Me & my bf have been seeing eachother for about 7yrs off & on with no committment. We recently committed to eachother & are planing on moving in together early next year. He told me of a girl he was dating for two months while we were here & there with eachother. I figured i would be honest & tell him that i slept with one of his friends earlier this year. It was a mistake but i needed to be honest with him before we move forward in our relantionship. It happened before we decided to be with eachother. He didn't see me as anything more then just a piece of you know what. After i told him it took him a while, but we became closer. Now this passed Sat we were at a get together for a friends b-day & his friend was there. He told me he will never forget. I decided that if he can't forgive me then we need to go our own way. Is it something that i can work with or is it a lost cost? He left upset two days after & didn't tell me what was wrong. he didn't answer my call. Will he get over it?
2006-10-19 07:13:26 · 10 answers · asked by dodgergirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There's a difference between forget and forgive. He told you he won't ever forget. That's the price for sleeping with his friend.
But he can still forgive and that also means not bringing it up and not making you go over it anymore. If he can forgive and you can accept that then you can be ok.
2006-10-19 07:18:07 · answer #1 · answered by RangerEsq 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard one. My boyfriend still can't get over my past, and I didn't even know him during it! (but we've only been seeing each other since April.) I felt that we should be honest with each other in every way, so I let him in on EVERYTHING! I don't know if it was a mistake or not, but i believe that if he loves you, then he loves all of you. Bottom line is, you've known each other for a long time, and I think that he'll eventually get over it. It might not be anytime soon, but he will. Everyone makes mistakes in their lives, and he should realize that. It'll probably take him some time, considering it was his friend. My sister is married to the guy that her friend once dated. It bothers her sometimes, but they're a great couple. I hope everything works out, and that this helped a little.
2006-10-19 14:20:10 · answer #2 · answered by hklcrazy4him 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Past, not passed. Lost cause. Sorry about that. Anyways, it's a a major hurdle for him. If the guy you fooled around with broke it off, then your bf may never recover. A guy needs to know he's the only one and no man can take his place. If he thinks you're just with him because no one better has come along, then you'll always have these issues. If you broke it off with the guy you fooled around with, then it is still tough, but possible for him to forgive you. Either way, if you can make him feel like there is no other man who can ever be better for you, then your on your way. If he is that special to you make sure you show it. I hope he is good to you too and all goes well. :)
2006-10-19 14:32:46 · answer #3 · answered by hartovalion 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's good to be honest. It sounds like he won't get over it. You are right that you will have to go your seperate ways. I don't think he will get over it (even though I think he should get over it and forgive you). I don't think he has the right to get angry with you since he in a similar way did something the same. Besides, you and him didn't have a solid committment in the 7 yrs. This problem is like having a tick on you - you should get rid of this immediately.
By the way, check your spelling. I didn't know about passed and cost. Did you mean past and cause?
2006-10-19 14:23:10 · answer #4 · answered by Chris 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If it was when you weren't with him, then he needs to make the choice to either accept it or not. You didn't do anything wrong here, and you need to let him know that if he doesn't accept you as you are, you need to end this relationship. You will not be very happy together if he keeps nagging you or being all mopey about it.
2006-10-19 14:26:50 · answer #5 · answered by calliope320 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hard to say! he really should be able to forgive. as you said it happened while both of you were open to dating other people. but it will probably be really hard for him to forget. he's one of his friends after all. but if he really loves you he should be able to forgive and get past it. forgetting might be hard to expect from him. especially if you will always have a chance of seeing him at parties.
give him time. he probably did not realize how much it bothered him until you both saw him. he might just need time to process it all. if his love for you is stronger than his pride, he'll get over it.
hope it will all turn out well for u.
2006-10-19 14:22:44 · answer #6 · answered by gracie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he has anyballsman he will other wise its his problem but you was right by telling him remember it was him that opened up the can of worms as long as you learn from your mistakes and dont do it again your fine
2006-10-19 14:20:53 · answer #7 · answered by James N 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does he still have sex wit' u? If he does then he's over if he doesn't want to touch you then you can forget it. Does he touch you like he used to?
2006-10-19 14:21:17 · answer #8 · answered by Jenilyn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u like, but if u dnt like than dnt.......8s ur decision wether u like 8 or not.....
2006-10-19 14:21:45 · answer #9 · answered by kate 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he will never getover it because it was a friend
2006-10-19 14:17:39 · answer #10 · answered by ♫♥♪♬♥♪Try Me♫♥♪♫♥♪♬ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋