the week prior to my best friends engagement party, her father passed away. he had everything planned out to give her the wedding she wanted. she wants to include him in either the wedding invitation or program. but we can't seem to find the right "wording etiquette" to do that. any suggestions?
2006-10-19 07:14:29 · 33 answers · asked by me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You are cordially invited to the wedding of
Miss Mary Smith, daughter of Mrs. Emma Smith and the late Mr. Edward Smith
to Mr. Joe Jones, son of Mr. and Mrs. Michael Jones
2006-10-19 07:17:24 · answer #1 · answered by movielovingirl 3 · 4⤊ 2⤋
A deceased parent is never included on an invitation. An invitation invites people to the wedding. A deceased person cannot invite anyone. There is no mention of a deceased person on an invitation under any circumstances. There are ways to honor a loved one at the wedding alter with a memorial candle, memorial vase or photo.
2015-09-29 05:05:35 · answer #2 · answered by luvmalt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emily Post Wedding Invitation Wording
2016-11-11 06:46:30 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't put deceased persons on an invitation. The only people who belong on an invitation are the bride, groom, and host(s) of the wedding, and deceased people cannot host a wedding.
There are a variety of choices for how to include him in the program, while indicating that he is deceased. Either simply listing the parents of thebride and groom, or by dedicating a poem or other element to her father who has passed away...
This site may help your friend somewhat:
http://www.crane.com/Etiquette.aspx?C=WeddingEtiquette
2006-10-19 11:18:15 · answer #4 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry to hear about that, that is really sorry.
Here is something that you could do: Here is a website first:
http://www.foreverandalways.com/ProductDetails/wedding-memorial-candle/memorial-candles/155-15-215.htm
And then say that the memory candle is in loving memory of the bride's father __________(name) who was loved very much and that we all miss him dearly and that we know he is watching over us at this moment. We dedicate this wedding in honor of him today as we celebrate our love to each other
_______________(bride and groom's names)
We did something similar to for all of the deceased grandparents. We put pictures up front (which would be another idea) and flowers and then put a passage on the back of the program.
2006-10-19 07:26:19 · answer #5 · answered by glitter3317 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know that on the invitation is appropriate for this wording.
In the program, DEFINITELY. Try this, where you list the parents names, you could say "In Loving Memory of _____________" and then her Mother's name.
She could also include a message at the end of the program to/about her Father.
Perhaps she could have her Mother walk her down the aisle and then speak about her Father at the reception as opposed to the Father/Daughter dance.
A nice memorial at the wedding would also be a photo-montage shown on a projector screen of pictures of the Bride and Father. This could be played simultaneously with a song that the Bride would have danced to with her Father for the Father/Daughter dance.
2006-10-19 07:24:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
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how do i include a recently deceased parent on a wedding invitation or wedding program?
the week prior to my best friends engagement party, her father passed away. he had everything planned out to give her the wedding she wanted. she wants to include him in either the wedding invitation or program. but we can't seem to find the right "wording etiquette" to do that. any...
2015-08-10 10:03:02 · answer #7 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been to Weddings that have recently lost a loved one and they had the person performing the ceremony mention that the Deceased Person (mentioning their name) recently passed but they know that they are there in Spirit to share in the Joy and Celebration of ( inserting the Bride & Grooms names). They have alos lit a candle at the Ceremony. Sorry for their loss, hope this helps.
2006-10-19 07:21:42 · answer #8 · answered by MiMi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've gotten some good advice here...definitely include him as the late Mr. So and So
And on the program you can have a memorial acknowlegements section
Just a helpful hint...don't over-do it...especially with it being fairly recent that he died...you'll end up having a lot of people crying at the ceremony and reception...and not in a good way
Less is more...that's the key
2006-10-19 07:29:18 · answer #9 · answered by AllisonCooper 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I had a similar issue with my wedding although my father had died a few years prior. On the invitation, the "Emily Post" answer is to say "you are invited to the wedding of bride, daughter of Mrs. bride's Mom and the late Mr. bride's dad." My Mom didn't like that as she was hosting the wedding, so it actually read - Mrs. bride's mom invites you to the wedding of her and the late Mr. bride's Dad's daughter. It was a little awkward, but accomplished its purpose. In any case, the only thing that etiquette says you can't do is that the deceased person can't "invite." (The invite shouldn't read - the late Mr. Bride's Dad invites you.) That said, a friend of mine sent hers as Mrs. Bride's Mom and the late Mr. Bride's Dad invite you to... and that was fine too as it was what she was comfortable with.
On the program, I listed my husband's parents and my parents as Mrs. Mom and the late Mr. Dad. I had my brother carry in flowers in memory of my Dad ahead of the bridesmaids after the groom's parents were seated and that was also listed in the program. We also prayed for him in the prayer of the faithful.
Rather than that, a friend of mine offered flowers to St. Joseph (Catholic ceremony) in memory of her Dad during the ceremony. Other things I read suggested that the bride could carry a candle in in her Dad's memory.
At the reception, we included a picture of me dancing with him on the place card table and played an "honorary" father daughter dance song (In my daughter's eyes by Martina McBride) in his memory which we invited everyone to dance to honoring and remembering him and honoring all Dads. The dance could also be done with the father in law, grandfather, godfather, etc. based on the appropriate relationship, but I think most people would actually just skip it instead.
Hope this helps. I know it's a hard time and it's difficult to balance - good luck!
2006-10-19 08:19:07 · answer #10 · answered by cmc1217 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Something simple. At one wedding I went to, a recently deceased parent was honored by having beautifully framed photos of them along the entrance to the ceremony...along with other pictures of the bride and groom. It was very sweet and not overbearing. I don't think it's really necessary to actually put wording into the invitation (people will feel strange and obligated to give their condolences...which could potentially be weird). Maybe a short blurb at the bottom of the program like "Thank you to my father, who will forever be in my heart. We will miss you dearly." or something. But even that may be a bit strange. It's a celebration that he was happy to take part in. Honor him by having photos of him present.
2006-10-19 07:21:44 · answer #11 · answered by . 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋