I am a smart, funny, laid back girl who can not find a man to save my life!! The only thing "wrong" with me is that I am a bit over weight. I currently am working with a personal trainer to fix that -- but I think its wrong that I can not find a man the way I am -- I am fabulous! So my question is how do you get a man, a real man, to see past the non super model exterior and see the beauty on the inside.
*** Just as a side note -- I am told quite often that I am pretty and I shouldn't be so drastic -- so could it just be the fact that people in my area are to superficial?? -- BTW I am in PHX, AZ
2006-10-19 08:03:39 · 27 answers · asked by krissyb1980 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I will tell you this the exterior is only one piece of the puzzle in the puzzle of LOVE. How you project yourself to others is another and then your overall personality is yet another. Quite frankly love will come and maybe sooner than later, as love will find you when you least expect it.
In the mean time forget about the weight, sure for health reasons keep your weight down , but get that out of your head as being a reason of not finding someone yet.
Just find yourself and who you are and be confident of that appearance of how you project yourself to others.
Men like sexy, classy, funny , smart , caring, confidence, and a woman that will make them feel like a man.
So be your sexy confident self dress hot ( in a manner that makes you feel confident) if you like and it will all come
A real man
2006-10-19 08:11:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hiya chick
Im a what some ppl call a big woman. In that Im over 12 stone, and 5'7".
Beauty comes from within, you sound like a great person and dont worry that you're overweight, when you find someone who loves you they will love you for who you are. More blokes tell me that they like me because Im not stick thin - that looks nasty. Only loose weight if you want to - not because you think other ppl should see you differently. Im only 27 but as time goes on/get older more ppl respect who I am for me. Ppl say that Im good looking and they love my curves.
Ive had more attention from men because im confident and love myself for who I am - not worrying about what I should look like.
Dont look too hard and love will come and find you.
Stay happy
xxxxx
2006-10-19 15:12:50 · answer #2 · answered by passionate_angel101 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, not only are you fat, you have an ego to match! In all seriousness, d'you not suppose that perhaps - just perhaps - your inflated view of yourself is part of the problem? Are you, perhaps, too eager? You do not need a man to validate your worth as a human being, but it sounds as if you think you do. That, far more than a modest weight problem, is a real turnoff! Now, if you gots that ego and are eighty pounds or more overweight - sorry hun, but I wouldn't ask you out under those circumstances if you were the last woman on earth -'cause I don't care for the idea of watching you die an early death due to the health complications of your abysmal lifestyle.
2006-10-19 15:12:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes men do want a real woman and not necessarily a stick woman either. Personality is just as important as looks. One without the other is a disaster. Just be yourself and not be a fake and IT will happen, trust me.. Good luck.
2006-10-19 15:15:50 · answer #4 · answered by gary t 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because of your age, you may not find many guys who are interested in you for you. Most young guys are looking for the dime they can smash on; therfore are looking for the physical more than anything else. Take some time to work on you, and maybe consider dating slightly older men. Oh yeah, "hit it sideways like a crab", EAT SH#T!!
2006-10-19 15:09:08 · answer #5 · answered by P. C 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, I want a real woman. Even though I'm still pretty young, I think I would make the perfect husband. I cook, I clean, I'm going to be a doctor (and no, I'm not an asshole), and I enjoy life to the fullest.
2006-10-19 15:07:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You didn't state your age, but you'll discover that men remain "boys" until after about 30. Then they start to look past the external, they just need time to grown up.
2006-10-19 15:06:55 · answer #7 · answered by jack w 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
most people look at the package and decide what's inside without ever looking.
if I was single and a lot younger I'd ask you out just to see what others are missing.
im or email me if you ever want to chat.
2006-10-20 13:31:45 · answer #8 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember there are GOOD men out there, that will Love you for YOU...it just hasn't happened to you yet to meet Mr. Right, and as for you getting into shape that is good for you...do it for just you...always remember to LOVE yourself...to the fullest...don't worry what other people think of you..You know your a good person and that is all that Matters..good luck..stay Good to yourself and to Others...
2006-10-19 15:09:32 · answer #9 · answered by qdrama1956 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
look sweetie if u was in front of me and u was a smart funny laid back girl and ure only "problem" was being a bit overweight gawd ud be fighting me off u
2006-10-19 15:06:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋