I a 23 y.o. female with two children. I would like to recive the benifits, and with this whole North Korea thing, they will probably be needing more troops. Are any of you inlisted mothers? Is it worth it?
2006-10-19 08:15:16 · 21 answers · asked by dumbblond 3 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
It is not just for thr benifits. My ex was in the air force, and after having gone through the past two months being unemployed, I realised how much of a diffrence a steady pay check can make. I would also like to feel as though I tried to help our country.
2006-10-19 08:24:00 · update #1
Okay, I'm a military spouse and I know several women who are single soldiers with kids. Some of them love the life and thrive, but it really is hard. You will have to have a family care plan on record that says who will care for your kids if you are deployed. If you get stationed overseas and deploy from there it can be especially difficult, you would most likely have to send your kids to the States to stay with family, not just for the year-long deployment, but before because there is a lot of required training before deployments and of course the kids can't tag along for that. I'm sure you know it would be very difficult for your kids if you were deployed. I know a woman right now who is taking care of two girls while their mother is deployed, and this isn't her first deployment. Her oldest daughter was raised by her Mom for a year, then both of her girls were raised by her sister for year, and now she has hired somebody for her current deployment. The girls are closer and more attached to this Nanny than they are to their parents (both parents are military). I'm not saying not to join, just take everything into account, because yes, there are excellent benefits.
2006-10-19 09:34:40 · answer #1 · answered by nimo22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have 2 children you better score above a 90 on your ASVAB For the Air Force I'm not sure what you have to score for other Branches... And The Father or Stepfather will have to be living with you and be able to take care of the children the entire time you're gone at basic and Tech School...If a Father or a military approved Guardian is not present you CAN'T join..... My husband joined *not for the benefits* in January of this year we already had 2 children and we were told that he could only go in if he scored above a 90... He scored 100... He left for basic and I did not see him again until Feb 21st when he graduated basic.... Then he was gone again until June 1st... He never got to come back home, I had to move to him when he was done with tech school... It's very hard to drive over 3,000 miles with 2 young children all by yourself... And if you're looking for a paycheck it'll be at least 45 days after your first day of Basic before you get any paycheck.... I know, We were not informed of that until after he was gone... I almost lost my home... The pay isn't that good either... My husband is an E-3 and we are at poverty level... We live from paycheck to paycheck... The place we moved to is very Expensive and our Housing allowance doesn't cover our rent or utilities... Hopefully we'll get on base in June... We're on a waiting list...
If you have other ways of bringing in money ; DO Those instead.... The Military is a great way of life but if you're looking for money It'll be awhile before you get good pay... The Health coverage is great though... I'm not saying that the military is a bad choice for anyone My husband and I are proud that we are a part of the Military, but make sure you Qualify before you make any major life changes... Go to a recruiter and find out for yourself... GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-10-19 15:39:09 · answer #2 · answered by secret agent lady 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Holly, I seriously doubt that the armed forces really needs a mother of two to defend the US against N.Korea. In the event the N.Korean thing really heats up, they will need bomb loaders more than anything. Unless you are over 200#'s and are able to bench press 400#, stay home and be a mother.
Seriously, the patriotism in women today, puts the guys to shame. I mean no disrespect to your gender, but I like so many guys in this country really see no advantage to our women in combat. I can also include the military complex in that comment, except I cannot officially speak for the military complex.
2006-10-19 15:43:52 · answer #3 · answered by briang731/ bvincent 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Only if you're prepared to work the hours they tell you and show up on time. Do you have someone to take care of them for free or are you ready to spend half your paycheck on childcare?
The benefits are good... the pays not so great.
Are you prepared to go on deployments and leave your children in someone else's care while they grow up and you are gone?
You could have to leave them on any notice... You may even have your deployment extended right before you think you're comming home.
Once you sign those papers... you belong to the government whether the codes on the papers you sign said what the man preparing them told you or not.
2006-10-19 15:23:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It depends on the age of your children. You will need someone to care for them while on long deployments over seas and for times that you will have to be away from home for training. I have to agree with the other comments, though. It is better for you to raise your children, The military life can be tough on children, especially in the pre teen years.
2006-10-19 15:33:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is definitely worth it. No other job is going to give you those benefits but it is definitely more than that. You can learn a skill so that when you get out, if you do, you can still be a productive person. I joined the Army right out of High School and I am definitely glad that I did. It gives you a chance to excel at just about anything you put your mind to.
2006-10-19 15:23:58 · answer #6 · answered by Sheila V 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You joking.I have been in N Korea ,if you will go there Vietnam are relaxing before Korea.I told to a lot of koreans they are crazy for Kim Ir Sen.Don`t watch CNN
2006-10-19 15:24:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider the effect on your children; what age are they and will your ex or other designated guardian take good care of them while you are on deployment?
There are tons of good moms in the service but it would certainly be an easier decision if you were childless ;-)
Good luck.
2006-10-19 15:33:34 · answer #8 · answered by blueprairie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, If you have ample means for the children to be looked after while you are in training e.g. boot camp and follow on training. And after all the schools are done and once you are permanently assigned somewhere, you just have to have means of providing daycare while you are working. It would be hard, but yes it is possible.
2006-10-19 15:20:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you have two kids and you arent married, good luck getting in, but no I don't think its worth it, you wont see your kids for like the first 3 months and then who knows from there, and what if you go to iraq? who is going to watch your kids and what if something happens to you? i would think about it alot more, if you're only going for benefits, find a better job.
2006-10-19 15:24:09 · answer #10 · answered by annie_4ever 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋