the problem is it means moving up to warrington and i live in wals but me and the babys dad want to be together i really love my mum but all we are doing lately is arguing and its not fair on the baby so i really want to move away for a break. i am going up to see him in the half term and i am going to see how we get on but i am desperate to be with him. how do i tell my mum that i cnt live with her anymore because of the arguing and because i want to be with my fiance?
2006-10-19 07:31:46 · 36 answers · asked by KaTiE 2K6 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
If you are old enough to have a baby then you are old enough to make your own decision of where to live. If you want to make your family whole by living together than do it. Your mom needs to know that you cannot live with her forever. Moving away does not mean you love your mom any less. It means you are maturing enough to be able to make it on your own. Congratulations on the baby.
2006-10-19 07:42:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mention half term so I'm assuming you are both very young?
If your mum has looked after you and the baby you can't blame her for feeling desperately worried about you moving away. Perhaps your plan to visit your fiance for a short while is a good idea. I expect you'll find out that being a full time mum and dad is no picnic and you may value you mum's help more. Talk to your mum about your problems, maybe you can work something out, remember the baby is the most important person to consider in all of this
2006-10-23 02:43:29 · answer #2 · answered by Grand Diva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might seem like a really tricky problem, but the answer is really very simple. You have a fiance, and a 12 week old baby now, they are your new family. As harsh as it may seem, your mum has had her turn and needs to appreciate that you have grown up and need to move on. Wales to Warrington isn't really that far. Explain to her that you'll visit as often as you can and that she's welcome to visit you, but you have to do this.
2006-10-19 10:48:59 · answer #3 · answered by Gail H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arguing is not good for neither of you or the baby. Both of you need a heart to heart. Sit and have a chat about what you want and how you are feeling. Whatever happens, just make sure you end on a postive note as you never know when you will need to call on her for assistence. After all no matter what, your mum will always be there for you!!
2006-10-19 10:40:01 · answer #4 · answered by fire 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your mum is just scared for you, tell her she is always welcome, for as long as she likes, or as little. let her no that even though you are moving on with your life and you have a family of your own your mum is still a very big part of it. let her know that you want to be with your fiance and son but most importantly you want your son to have a bond with his dad and grow up under the same roof and see his first steps, tooth, smile etc etc, im sure your mum will understand she properly feels like she is loosing you, reassure her she has got a second home at yours, this should work. good luck with the baby and future move.
2006-10-19 09:25:39 · answer #5 · answered by shayney boy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound very young. Dont rush into anything, living away from home is a heck of a lot harder than living with a boyfriend, paying your own bills, having your own money worries. I would really carefully consider staying with your mum. I know it is easier said than done but try and talk to your mum about why you want to leave home, that you think arguing is not doing your baby any good.
If you are at school please please please stay and finish. Your future will be a lot brighter with qualifications, you will be able to get a decent job and be able to afford to move away properly.
Talk to your health visitor about your problems. They are an excellent shoulder to cry on and have lots and lots of advice and resources for you.
Good luck
2006-10-19 09:04:25 · answer #6 · answered by Dingle-Dongle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you and the childs father can provide a comfortable environment for the baby, then that should be tried - there are too many children growing up away from their fathers. By the way - are you still at school?- if so, then maybe you should arrange to finish your schooling in Warrington. Believe me, you'll regret it later if you don't!
2006-10-19 08:08:34 · answer #7 · answered by angela h 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have to be honest with your mum, and tell her that the baby's mum and dad need to be together for the sake of the baby as a mother she should understand that and be happy for you, you have your own family now and need to move on your mother has had her family, tell her you will see her as often as possible and you will phone her at least 3 or 4 times a week, good luck
2006-10-23 02:30:17 · answer #8 · answered by bluebell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to leave on a good terms with your mother, just tell her that you feel like the child needs to be with the father now, and that bonding is very important for them. You can also tell her that you appreciate everything that she's done for you and the baby, but you feel very strongly about your child knowing the dad.
2006-10-19 07:44:25 · answer #9 · answered by drewsilla01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl get off your *** and move in with your fiance its your life not your mums. the arguments are bad for the baby he/she will feel the tension. just go into your mum today and tell her mum im moving out with my fiance and ill be visiting you either once a week or once a month. visit her when it suits you not her. she cannot rule your life for ever. you have lived with her since you were born now get on with your life yourself and your baby and your fiance
2006-10-19 23:24:59 · answer #10 · answered by flower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋