Ok, so I was with a guy for 5 months. His ex gf came back last month and was asking him to get back together. He waivered with me for a few weeks then went to her. He said he is hurting because he knew what we had was so special. He said he loved everything about me and I made him feel good and we were amazing when we were together, but he needed to see if this old relationship would work. He admitted to me that going to her was a safety and that for me it was risky and he didn't want to get hurt. So, is he only taking the easy way out, does he love me like he said he does? And will he see what he had with me was better than what they had. He said, he never felt that way for her, the way he felt for me, but they went out for 1 1/2 years, and had history.
2006-10-19 07:35:08 · 10 answers · asked by nursejuley 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He might be telling you what you want to hear if he really loved you he wouldnt have thought once about going back to his ex. He fed you some really good B.S
2006-10-19 07:37:27 · answer #1 · answered by . 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to tell with us men......sometimes we put it all out there (our true feelings). At other times we just say what we feel will get us off the hook......it's unfortunate, but true. Obviously, none of us can say what is going through his mind, or more importantly what his feelings really are......but at least from the way you've expressed his words it could be construed either as honest feelings, and that he was soul-searching....or that he needed a good, viable, believable excuse to be forgiven and accepted by you. So.....in the end, take it with a grain of salt, and keep your eyes peeled for signs......cheaters always develop a pattern, so do liars. Unfortunately when it comes to relationships you either trust or you don't.....and even when you trust, you don't take everything at face value.
Best of Luck!
2006-10-19 14:50:59 · answer #2 · answered by Ralph 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a guy who likes all his eggs in one basket so to speak. He will tell you that you are great and your relationship with him was one of a kind so he can keep you on this imaginary string and this other girl is getting a story that is similar. Take it from me as long as both of you stay interested in him he will continue to take advantage of what he has. If you really want to know the truth then cut him loose, this will force him to make a choice and stop leading you two girls on. The end result could be bad but at least you will know.
2006-10-19 14:55:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion; he's leaving the option open with you. That way if the ex doesn't work out, then he can come back to you and cry on your shoulder telling you how wrong he was and he should never have left you, you're so special. That is until another ex shows up or his interest changes. I think he's stringing you along. I wouldn't listen to it, I'd make sure I was unavailable...emotionally and physically. He's playing both sides, imagine what he's telling her.
2006-10-19 14:41:36 · answer #4 · answered by Stephie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know the guy, but if he went back there was a reason. You were with him for 5 months and he still left, if he really felt that way, he would have known and would not have dealt with his ex. GOod luck, but I think you are better off with out him.
2006-10-19 14:39:29 · answer #5 · answered by ConfusedK 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, he's not telling you what you want to hear. He's telling you it's OVER between you because he's chosen to go back to his girlfriend. He doesn't really love you because a man in love doesn't dump you for another girl, does he?
What difference does it make if HE decides you're better than her? How could you take him back after being treated like crap?
I can guarantee he'll be begging you to take him back in about 30-40 days. Don't do it. He's a jerk who has no idea what love means. He must be about 17 years old.
2006-10-19 14:40:07 · answer #6 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the thing about history is that its in the past. which is where u should leave him. if he isnt willing to take a risk for u...dont go back to him and take a risk yourself. find someone that is appreciative of u and wont waiver or go off with other girls b/c they are a safety net.
2006-10-19 14:39:01 · answer #7 · answered by jenivive 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he is telling you what he thinks you want to hear. I realize it may be hard for you but I think you should let this guy leave your life; if he comes back to you, make clear that you want a person who will be there for you as you are for them, not someone who doesn't seem to value a good relationship or seems confused.
2006-10-19 14:38:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
What a jerk...I would not let him back...his lose. You can do better.
2006-10-19 14:37:09 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's such a *****!!**** him i so hate guys sometimes.
2006-10-19 14:41:01 · answer #10 · answered by serenity 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋