2006-10-19 07:39:26 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
she will have to deal with that. She will be fine. But that is her issure. You can't make it better, but you can make it worse by being a victim and him the bad guy. Keep it positive. Point out when others have a split family. Let her know it is not abnormal. Keep it light, if you feel happy with your lives, then she will pick up on that...
2006-10-19 10:19:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
all children are different and even though the way that you raise your daughter will help it really has no permanent bearing on the way that she accepts the fact that she doesnt know her dad my room mate lived for years with out her dad and then he found her and that was probably the worst mistake that we ever made she has a really hard time trying to deal with the hurt that he put her through by not being there and though girls need their mother they also need their father and no matter what she will love her dad somewhere inside her heart i hate my room mates dad but no matter what she loves him and we have been like sisters for ten yrs i was glad that she got to meet her dad and am glad that she has gotten to know him a little better than she did before but as i said before the way that you raise your child has nothing to do with the way that they react to the tragedy. just explain things clearly and calmly to her unless there are circumstances (rape, abuse etc) that would make things more derogatory for her just be sure to be there to help her through things and be sure that she understands when she gets old enough to have sex that what she is looking for is a soul mate someone that loves her through the good and the bad and make sure that what she is looking for is not the father that she never had that is the issue that we have had the most trouble with. she is also going to go through stages when she wants to know why her daddy doesnt love her the way that the other kids' daddys love them but that is perfectly normal. when she gets older you can tell her the truth that her dad didnt want any thing to do with her or whatever so that she is not holding him to a standard that he will never meet. but be gentle this is her heart and emotional well being that you hold in your hands
2006-10-20 01:21:23 · answer #2 · answered by askingandanswering 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I'm sorry that happened to you and your baby. I experienced the same thing almost 29 years ago with my daughter's father. Children can grow up without emotional damage without a dad/father with lots of love and support from a loving mother and other family members. I'm sure that someday you will meet another man who will become significant in your your child's life. Seek support from parenting groups. I wish they had been there when I was a single parent. Be strong and caring in your child's developement and care and your child will be just fine.
2006-10-19 14:50:47 · answer #3 · answered by oceanna_pei 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My kids did not have their dad from birth to -my daughter was 9 and my son was 4(different dads) neither one stuck around after the "Guess what, I'm pregnant"part. I met their step-dad and married in 2002. They are both good kids. Son is 9 and daughter is 13. I am sure you will meet a man and have another relationship.Her dad does not have to be her biological one . A step-father can love her as his own.Don't worry. A mother's love is enough right now.Just never lie to her about her real dad and never talk bad about him in front of her.If he never comes back. Give her the option to find him. I hope you go after his a*# for child support. It is the least he can do.
2006-10-19 14:53:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls who do not have the love of their fathers or feel they don't have a tendency to more likely seek it out in other males in the form of sex in their teens.
Now that is a pretty scary statistic but if that girl has a grandfather who is loving or a male role model. Or if you marry and that man is a loving father to your daughter she is in good shape.
It doesn't matter whether it is the female child, male child or the spouse or adult in the house, when a family splits it is emotionally damaging to all but can be dealt with if it is approached and not squelched back and there is love.
2006-10-19 14:50:37 · answer #5 · answered by rltouhe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
both of my kid's "dads" walked out and my two went through the "where's my dad?" stage. then they will go through the "I want to live with dad" stage and the "I hate my dad" stage and "my dad's a jerk" stage. it's normal. I think that mine have accepted the "no dad" thing and are are emotionally stable.
it's hard being a single parent girl. I know, I have raised my son as a single parent since he was 15 months old and my daughter since she was 6 months old. He is 14 and she is 10. Except for the three years with her dad, I've done it on my own.
good luck and do the best you can and your child will eventually realize that.
2006-10-19 14:46:36 · answer #6 · answered by gonepostalinmo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO.
With the condition that you keep yourself up and positive all the time and maintain it to the best because all 1st good education is coming from mother.
Mother touch/Nanny/anybody who grow the baby gives biggest impact on the child growth mentally.
Find your trustful buddy (your brother, your father, your male friends, etc that male and have the quality of wisdom) and let your baby socialized with. So your child won't miss fatherly figure.
2006-10-19 15:35:12 · answer #7 · answered by W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No she will be just fine. You will eventually find someone to be good to both of you. My oldest sons father walked out on us when the baby the 3 months old at 2 I met a wonderul man and we got married, he adopted my son and we now have another baby together and are trying for another. You and her will be fine, just be strong and be the best mama you can be...Good Luck to both of u ...
2006-10-19 14:56:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think she will....but dont let him walk in and out of her life,the back and forth stuff can be damaging,he has to know he's either in or out. And make sure that if you find another b.f or husband that he is a positive influence,because if anything can be damaging its a bad step-father figure. And you may have to help her with her self esteem,let her know shes beautiful,smart,strong,.etc That will help when shes old enough to have a boyfriend of her own and she hopefully picks a great guy because she felt worthy thanks to mom.
2006-10-19 14:51:08 · answer #9 · answered by prettybelle7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No she wont be damage you have a girl i have 2 boys and a 3rd on the way and none of there dads are there for them i do it all so dont stress about that just raise your daughter.
2006-10-19 14:46:36 · answer #10 · answered by pg#3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋