of work. She is not down to earth, she is selfish, thinks only of herself, a big flirt, high maintenance, and I foresee a lot of headaches with her but a lot of good times though.
2nd is a girl I really like attitude wise, looks is ok. but she lives far from me and I know how hard it is to have a long distance relationship. I haven't known her too long but so far I am liking her more and more.
3rd one is a really shy girl who lives near but the connection is not that great but can be great if I try to focus on her. Family oriented, not very outgoing, conservative type.
I am often wishy washy on which one to pursue. What do you think? Which one would you pick?
2006-10-19 08:25:41 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I strongly believe you are in a state of mind where you don't know what you want right now, so rather than hurting someone's feelings you're just weighing your options right now. Which is normal, and I would highly suggest that you continue to do so in order to get to know these females a little better. And for the first girl I would stop dealing with her all together!
2006-10-19 08:52:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say number 2. Did you but these girls in order of best looks? Well anyways my reason is #1 girl sounds like she's selfish and if you are both friends why not keep it that way until she is more giving and would give better to your relationship...#3 you didn't sound that excited about. I mean if you're not focusing on her now and have to struggle with finding that intrest seems like there might be problems in the future. So I picked #2 despite the distance between you two because it sounds like something beautiful could develpe between you two. However, only pick #2 with the assurance you trust her completly and you are also willing to answer all her questions so she trusts you completly and doesn't think you're cheating. Also, if you persue this it might help to tell her you always want her to be honest with you and encourage that and give her that. This way you won't be worried about cheating as many people often are. Hope you find the one that is right for you! Let us know how it works out!!
2006-10-19 08:33:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pick the one that you can be yourself around. I'm a quiet shy person and it took a while for my husband to get to know me but he knows me the best. I would go with number three. For the first one, sometimes it just best to stay friends and nothing more. The second one it would be hard to get to know someone you barely know when your lives are too far apart. Best wishes.
2006-10-19 08:33:03 · answer #3 · answered by janet_67_1998 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#4 None of the above
None of them sound worth it. #1 is too high maintenance and will be a complete headache. #2 as you say is too far away. #3 is to shy and not ougoing enough.
Make a list of things that you want in a woman to date and go out and find that person
2006-10-19 08:29:32 · answer #4 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
am a girl but for a change, i can be a boy... mmh, lets see!!! the 1.) one sound very immature, disturbed, impolite, wants to get all she asks, thinks she is perfect, and a royal queen, so i wouldn't pick her but i would still remain as a close friend to her...
2.) one is cool but i wouldn't because there is no way that a girl far from town would still remain faithful to you, so nope, don't choose her... just be cool friends!!! she wouldn't be left out...
3.) one sounds good, but not perfect, get to know her better, her weaknesses and strength,see the real her and calculate her, but still when you do all that, be in a relationship with her, but not a serious one, in 3 to 4 months, make your decision!!!
2006-10-19 08:56:19 · answer #5 · answered by Aluweeze 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL I THINK U SHOULDN'T RUSH IN MAKING A DECISION. Y DO U HAVE TO CHOOSE RIGHT AWAY? IF U R NOT SURE U SHOULD THINK MORE ABOUT IT. MAKE SURE U R MAKING THE RIGHT CHOICE 4 THE RIGHT REASONS.
I MUST SAY #1 SOUNDS LIKE TROUBLE AND #2 WELL IF DISTANCE IS GOING TO BE A PROBLEM THEN U MAD UP YOUR MIND THERE. #3 SOUNDS LIKE A NICE GIRL MAYBE ONCE U REALLY GET TO KNOW HER SHE'LL BE LESS SHY. MAYBE U CAN HELP SPICE UP HER LIFE. BEST OF LUCK.
2006-10-19 08:33:51 · answer #6 · answered by ROSIE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if any on them were right for you, you wouldn't be asking.
You're allowed to date all three - just as long as none of them think you're dating her exclusively. go out with each on ea few times and see where it goes from there imstead of picking based on the surface qualities.
2006-10-19 08:34:03 · answer #7 · answered by raquel122203 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The 3rd one
2006-10-19 08:27:48 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I vote for #2. If she's really worth it, the distance will be a minor factor and both of you will find a way to overcome it.
2006-10-19 08:29:03 · answer #9 · answered by J L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there isn't an obvious choice in your opinion then I don't think any of them are for you. If you find the right one, the decision to move forward should be easy.
Good luck
2006-10-19 08:38:06 · answer #10 · answered by Rochelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋