I was seeing a woman and 4 months into the relationship I told her I don't want anything serious, just a no strings attached relationship. She understood and made mention of returning a CD to me that I loaned her. 3 days later a coworker handed me the CD, she had dropped it off at my work place. I tried calling her and she would never answer. 5 months later I went to a restaurant and saw her there with a man. When she saw me, she nodded her head at me but did not speak. I realize I made a mistake and I want her back in my life. She never did anything wrong, it was me. Should I call her or leave it alone?
2006-10-19 08:05:50 · 13 answers · asked by jerry 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So what you're saying is, you wanted to sleep with her without any relationship or commitment and basically offer her nothing. So she decided she deserved better and met someone new. And NOW you realize- 5 months later when she's with someone new-- that you made a mistake? LOL
Call if you want to, but if you did that to me, I'd laugh in your face, call you a loser and hang up.
I actually LIKE this woman! Good for her for having the self-respect to walk away from the crumbs you offered.
Incidently, what were you going to offer her this time around? A relationship with strings, or more of your crumbs?
2006-10-19 08:13:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on and start concentrating on you. This will do a couple of things: 1) Help you start feeling better about yourself and realise you don't HAVE to have him around. 2) Give him the space he needs to figure out what it is he is confused about. 3) If you start seeing other people, your ex might figure out what he wants a lot quicker and not want you to get away 4) By you seeing what else is out there, you might realise that this break-up was the best thing that ever happen to you. I have a feeling that there is NO WAY he is going to change his mind. The "if I change my mind" or "you never know what will happen in the future, we could get back together" B-S lines are just that, B-S!! He is just keeping his options open and wants you to sit around for him. Maybe give him one more chance, but make sure you tell him, It's either a yes or a no. If he is still trying to figure it out after 4+ years, then that alone is a No. I've been dumped by long term GF before and the best advice I can give is that you have to move on. If you don't, it just drags that pain of the breakup even longer. It will take some time, even a few months, but you will find another guy and be even happier then you think you ever will again. One last thought - and this might hurt to hear...but, it might not be that he doesn't want to be in a relationship, but that he already found someone else and he doesn't want to be in a relationship with you.
2016-05-22 02:48:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she has moved on. She probably wanted more than you did out of the relationship and was hurt by your response. If you really feel for her, you could try talking to her, but only if you are wanting a strings attached relationship. But, be prepared for rejection.
2006-10-19 08:09:00 · answer #3 · answered by nursejuley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Based on her response, it sounds like she's moved on. And I think that maybe you should to. But try talking to her about just having a friendship. If you still want her in your life, tell her that, maybe a serious relationship didn't work, but you'd still love to be in a friend relationship. If she refuses this, maybe she really hasn't moved on.
2006-10-19 08:10:02 · answer #4 · answered by jessi.swimchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try being a man and get on with your LIFE. And remember in the future that "you never miss your water until the well runs dry".
2006-10-19 08:13:37 · answer #5 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...it looks like you messed up real bad! Try calling her once. If that fails don't try again. Maybe she's willing to give you another chance, you better hope she does. Anyways. don't stalk or harrass her though. Just one phone call. That's all!
2006-10-19 08:12:33 · answer #6 · answered by Amber R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude she's moved on =( maybe you could just be her friend but then you might wanna be more and then your friendship is gunna go downward.. so i would just say either be her friend and take the chance of it being awkward or just get over her and find someone new
2006-10-19 08:10:12 · answer #7 · answered by ɫɦɾouɡɦ ɫɦɛ ɛɣɛʂ oʄ ɫɦɛ ɑvɛɴɢɛd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she made the right move. boy you reallf f*&%ed up! leave her alone. you probably want her because she was with another man. dont be like that move on
2006-10-19 08:11:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would call her and tell her how you feel. If she is happy in her current relationship you just have to respect that and let her be.
2006-10-19 08:08:43 · answer #9 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she has moved on. I suggest leaving her alone and finding someone else..
2006-10-19 08:07:34 · answer #10 · answered by movu101779 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋