Muslim question, only people that have read the Quaran as I need the right advice?

Question

I am Muslim and I met a Muslim girl and we fell in love with each other, after a week she told me that she is not a virgin that she made a mistake with another man and prays to Allah to forgive her for her mistake.. I understand that it was a mistake and I want to marry her, she never told her parents of her mistake, so her parents think she is still a
virgin my parents also think she’s a virgin. Now if I marry her is it 7araam on my part???

I want to Ostorha because she understands her mistake and asks for forgiveness from Allah everyday.. now if I marry her do I get SAWAAB????

also the wedding night as a custom both parents want to see her blood on a cloth the next morning. This is a must to show this cloth with her virgin blood on it….If I cut myself and put my own blood on the cloth and tell my parents its her virgin blood and also tell her parents the same, would that be 7araam to lie to both my parents and her parents and keep it a secret for life to Ostorha?????

Answer 1

I am a Muslim and I think that the concept of Allah being a compassionate entity is the best way to look at this problem. I also think that Parents should come out of the Middle ages and respect the privacy of their Children.

Answer 2

hi!dear!well,first of all you have to be sure she's not deceiving you.since there are some people who pretend they are afraid of what they've done but they aren't really afraid of.for example because they want to achieve what they like,after ensuring you can also try"Istikharah"(asking Allah what to do by doing some prayers,which is done by holy people)(I don't know if you've heard of that or not),after that you have to "tavakkul"(like&want anything Allah likes&wants&pray him to help you to choose the best way).I hope you'll find the best way!

Answer 3

First of all, she should not be persecuted for having sex. God gave sex as a gift.

Your sex life with your wife is private and to be required to show evidence to anyone else is obscene. Your wife's "virgin blood" is her business alone because it has no impact on anyone else. If you really love her, you'd respect her alot more.

Answer 4

Man, you've asked this question before, and you already got some answers for it...What exactly are you trying to prove?

Answer 5

Have you read this book and what are your view or answers to the list below from this book?

The Truth About Muhammad
by Robert Spencer

Meet the real Muhammad:


Muhammad's bizarre reaction to his first "revelation": "I will go to the top of the mountain and throw myself down that I may kill myself"

The heretical Christian who convinced Muhammad he was a prophet – and may have taught him his erroneous views of Christianity

Islamic borrowings from Judaism, Christianity, and Zoroastrianism – and Muhammad's enraged replies to charges that he borrowed material rather than received actual divine revelations

The "revelation" that allowed Muhammad to marry his beautiful daughter-in-law

The strange incident in Muhammad's life that makes it virtually impossible to prove rape in Islamic countries today

The real "Satanic Verses" incident (not the Salman Rushdie version): how Muhammad's attempt to win over his opponents ended with his saying he had been inspired not by God, but by Satan

How the Qur'an's teaching on warfare against unbelievers developed – with constant war to establish the hegemony of Islamic law as the last stage

The first year of the Muslim calendar: not when Muhammad was born or became a prophet, but when he became a warlord

How Muhammad used the graphic lure of Islamic Paradise to urge his warriors to fight furiously to extend his rule

"Kill every Jew who comes into your power": why Muhammad became so angry with both Jews and Christians – with disastrous consequences that are still playing out in the world today

The momentous command by Muhammad that led to good being identified with anything that benefited the Muslims, and evil with anything that harmed them --without reference to any larger moral standard

Muhammad's child bride – and the terrible consequences his marriage to a nine-year-old still has in the Islamic world

"This is the caravan of the Quraysh possessing wealth. It is likely that Allah may give it to you as booty": how Muhammad gave divine sanction to the Muslims' bloody raids

"War is deceit": the permission Muhammad gave his followers to lie in order to gain an advantage over their enemies

How Muhammad broke the principal treaty he entered into, again setting a pattern for Muslim states thereafter

Muhammad's commands to his followers to wage perpetual war against non-Muslims, including Jews and Christians

Muhammad on women's rights: women "are prisoners with you having no control of their persons"

"If justice is not to be found with me then where will you find it?" Why Muhammad still stands for Muslims as the supreme model for human behavior

"I will expel the Jews and Christians from the Arabian Peninsula, and will not leave any but Muslims" – and other statements by Muhammad that contemporary jihadists take very seriously

Islamic tolerance? The onerous tax burden and other discriminatory regulations mandated for non-Muslims under Islamic law

How Muhammad ordered the killing of apostates from Islam

The massacre of a Jewish tribe by Muhammad that was invoked by modern-day jihadists at the beginning of Israel's July 2006 operations against Hizballah in Lebanon

"Embrace Islam, and your lives and property will be safe": Muhammad's threatening letters to the rulers of the lands around Arabia

Muhammad's frequent avowals that the Muslims would overcome the empires bordering on Arabia and one day stand as masters of the world

"I have been made victorious with terror" – and other statements of Muhammad on his deathbed

Six steps that American leaders can and must take in order to protect our nation from Islamic jihad terrorism