My fiance is going to India on a business trip next month.His dad & I don't like the idea of him going. No one in his company wanted to go to India expet my fiance and on other guy whom I think is a scum. He said every one in his company is affraid to go to India because of the bombing & stuff. But my fiance is so exited go. He got me all scared. Because he like to joke alot with me. Yesterday he said the guy who's going with him wants to go to red light areas because he likes south asian women & that guy wants my fiance to go along with him. I freeked out.Then he said he was just kidding. He will never go.But his co-worker does like to go to red light areas though & has gone to red light area in Europe when he traveled with my fiance acouple of years ago. My fiance is a good guy. My mom said even good guys can get tempted when they hang out with bad company. I'm of Indian origin & my fiance is white. I'm affraid of Aids in India. I want him to only think of me when he is out there.
2006-10-19 07:53:18 · 12 answers · asked by cluelesschickus 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Wow! That's a lot of pressure you're feeling. It's terrible to be scared like that, but I think now is a great time to really search your heart (and your logical mind) to see if you really trust your fiance. If you have confidence in him, set aside your worries about him hurting you when he's away.
I think a lot of men get a bad rap...we girls assume that if a guy can get away with something, that he'll do it, but I don't think that's true. Men have consciences, too.
I think the best thing to do is to tell him your fears, like you've just told us. Be honest and let him know why you're uncomfortable with his trip. Don't do it to try to get him not to go, but to let him in on exactly what is worrying you.
If it makes you feel better, and he would have time, ask him to bring you a particular present from India. That way, you'll be able to imagine him looking for the item while he spends his free time there (you won't be as likely to imagine other ugly things).
2006-10-19 08:10:44 · answer #1 · answered by dashelamet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, what you have to think about is whether on not this man means a lifetime to you. You won't be able to stop him from doing things his entire life. I know it is wonderful to think that he thinks about you and only you, but the Most important thing is: does he want to spend the rest of his life with you.
Whatever happens in those few weeks in India, is not worth ruining a lifetime over. The more you worry about it, the worse YOU will feel, and the more stress you will put on this wonderful relationship.
I'd quit worrying about the short time in India for a visit, and start thinking about the wonderful years and years ahead.
CONGRATS
2006-10-19 15:03:29 · answer #2 · answered by sheristeele 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your just going to have to trust him on this one. I would tell him how you feel. But ifyou love him you can't make him stay if this is what he wants. And if he loves you he will be faithful to you while he is away.
I have couples from my church that they husband is going away for the military because he signed up when he was a teenager and now they are calling them to go over to Iraq and they have wives and kids. The things that get them through everyday is prayer. They talk everyday and we pary for them as well. We will fix food for them and spend time with them.
Ask the Lord to help you out on this one you probably can't conquer it on your own but God can give you the strength.
Tell him you love him and you want to trust him but your worried. Just take one day at a time and see how it goes. I wish you the best of luck!
2006-10-19 16:12:05 · answer #3 · answered by glitter3317 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every reason to feel sad or frightened. Just tell your fiance your feelings. If he's really as great as he seems he should understand your fears. Make him promise that, even if his co worker goes to the red light areas, he won't. Tell him how you feel about the AIDS in India. The best way to conquer anything is to come face-to-face to it.
2006-10-19 15:02:59 · answer #4 · answered by jessi.swimchick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he's your fiance .. then you need to trust him , but as a women you will always worrie. Hope all goes well.
2006-10-19 15:03:02 · answer #5 · answered by lilredhead 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him your going to have him tested for AIDS after he comes back. That way..even if he's tempted to do something bad, he'll think about it twice b/c you'll make him get tested.
2006-10-19 15:03:27 · answer #6 · answered by precious02k 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you have to trust him to do the right thing. If you don't trust him then you don't need to marry him.
2006-10-19 15:16:28 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course you have a reason. It's just too bad that there is nothing you can do.
2006-10-19 14:59:59 · answer #8 · answered by Yahoo! Answers Chic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TRUST him to do the right thing.
2006-10-19 14:55:57 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok well your fiance is gonna get aids, hes not going to tell you them when yall do the dirty he will give you aids and you will suffer itching and scratching
2006-10-19 14:56:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋