I'm a step father to 2 children, the oldest is 16 (I've helped raise her since she was 9) and for the last 3 years she's gone overboard lazy about school. Her report cards went from A's and B's in elementary to mostly C-'s, D's and F's. She's now a sophomore in High School but is off to another bad start. I've tried talking to her, taking away freedoms, offering incentives ($25 an A, $15 for B, $0 for C, D's and F's she owes equivalent of A and B) but nothing is working.
Part of the situation is that I work far from home and am only there on the weekends. Not much time to help with homework but I'm in constant communication with my wife. I'm hoping there might be some suggestions out there that might get through to her that she's really throwing away her future now by not applying herself in school.
Part of the situation is that I work far from home and am only there on the weekends. Not much time to help with homework but I'm in constant communication with my wife. I'm hoping ther
2006-10-19
07:29:23
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What are her interests? She may be very intelligent but not a natural scholar. Try to encourage her to develop her natural gifts- everyone has their own. Teens need role models and encouragement, even when they don't act like it.
She needs to be involved in something that will bring her fulfillment and joy- an after-school program, charity, drama group, big sister program, sports, something. Have you looked into the possibility she is suffering from depression?
P.S.- Also, try to find a tutor.
2006-10-19 07:41:53
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answered by Anonymous
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I hate to possibly be a bearer of bad news. I'm not long out of high-school myself, and I rarely did my homework. During the first few grades, I was undiagnosed dyslexic. I had alot of negative experiences with homework and teachers. For example, my teachers would grade daily homework on spelling, handwriting, then whether or not the answers were correct, so I got alot of D's and F's on daily homework, but I would ace every test with an A or a B. That turned me off from homework and I was never really able to get past it, then it got to the point that I saw no reason to do homework when I was absorbing everything during class time and getting A's and B's on tests and finals. It wasn't that I was a bad student, but I had really overbearing teachers.
Nothing my parents did could get me to do homework. They tried the same things. I wasn't diagnosed dyslexic until a school I moved to coerced my parents into getting me tested, and to this day they don't believe in dyslexia. I think the was the 7th grade or there abouts. It's not the cop-out laziness dyslexia, either, it's a true disconnect between audio, visual and repeating written and spoken language. I was always a better hands-on or auditory learner.
2006-10-19 08:22:04
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answered by sovereign_carrie 5
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I am currently a senior girl in high school, and my parents had the same problem with me. Personally, it made me more angry to get things taken away, i.e computer, phone, ect. I would then rebel, and not try at all. My problem was, that I did not put homework or studying fist. My teachers talked with my parents and they decided to do a "friday sheet". This is a sheet that is sent home to the parents every friday after being filled out and signed by the teacher. It stated my homework being completed or not, how I acted in class and what my weakessess and strenghts were. Also, what my parents never did was congratulate me on what i improved or did well in, such as english or art, but they would focus all attention on my math and science instead. Lastly, my parents helped me make sure that my homework was done by saturday night before I went out anywhere, and every night before i talked on the phone, went on the internet, or went somewhere. This worked by having an assignment notebook, which can also be signed by teachers daily, and brought home. It may not be that she needs help doing it, but needs help getting organized.
2006-10-19 07:40:26
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answered by Anonymous
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Have you spoken to her teachers? There may be something going on at school that is keeping her from doing her best. Also, and I know this is hard to think about, but drugs or other illicit activities can also have a huge negative impact on scholastic achievement.
Assuming nothing like that is going on, nothing can be a substitute for your interest, support, communication and, of course, love. Have you looked into the possibility of working closer to home so you can be with her more often. Barring that possibility, consider this: you say you're in constant communication with your wife, why not do the same with your daughter? Talk to her, ask her questions, be interested in her life (not just in but out of school, too). She may act resentful but if you're not overbearing about the interest you take in her life she'll most likely be grateful that you've taken the interest.
2006-10-19 07:43:23
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answered by Playboy 2
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answered by ? 4
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