15 yr old daughter at war with the world?

Question

please tell me what age she will settle down and grow up

pooltitan i have thought about it

lorintx tried all those things she just gets worse

elizabethl thats my latest tactic hope it works

Answer 1

I battled my parents from the age of 13 until I moved out when i went off to college. Then I realized that the real world is hard, and you need someone who loves you to trust in. I came crawling back kissing their feet for support many times, and after all I put them through, they welcomed me like loving parents should. One thing my Mom used to say stuck....."One day you will realize that everything we do and say is because we love you and want you to grow up happy and healthy. So hate us now if you must, because we know you wont in the future." She said it many times.....and one day......I realized she was right. They both are more than my best friends now. Just keep loving your daughter for who she is, and try to lead her down the right paths, and always remind her that you love her. You cant truly hate someone who reminds you everyday how much they love you.

Answer 2

You have to wait it out. My parents were totally strict and overprotective of me when I went through my 'crazys' (as my family now calls it). Being over protective and too strict was the absolute wrong thing to do!!! Give her boundaries but keep them realistic - find a middle ground. Don't give into her but don't stifle her either. I think reverting back to a reward system like you did while potty training her, is a great way to regain some order in her life. It sounds strange but think of it. Most teens act up because they want to be treated as adults and given more freedoms. Give her positive attention when she does things age appropriate or more mature than she had been acting (cause lets face it, whatever she has been doing most likely has been stupid immature things). When she is acting up - don't get all mad and yell and punish her, but have something in place to show her that each time she acts out will result in a step back from the progress she had made toward you viewing her as an adult. She's 15 so you have plenty of time to set the foundation for this since you have at least another 5 long hard years ahead of you. Good luck and just remember she will eventually grow out of this and you will be friends with her one day.

Answer 3

No one can really answer that...it all depend's on her...you can't force her to change...I was like that when I was 15....you see the parents think they know what's going on in they're children's life but they don't it could be school....you....or friend's or whatever...all you have to do is help her because you can't fix it the best you can do is be there for her and let her know that you love her and your always there for her if she need's you...don't force her to talk to you because she won't if you do that....She might be going through some stuff right now, You just never know! Most teenager's are like that now adays and maybe she has grown up...and you just haven't noticed....maybe you should grow up and be the bigger person and realize no matter how much stuff you buy your kid or how much money you give her or how much freedom you give her it's never goin to be enough...why? because sometimes they need to be left alone or just feel loved...you can say you love her all you want because you buy her everything she needs but that doesn't matter. ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THEN WORDS!!! I'm not trying to be mean to you I just want you to know alot could be going on in that head of her's and she's not going to let you in if she doesn't feel that she can trust you. The sad part of this all is...sometims they never grow out of it.....she could go into a depression and stay like that all miserable most of her life, lord forbid that happen but the main key here is love.....and understandance and guidance ...she need's a good role model...you may think that all teens are embarrest of being seen with they're partents but they're not....go take her out to the mall or to a movie just the two of you so you can gain her trust...and when you do if ever....don't ....I mean don't do anything to lose it cuz that will be it....she'll never trust you again. wasn't too long ago that, that was me.....I'm turning 19 soon.....been through so much in this life you just try to fit everything into the 18 years....but you just can't....i'm 18 going on 30! You take care and I hope all goes well with you both!

Answer 4

Wow I feel bad for you. I am 21 well almost 22 and I put my mom through hell when I was 15. I didn't stop until I was about.... same 16-17. But I only made it worse on my mom because she bugged me so much beccuase she was a good mom.. probably the best :) And when she went through that ignoring me stage I actually came home at a decent time and called her more when she acted like she didnt care. But you might not want to do that because ALOT of teenagers are experimenting with drugs lately like xtasy and coke and drinking... and that one night that you play the ignoring game... she might not come home. So there really isnt much you can do. Try to do more things with her... like go out to eat just you and her... or go see a movie of her choice no matter how much you might not wanna watch that movie. hahaha I'm sorry you have to go through this... some parents are lucky and they don;t get a bad teenager.

Answer 5

ahhhhh well the terrible 15's eh shame on you woman for being so hard on your teenager lol (not really) Past experience of 2 boys & 2 girls of my own & 2 foster kids, ya in for a tough ride for a while. The easiest way I found round being at war with the world was to simply nod my head and agree.....on the lines of oh yes honey I understand exactly what your saying and yes this that and the other...does it get up their nose YES & fairly soon they stop because they not getting the reaction that they expected lol. Just go with the flow it makes life easier BUT in saying that if anything occurs that is of a serious nature then as a parent you have as you know a responsibility to act upon it, but I hope its all just the terrible 15's good luck

Answer 6

She IS at war with the world because her hormones are surging and she's changing physically and mentally, usually by the time they are out of school and getting part time jobs somewhere while doing college they learn that there is more to life than being stubborn and cruel to parents. That's what i have witnessed many times, there used to be this yr 11 emo at school called K and she wasn't immature at all, but then i met her working in a soap shop and she had matured considerably. She told me that once you get into work you realise that there is no time for that sort of thing because keeping ur job takes priority over everything else.

Luv Alice in Wonderland

Answer 7

Oh sweetie, I wish there were some magic formula we could give you for 15 year olds. If I could come up with one, I would be a billionaire. Right now parents are idiots and slave drivers. The only people who mean anything to them are their friends.
All I can offer you is moral support. I believe 15 is the worst time, and it starts easing off around 17, then they become human again around 18 or 19. Hang tough, you can get through it, although there will be many times you want to strangle her. Refrain from doing so.
Good luck

Answer 8

about 20

Answer 9

I done things like that when i was young, rebelled against everything. My mother, in her wisdom started agreeing with me - total shocker. Didn't understand, until the penny dropped for me ( I was 16). I was stick thin, everyone in the office was going on a diet of crackers and cheese, going to work I insisted my mum give me the same and nothing else. Forgot all about it, came home starving to crackers and cheese, bit bit bit I learned my lesson.
Good luck

Answer 10

I client of mine once said.....It's good to remember that an alien comes down and takes your 12 year old away, and leaves this "thing" in place. After a few years, not to worry, they will bring her back!
This makes me laugh, and will at least get you to smile about your adolescent hormonal crazed teenager. She'll be herself in a year or two (around 16 or 17). We have all been there!