For older men, honest answers please.?

Question

I am 25 will be 26 in January, talking/seeing a 46 yr old man, what does an older man like? What are some things that I may need to know? I am recently divorced, a fulltime college student, and a single mother of one. Everything is good between us, but what else can I do to make it even better? Please give me some advice. Whats good and whats not?

He is not the average 46 yr old, he rides horses, and goes on trail rides, hes country, I am too. I have horses, and am very much into the same things. He works alot and is a main boss over quite a few crews across Tennessee. He really is a great guy. He isn't a controlling type person, or anything like that. My family has known him for years.

Answer 1

Having had experiences before he should be easier to please than a younger man.
They are also not as volatile, as long as they are mentally and emotionally healthy.

In answer to your email (yours hasn't been confirmed so couldn't send it to you):

When I see sincere questions I treat them the same way.
Concerning your quest, a more mature man will handle your emotional ups and downs with more understanding than a younger man will.
I have heard from a number of younger ladies who felt that the relationships they had with older men were much more satisfying than that with less mature individuals.
That said, of course it also depends on the man involved, as not all of them mellow similarly as they age.
So, you still need to use your judgment as to how well your interests and preferences match. Same thing with your personalities.
I have always felt that you can find someone way off your age that might be better for you than most much younger.
When I was 27, I met the aunt of our neighbor, who was 94 and flirted like crazy with me.
Still one of my best memories, and one that made me look at chronological age entirely different from the way I had before, or how most (99.999%) of young people do today.
Go by what you feel, NOT by what people tell you. It's the only thing that counts.
Good luck with your guy!

Answer 2

I read several of the posts, and I'm guessing you're breaking it off with the other fella ? I'm not criticizing, just wondering if you know what YOU want.
You should know relationships are all good in the beginning. It is easy to see passed someone's faults. But they are there and they may become annoying later.


Anyway, if dude is checking you out, and knows of your child, and has been a family friend for a while, then don't move too fast. But go ahead. Don't up and move in with him anytime soon, just because you were tired of living at two houses in your last relationship. But let him show you a different side of things. Guys eventually learn how to treat a woman, and he probably knows.

Answer 3

I am 51, and my wife is 33, so I think I can give better answers than "your screwed".

ACCEPTANCE
I don't see the age difference as a big deal, since my wife is educated and smart. (Actually one of the smartest women I know) she accepts me for who and what I am, and is the only woman who has been in my life that has not tried to change me.

COMMON GROUND & COMPROMISE
You should have common interests. If you like rap crap, and he is a country kind of guy, then prepare yourself for strife. Remember, he is much older than you, has much more experience, and is much, much more set in his ways.

Be prepared for the inevitable questions such as "what do you see in an older man, & Is he your dad". Ultimatly, it doesn't matter what others think, it's about how you two feel. I don't even feel the age difference in our relationship.

Good Luck

Answer 4

From my experience:
(1) Lots of intellectual communication, about the relationship, about politics, about arts, about both shared interests and individual interests.
(2) Involving your child (how he is and how he acts as a quasi-steparent will tell you a lot about him and if things should go on).
Share dinner alltogether nightly; go on a lot of trips (day trips of more) alltogether, have him involved with your child's schoolwork.
(3) Plenty of great, long-lasting, affectionate lovemaking (note I say "lovemaking" not just sex) with lots and lots and lots or oral.
(4) If (like me) you have discovered how incredibly wonderful (and different) a relationship is with a much older man and you are happy you can never tell him that too much, and that you wish a future.
(5) You and he should pledge to do at least one extra thoughtful things for each other every day.

Answer 5

Honestly honey, I think he's probably just totally happy that a 25 yr old is sleeping with him. Let him do the work and worrying. You should be sitting back and letting him take care of you. He's the lucky one here.

Answer 6

Sounds like it is already good however you just want to avoid the imature stuff. Most of us guys that like younger women want a mature one not a woman that is whiney or loves to argue and nit pick everything we do. If you think you are mature enough for that then you will probibbly do alright.

Answer 7

Im not trying to be rude... But I dont understand why you would want to date an older man? Instead of someone your own age. Someone that wont die before you and someone that has more in common with you. Im dont mean to come off mean... And Im not here to try and make you change your mind. I was just wondering what was upwith the ladies. thats all.!

Best of wishes to you and your man! =)

Answer 8

Just be yourself. Does he seem happy with you and the relationship. Older men usually like younger women, which you are. You're worrying about a non problem.

Answer 9

think like a 46 year old woman. older men like hobbies. stay informed on current events too.

Answer 10

ummm i mean im olda but am only 31 46 seems so far off god knows what i would want at that age