my son is going through terrible twos how do i handle with it?

Question

my mothers feance says hes bypolar i tell him hes not i even get mad and i'll yell it to him my mother tells him not to say things like that even if it is a joke. what do i do? any advise?

Answer 1

Hang in there girl!!! That's what my mother used to tell me, chuckling. I spent a lot of time asking her advice. It helps to be able to talk to someone who has been through every sort of terrible two situation (my mother raised 6 children) Sometimes it helps to realise that a lot of the things children say and do at this age are quite funny in retrospect, at the time though it can really be trying. When I was at my wits end she would laugh and tell me a story about something that one of us did when we were that age. It helps to know that this is normal. Just remember to stand back and take a few deep breaths before responding with anger. I used to raise my voice a lot until I realised that I was behaving just like him, and not controlling the situation at all!! This is a time of learning for both of you!!! Good Luck!!!

Answer 2

There is a reason they call it the terrible twos your son is pushing his boundaries and it makes you want to push back. Don't get into a yelling match with him you can not win a fight with a two year old. When he starts to behave badly make him take a time out you must be firm.
Put him in a chair or on a step (bottom step) and tell him he must stay there for 5 min. (or 2 or 3 ) you may have to keep putting him back in his time out place. Do not yell at him or threaten him just put him there and tell him why eg. you hit mommy so you must stay here for 5 min. . After you do this 4 or 5 times or 29 times (do not give up) you should start to see some improvement. You MUST do this every time his behaviour is not what is expected.NEVER let him get away with it.

Answer 3

My husband and I joke that our kids were (are) bipolar. Kids can go from happy to little monster in seconds. That's just typical. Try keeping things consistent and predictable for your son. Kids thrive on routines and they need guidelines. Most importantly, keep a sense of humor -you'll need it.

My son (3 yrs) spent a week at Grandma's house where he had very little routine and was given almost anything he wanted. Mostly because my husband wouldn't stand up to his mom. When they came home, my son had the worst tantrums that I had ever seen with him. Any time that he didn't get what he wanted or if something wasn't just right, he'd yell and scream. We started a reward/punishment system. He was given tokens when he did something good (extra if we didn't tell him to do it). And we took them away when he did something that was wrong. We made picture charts to explain the behaviors and posted them at his eye level. We made another showing what he could 'buy' with his tokens -trip to the park, making a treat, candy, a pajama party, etc. It worked really well and really fast. When his behavior was back on track (for his age) we phased it out.

Good luck and be patient. This too shall pass.

Answer 4

My questions to you would be, "How have you handled the boy up until this terrible two stage"? Have you set ground rules? Does your child know what no means? When your child cries, do you soothe his every whim and desire? Do you give your child every snack and treat they ask for or demand? Is there a set bedtime that happens every night without incident? Is your child waking in the night and crying until he is brought into your bed? Is your child one that "keeps himself active" alone most of the day, or is time spent playing games, doing puzzles, coordination things, together with you?
You need to answer these questions and others like them, and that should tell you just how terrible your two's will be, which by the way, refer to the next two years once they turn two. (Just in case you thought this was going to be over in a few weeks, naaaaaah!)
There is a reason they are called the terrible two's. Children are expected to learn a different level of obedience, social rules and are preparing to be put into an environment of learning and structure. If rules and routines are learned early on, progressing further along is typically easier for that child than one who has been nursed along for 2 years. Look at this child, they only know what they are taught. They come to us with the expectation that will will teach and prepare them for their own life, so how we do that from day one matters.
If your son is throwing fits over your NO's and Not Now's, then he needs to be disciplined. A corner or time out chair works well. At two they have a better understanding of words, or should have, and talking to them and explaining things is ok. Credibility is huge, and your child knows your limits from an early age just by how you react when they cry. Disciplining our children is so very painful sometimes, and you will soon understand why your parents would say, "This is going to hurt me more than it does you". Taking away things and events your child was looking so forward to is so hard, but once you say it, it must be. So there is something I learned while raising my son, don't talk angry. Think about what needs to be said, and what you can handle as a punishment and stick to it. The summer I grounded my poor boy for "the whole summer" was the worse thing I could have ever done........to myself!!!!!!
When you see your pediatrician, ask them these questions as well. They aren't only there for immunizations and sick days.
As for mom's fiance, ask him if he has heard of Jackass Disease and tell him you feel he should be tested.
Bi-Polar disorder is nothing to joke about.
BTW, If anyone has told you the little fib that it gets better as they grow older, mine is 19. At the stroke of midnight on his 18th birthday, all hell broke loose and he was suddenly a "grown *** man". Ohhhhh Myyyyyy.
Good luck with the society your child will be in at 18.

Answer 5

LMFAO! @ the two years not 2 year old comment!! is your mother's fiance a doctor? if not...tell him to shut up.

anyway....in dealing with your son..keep in mind it's not your son going crazy by all this, it's you. take a break. send him to his room and close the door. sit down....relax...and have a glass of wine. once you have relaxed and thought this out, then you can approach your son and handle him with a clear head. be patient. all children act like this at one time or another. it's just a matter of the parent allowing the child to get away with it.

Answer 6

Children are not terrible!

They are observing and learning and, in that arena, trying to understand and adjust to what their little minds cannot yet conceive. That's why they run like crazy and sometimes do not respond in exactly the way we want them to. It's not terror in them but curiosity and having to adjust to our world. And the grown-up world is not all it is cut out to be, is it?

It is quite possible they see things in a much better light than we because they are unsullied, innocent little beings, whereas we have so much baggage from the world.

Do not allow anyone to label your son! You are right to defend him, but never carry on a yelling display in his presence - as a rule. He will think it is alright to adopt that attitude and that is not the best way for him to go.

Be patient with him. He is watching you!!!

Teach him what you want him to know and spend much time with him. Boys do love their mothers a lot and as little as he is, he will remember things you won't. And, he will remind you later on as he grows.

Just love him, honey, just love him. It works!

Answer 7

He is not bipolar, tell your mothers fiance to get lost. I am a father of 2 boys, and every kid goes through the "terrible two" stage, you just have to be patient, and practice discipline when needed, but do not over do it. Both of my boys are now 20, and 22 years old, and they are just fine.

Answer 8

Just breathe and know that this too shall pass. Who cares what others say......if they don't like the way your kid acts tell them if you wanted their advice...you would have asked...and until then they need to keep their mouth shut! If you can't tell I have a two yr old and we are going through the same thing. Keep smiling

Answer 9

tell your mother's fiance that he's stupid for calling your son bipolar. children at this age are normal to have emotional ups and downs, happy one minute, crying the next. If your 2 yr old wasn't doing this, I'd think he wasn't normal. This age is very overwhelming for kids because they have so many things they are learning and discovering, that they can't process it all at once. Don't worry, he's normal and will outgrow.

Answer 10

If you feel yourself becoming angry at him, please walk away and count to ten. Although I do believe in spanking a child when he misbehaves, it should NEVER be done out of pure anger. Make sure you are calm.
Rest assured the terrible two's will not last forever. He will soon become a sweet, lovable, Mommy's boy that will adore you, so make sure you don't do anything rash that can destroy that faith he has in you!!
Best of luck and a huge hug,
Jennifer