I am Muslim and I met a Muslim girl and we fell in love with each other, after a week she told me that she is not a virgin that she made a mistake with another man and prays to Allah to forgive her for her mistake.. I understand that it was a mistake and I want to marry her, she never told her parents of her mistake, so her parents think she is still a
virgin my parents also think she’s a virgin. Now if I marry her is it 7araam on my part???
I want to Ostorha because she understands her mistake and asks for forgiveness from Allah everyday.. now if I marry her do I get SAWAAB????
also the wedding night as a custom both parents want to see her blood on a cloth the next morning. This is a must to show this cloth with her virgin blood on it….If I cut myself and put my own blood on the cloth and tell my parents its her virgin blood and also tell her parents the same, would that be 7araam to lie to both my parents and her parents and keep it a secret for life to Ostorha?????
2006-10-19 07:06:28 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You know, if you love this girl, and you seem to very much, then I would just go ahead and do what yo propose--cut yourself and put the blood on the sheet.
Quite honestly, it's nobody's business but you and hers and God's.
It cannot help the parents to know she is not a virgin.
When you become her husband, you become her covering,
her shelter, and I honor you that you want to protect her.
And I think you should.
The only thing would be if that by keeping this a secret you both carry guilt about it then it will affect your relationship in the long run.
But surely there is something in the Koran that allows for compassion towards your future wife. I know there is in the Bible. There it is your right to decide whether to shame her or to protect her.
But she surely does not need to pray for forgiveness every day.
John, in his letter, in the New Testament said that if we confess our sins, God is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
If you have forgiven her, then surely she is forgiven.
She has entrusted you with that which makes her very vulnerable. I would think that your decision to forgive and go on and love her is the godly and loving thing to do.
However you two decide, I wish you the best.
2006-10-19 07:19:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
"both parents want to see her blood on a cloth"? That's some pretty sick sh*t, amigo! Does this little tradition come from when the "prophet" molested young girls?
Doesn't your "religion" demand that she be killed? Or, is she supposted to be killed only if she's drawing some cartoons?
I do enjoy your solution of telling a LIE to both sets of parents! hyuk, hyuk, hyuk...you guys are soooo funny! Just lie when you feel like it and then tell the world how devout you are. So much for being blindly obedient, huh?
oh yeah: praise allah...don't kill me.
2006-10-19 07:14:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Be a man, love your lady. Protect her reputation. God will forgive.
P.S. If you do act the man, from that day forward, treat her as if she was a virgin on your wedding day, respect her as the future mother of your children, and never raise the matter again ... ever.
2006-10-19 07:14:10 · answer #3 · answered by Twoflowers 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Read the book, "The Truth About Mohamed" and get your life straight.
2006-10-19 07:11:30 · answer #4 · answered by Spirit Walker 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Very good question. I hope you get an answer because i want to know too. I'll do some research meanwhile and let you know if i found anything ok?
Good luck and salam.
2006-10-19 07:10:14 · answer #5 · answered by American Wildcat 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
not a quetion of married or un married if you married her she will definetely go to another man its confirm because she can never be satisfied from one man at any cost and not its depend on you and u are not fit for that at any cost its good that i am advice u so before time as i am a master in tantra and fortune and it can never be change thanks
2006-10-19 07:24:22 · answer #6 · answered by name of spritual tantra horr0r 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Wow. You sure are going to extremes to keep these sins in the dark. Are you sure you are a practicing Muslim? If so, then where's the purity to God? Why not fight to not sin?
2006-10-19 07:09:27 · answer #7 · answered by Light 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If you love herm them marry her and defend her.
2006-10-19 07:16:47 · answer #8 · answered by WhatIf 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dude, we as americans dont know what the hell your talking about
2006-10-19 07:12:01 · answer #9 · answered by Jibba Jabba 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋
oh dear...
2006-10-19 07:09:49 · answer #10 · answered by NoLabel 11 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋