My GF and I just seperated after 4 years, we have a 3 year old daughter and have decided to try reconciliation in the upcomming new year. While I want to spend time with her, she really doesn't seem to. She has a new group of friends now, and goes out with them all the time doing things that she never wanted to do while we were together. Plus there is a guy in her new group that likes her and constantly is trying to kick it with her. She says that she is not intrested, and wants to get back together with me. Just not yet. Should I be worried? Should I trust her? Or should I just cut my losses and move on?
2006-10-19 07:36:30 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think she is confused, you see you are the old, stable, baby's daddy relationship and this guy is the new thing. I think you should tell her that you love her and want to work things out and that she has a open invitation with you but also let her know that you are no longer going to put your self out there if she is not making an effort . From there stop calling and trying, but be nice and not pushy. And only see her if you are going to be with your child. In other words ignore her a little bit and if she really cares she'll find her way back to you.
2006-10-19 07:43:33 · answer #1 · answered by M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, she might not be ready to try it again and is happy at where she's at right now. Only you can choose if you want to wait for her. It seems like she has moved on, but it could also be that she knows she has you. Just be friends with her and be cool and see what happens. If she doesn't want to spend time, then just let her come to you to spend time. Good luck. I would suggest being friends and do your thing and she'll come back when she sees you're having fun.
2006-10-19 14:44:07 · answer #2 · answered by ConfusedK 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Move on. If she really wanted to be with you, she'd do it immediately instead of keeping you on the back burner while she tests the waters with this other guy. I know girls pretty well, so expect her to show a lot of interest in you once you leave. Don't fall for it. If she was genuinely interested, she'd show it NOW instead of when you walk out the door. Hang in there, sweetie.
2006-10-19 14:40:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
sorry but no one can reallly answer this but you and i wouldnt want to say leave her or stay with her as i dont know what shes like and i havnt seen the way she acts.
if you have a deep down feeling then go with that, like you feel its going nowhere or you want to just give up
but first of all have a long talk with her ask her what she thinks and whats going on, she may be offended if shes not actually cheating but its the best thing to do if your worried
good luck =)
2006-10-19 14:43:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
how can she be cheating if you two are not together? it doesnt make any sense. she just got comfortable with her new found freedom, a little two comfortable. let her know that you are not a bouncing dummy that is ready to return when SHE is ready. If this girl has hurt you more that yall are not together then maybe you need to leave her alone. why dont YOU find new friends and maybe you might find a girl who is interested in you and make her jealous!
2006-10-19 14:43:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's hard to say, but if u have a gut feeling than she is. Cut Ur losses and move on but still be friends and cordial to one another for the baby.
Go with what u think and feel.
Good luck!!!!
2006-10-19 14:42:01 · answer #6 · answered by thickfudge 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should trust her you have been together for 4 yers right ? you got a kid right so what if guys wanna kick it with her doesnt mean she wants to. dont be worried try counseling if you cant figure things out together all guys are like that jealous and paranoid remember you have to see it to believe it!
2006-10-19 14:46:05 · answer #7 · answered by N1¢KOZ BABY LA9RIMA5 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well you guys need to talk it out. you guys have a child now, and need to quit qorrying about each other and focus on the child. she sounds immature. what kind of mother doens't want to spend timw with her family. she really needs to grow up or she will be heading no where fast. you need to just fill your child and home with love. your little girl should be the most imporatnt aspect here, and if the mother is out lolly gagging around then something needs to be said and done about it.
2006-10-19 14:40:54 · answer #8 · answered by keeping it real 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give her a chance, until she proves otherwise then stay and try to work things out. Good luck.
2006-10-19 14:40:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut your losses and move on. If he has any smarts he will break down her walls shortly.
2006-10-19 14:38:15 · answer #10 · answered by gauthier613 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋