Why is that no matter how faithful, how in love we are, we all have that one (or more) person that we keep around in case things go wrong. That one person that we know that even after 20yrs you could click your fingers and you could have them. Be honest!!
2006-10-19 08:10:49 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
why is noone being honest?! In every friendship group you know one is there for your rebound!
2006-10-19 08:20:27 · update #1
I will be honest
I split up with my ex after 14 years together a couple of years ago and i met this guy we just had a sexual rel and that was that, this lasted for 6 months, we had both just came out of long rel and both of us was not ready to be in another rel so we just saw one another once or twice a week just to have sex and also we was helping one another through each of our heartache.
we both agreed that when we meet someone than we would stop straight away.
He met someone first and we stopped than i met someone.
Sometimes he still texts me when he is single or when he knows that i am also single.
but to be honest i have moved on a lot since than and i am not interested in that type of rel anymore.
I wont go back but its nice to think that i have someone there that i can call or text anytime but i know that i never will as i have now moved on but its nice to know that he is still there in a way.
2006-10-19 09:33:20 · answer #1 · answered by blondegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally, no, guys don't fall as easily as girls. This is because historically, guys are usually the ones who do most of the romantic pursuing--9 times out of 10, it's the guy starting the chat at a bar. In the role of "pursuer" in social situations, guys naturally become more accustomed to rejection than girls, and consequently become less attached early on (cause if the 1st girl says "No," there's 10 more who could say "Yes," right?) Building up a resistance to rejection means keeping yourself from getting too easily attached. So, even when things are going good, guys are conditioned to be less connected, especially early on.
2016-03-17 05:09:01 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it is just nice to know we have options. And to be totally honest, I have been a little nicer than I should be to some guys in past just to keep them interested in me even though I wasn't interested in anything more than a friendship with them. Mean, I guess, but just keeping my options open.
2006-10-19 08:18:34 · answer #3 · answered by turtle33 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think it is because you need to feel like there is always a back up in case you end up alone. If you know that person is there then there is no reason to worry about being alone. It's like a security blanket.
2006-10-19 08:14:08 · answer #4 · answered by cowchic9 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not true in my case, but I'm lucky to have a stable relationship for 18yrs and counting.
But then, I don't have "fall back" options - see below.
2006-10-19 08:14:16 · answer #5 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don’t have a fall back guy all the men I ever dated were complete idiots and I wouldn’t want to date them again.
2006-10-19 08:13:50 · answer #6 · answered by carla s 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hmm i don't have a fall back guy but i know if was to become single i certainly wouldn't have a problem hooking up with someone straight away. its so that you are not alone and you've got something to do, something to make your lonely days worthwhile.
2006-10-19 08:15:46 · answer #7 · answered by caroline b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Always good to have a back up, just in case.
2006-10-19 08:14:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because we are always affraid that the other shoe is going to drop...we are affraid to be alone in this hectic society...
2006-10-19 08:13:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i havent found that person yet, if you have then great for you. but to be honest knowing your only second choice is not sexy.
2006-10-19 08:14:44 · answer #10 · answered by cheeryeyeore 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋