I know it's stupid, and last year i'd have said only ugly people meet on the net but i joined this website and met this guy. We started talking on msn, sometimes till 5/6am. Then we started talking on the phone..he lives in spain and it always seemed to be me calling him (v.expensive). He sends me songs his written and vice versa. I think about him all the time. How can i get over him? It's ruined my relationships with anyone else coz i always compare them with him...HELP!
2006-10-19 07:18:35 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're living in a dream world. Snap out of it and pay attention to real life. He's probably just looking for a visa.
2006-10-19 07:22:47 · answer #1 · answered by running_with_scissors55 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh trouble Lisa, big trouble. If there is a chance that you two can make it work then you are fine. BUT if its jus a fling and you're fallin for him.......DON'T-you may wanna stop the whole thing. This guy will of course be tooooooooo perfect, you don see him so its the mystery that taking you in. So of course when you talk it can only be the sweet sugary stuff. On the other hand real pple are gonna get on your nerves and compared to him of course they don't stand a chance at all. Its may jus be a fantasy, you may jus be in love with the whole idea and not him per se. I understand you coz we all wish for such perfection in in all our relationships but its all too good to be true. Can you live with him and continue like that, does he not have his own complicated relationships back home. Its a relief from all the complications but think of the long term too. There may be amazing love stories the world over of pple who meet the way you have just be sure its really what you want. Who knows it may jus happen to you too. But you know yourself better. Jus do some serious soul-searching and I hope you will be happy with whatever you settle for.
hope to hear how this turns out!!!
2006-10-19 07:31:20 · answer #2 · answered by Bootilicious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my husband in a chat room on the internet over 10 years ago. This was before all the sickos discovered the internet. We found out that we actually lived about 20 minutes away from each other so we decided to meet for coffee. We have been inseparable since then. We were engaged within 2 months and married within the year. We now have been married for 10 years and have 3 kids. We still hold hands, hug and kiss everyday and he makes me laugh and still tells me he loves me all the time. We have a really great relationship!
2016-05-22 02:25:37 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear lisa,
well i gues you are realising why this aint right...this guy is mr perfect in your head because you do not see him, and you do not get many of the important information you would get if you would see him in person..so the thigs you do not know, see you imagine. THat is very normal, I think. I also have and have right not some virtul love stories...some were very virtual, one was really holiwood style, becase when I met the guy he was a completely different person from what I it seemd to me trough letters and pictures...this guy even called his mom on the first and last date we had! lol. Now I am not saying it will not work. What I say is that try to meet the guy in person as soon as possible. Then you will know if you like him or not at all...and oh, please tell him that it would be nice if he calls you sometimes too. Plus you can chat as well...yahoo messenger is for free.
Good luck!
2006-10-19 07:31:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my wife on the internet. We've now been married 6 years.. have 3 beautiful kids and are very happy.
I'm pretty ugly though so that sort of proves your theory... The missus is nice though so that sort of disproves it....
anyway...
What you need to do is stop spending money on talking to the guy on the phone and get over there and meet him. Then you will know if he and you are serious about this or not. I wouldn't take the fact that you call him all the time with little effort on his part with that as a good sign though to be honest.
2006-10-19 07:39:09 · answer #5 · answered by Martin G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing to look at is you call him, he doesn't call you. What's with that? Big deal, he sends you songs, you send him what? If your life is so narrow that this is all you can think about then I suggest you evaluate what you want from life and rethink your thinking. The other point you said is that this has ruined relationships with anyone else...there too is a red flag. Make yourself inavailable to him, be around your friends here more and get socially involved with people your age and interest at home. Go out on dates with girlfriends, groups, boyfriends. Lose yourself in better things here and you'll be fine.
2006-10-19 08:24:56 · answer #6 · answered by plitsmay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's stupid. I'll admit, I've shared your same outlook on internet datin (ugly people haha) but I changed my mind when my mother (freshly divorced from my dad after a long marriage of separations) met and fell in love with a man through Yahoo personals. They're married now and I've never seen my mom so happy. Love comes in all kinds of ways. Don't disregard it just because of where or how you met. But DO take caution if you ever decide to meet him. There's a lot of weirdos on the internet these days. Hope I helped!
2006-10-19 07:24:15 · answer #7 · answered by hklcrazy4him 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I heard about one girl that was 17 who flew to the middle east to marry a guy she met on the internet. I don't know if its true or not.
If you really want to get over him, just stop talking to him. You really don't have that personal of a relationship considering you've never met him. Delete his e-mail, phone number, IM name, and all that other stuff. Instead of thinking of him as an actual person, think of him as a fantasy guy. You really don't know what he's truly like in person. He could have a perfectly good relationship in Spain that you aren't aware of.
2006-10-19 07:23:07 · answer #8 · answered by JayEmmBee 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Since you don't really know him because you've never met him, you do not love him. You love the idea of him and the idea of being in love. When you compare others you are comparing them against a fantasy which isn't real.
You may need to seek professional help to figure out why you are attracted to a relationship you cannot have.
2006-10-19 07:24:59 · answer #9 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I fell in love online. Its a great way to meet people you would never have met otherwise. Enjoy your fling. I hope you get to meet him one day. Wouldn't that be romantic if it works out? If it doesn't then you at least have a place to crash when you are in Spain. Good luck!
2006-10-19 07:24:20 · answer #10 · answered by cutencurley_05 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋