My wife latlie has been acting funny. we have 2 kids already. One is in middle school and ones in highschool. She wants more kids. I have a job and she does too. Is she really set to this or is she just horny.
2006-10-19 08:23:13 · 25 answers · asked by Pete78 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I assume you don't want more children. Put a "jacket" on it, and take it from a woman, do not trust a woman that has the baby fever to actually take her birth control, or you'll end up with a 3rd before you know it.
2006-10-19 08:25:40 · answer #1 · answered by sovereign_carrie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Early empty nest syndrome? Had you previously considered more children? It might just be that she see's your kids getting older and realizes that they are not her little babies anymore. I wouldn't listen to people who just say have one or don't have one. For the sake of the baby (if you do have one) it would be a good idea to not look at it as a accident or a whim later on.
Given the age of your kids she is probably pre-menopausal and considering that her child-bearing years are running out. You should both go to a counselor, not necessarily marriage counseling because it seems like you understand each other enough to know what the other wants.
But you are approaching a new part of your life. The 'End' is in sight, and your existing kids are less dependent. It is a hard thing to give up, which is what you will have to do if you have another one. You could also remind her that grandkids are likely less than 10 years away, given the averages...And with grandkids you get to spoil them and then send them home!!! :-)
2006-10-19 08:25:50 · answer #2 · answered by Pixie Dust 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK here it is, i assume you do not want any more children and your wife is feeling like her babies are growing up and she won't know what to do with her life after her kids are gone
(take it from me i have been a mom since the age of 18 its scary to think that everything i have lived for will soon be gone) so you start to tell her and remind her of all the things you and her will be able to do after they are out of the house all of the good things traveling mid day naps sex any time of the day whatever you know that she enjoys doing but has a hard time getting away from the kids to do it. in short remind her that she is special and has a separate life beyond the kids and give her something to look forward too. and as an added bonus remind her that she will have grand babies to tend to sooner than she thinks that will help with the feeling of never holding and loving a tiny baby again. hope this helps. good luck
2006-10-19 09:35:58 · answer #3 · answered by dydy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a difference between being horny and having baby fever. That is sucha huge age gap in the kids!! It would be like starting all over again. If you want more kids go for it, but remember you two are pretty close to having eachother to yourselves again. Good Luck
2006-10-19 08:51:23 · answer #4 · answered by therealprinsess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women can tell the difference between wanting more kids and being horny. There's this feeling when your biological clock is "striking midnight" as it were. Maybe she's feeling that she's reaching the end of her child-bearing years and she is panicking. Tell her your feelins about having more children and be ready to listen to why it is that she wants more. Are your lives set up for more children? It wouldn't just be her child, so you have a say in it also. Good luck!
2006-10-19 08:25:56 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming she's probably at least in her late 30's, right? If that is the case, she's just feeling the ticking of her biological clock. Chances are, this will pass rather quickly; but be prepared for the fact that she may stick to her guns and really truly want another baby before her fertility starts to fade.
BTW, being horny does NOT equal wanting a baby. One is a sexual urge, and one is a maternal urge.
2006-10-19 08:46:25 · answer #6 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She is more likely going through an identity crisis. Help her feel good about who she is and what she contributes to the world. She will probably lose interest in a baby when she realizes how terrific it is to sleep, not have to mix formula, change diapers etc. It won't bee too many years down the road until she can babysit the grandkids. Buy her a puppy until then. Good luck
2006-10-19 08:28:37 · answer #7 · answered by sm2f 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well Pete, maybe she just has baby fever and it has nothing to do with being in the mood all the time. Women get this way, we also go through our peak at a different time than men do so it could be either or. Maybe you should ask her what it is?
2006-10-19 09:43:50 · answer #8 · answered by ~*~frankie~*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as thur she might be having a mid life moment, your kids are growing up and she might be getting close to menopause. You did to sit down with her talk to her find out why she wants a child discuss the options the pros and cons and let her know your feelings
2006-10-19 09:02:46 · answer #9 · answered by ellc123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that she has hit her mid life crisis! She definitly has baby fever! Be careful! Your kids are big enough to depend on themselves for most things and a baby is going to be completely dependent on you! Ask your wife if she really wants to start over!
2006-10-19 08:29:16 · answer #10 · answered by Dana J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋