I met this guy 6 months ago when I was taking a french course. He's a very nice guy, polite, well-educated, he was so sweet to me. We dated for couple of times, and we both had a good time together, and he told me that he liked me. Then, just before summer, I asked him about his plans during the vacation, and he said : "My gf from NY will come to France and we'll spend the summer together". And I was shocked, and sad.I didn't know that he had a girlfriend . Since that time, I lost contact with him, and we never met again. And now, I actually want to contact him , because I think he was my friend, and I don't want to lose a friend, although I still have a feeling for him. Should I contact him again?
2006-10-19 07:12:09 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You've got to remember that a lie of omission is still a lie. That he didn't mention his gf before you started dating is evidence of bad faith on his part, and proof he's a creep.
It is unfortunate that you were so abused -- and you should come to grips with the fact that he abused you, so that you can move on.
I do understand the idea that a bad person can do something horrible to you, and the consequences of that act can actually be so remedial in your life that the bad person ends up looking like the best of friends (although my circumstances were different from yours, it's happened to me).
Take the lessons that you learned and incorporate them into your life, and be wary of "silver-tongued devils." Some guys just want in your pants, others just want to use you as an emotional crutch, etc. -- decent guys are pretty rare, but they're worth waiting (and looking) for.
Best wishes for your future life; I'm sorry you got caught up with a creep. Redeem the day, and move on.
2006-10-19 07:31:04 · answer #1 · answered by wireflight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should have told you about the gf in the first place.
You can try to contact him again, but be prepared for the worst, meaning that he is still with the gf or has moved on with a new gf, or even married. With the amount of time that has passed by, there is no telling what situation he is in. He may be single again.
You also know that he was not up front with you about the gf. If he is single and say that he wanted to date you, could you trust him?
Don't put your feelings out there to get hurt again.
2006-10-19 14:22:37 · answer #2 · answered by mscutie_26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ROFLMAO
He lied to you. He used you to pass the time. He made a fool out of you. And you call him a "friend" and don't want to lose him? LOL. Come on... you're bored and wondering if he's still with her and wanting to see if you can get something started if he's single.
Sorry, but he wasn't nice, polite or sweet. He lied and he used you and was dishonest-- and he probably didn't tell his gf about you, so he's a double-liar.
No, don't contact him. Sheesh!!!
2006-10-19 14:17:19 · answer #3 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't me juvenile about the whole thing. The two of you had a great connection, there is no reason to think that connection could not be reestablished. Don't listen to the naysayers, follow your heart and your dreams, and learn for yourself what happiness and sadness really mean.
En trouvant vos rêves dans une autre terre, vous trouverez votre coeur à la maison.
Wish you luck!
2006-10-19 14:35:27 · answer #4 · answered by diagofaldi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you have strong feelings for him that it would be in your best interest to not contact him. You dont want to get your heart broken anymore than it has. Shame on him for not telling you right off for having a girlfriend. If he doesnt have that much respect for you as a friend to tell you then I dont think you need him as a friend.
2006-10-19 14:18:01 · answer #5 · answered by redeemer19832002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd let it go...it sounds like you'd really like more than friendship, and he's not in a position for that. Besides, how close do you want to get with a guy who'd go out with other women, while he has a girlfriend. Don't we typically consider that "cheating"?
2006-10-19 14:16:22 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no because if hes nice your just going to end up getting hurt again and if hes mean then you'll be hurt as well just leave him alone french people are different than us when it comes to relationships.
2006-10-19 14:15:20 · answer #7 · answered by n4il_p0lish2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutley not...but you are going to do what you want to do ...and guess what?...if you do you'll probably end up hurt or disappointed. You asked...so my answer would be "no".
2006-10-19 14:15:44 · answer #8 · answered by svmainus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on forget about him he was just use you
2006-10-19 14:17:55 · answer #9 · answered by maya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! Get over it.
2006-10-19 14:14:21 · answer #10 · answered by Michelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋