i posted a question about my insecure bf and i got a lot of good answers. he doesnt trust me and always accuses me of crap. so i broke up with him and then we made up. it's really hard. so today he got mad cause i was on msn. i guess he thinks that i am flirting with guys online but i dont. i'll have to deal with him on my own but i want to know how many of you dont like your bf or gf to be on msn and chat rooms. anyway, with msn you just dont meet random people, you have to give them your email and i dont give my email to just anyone. in general, do you think that the only reason people chat is to hook up?!
2006-10-19 07:01:36 · 16 answers · asked by girlwiththegoodies 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
People like me chat to give answers and advide to people like you that ask.
First step in a relationship is communication, the second is trust.
I used to be insecure and tried to control...It was put to me this way...
Put your hand in a bowl of water, make a tight fist, pull out your hand, now open it.
Now...Put your hand back in the water, cup your hand gently, now slowly lift your hand.
Which one held the most water?
Gently hold what you want. If you hold too tight, you will loose it.
2006-10-19 07:11:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you aware of how much of your life you're wasting? One day you'll wake up and see how much time and attention you devoted to playing this moronic game with some jerk. Your entire life will be nothing but a long string of mistrust, dishonesty, break-ups, make-ups, accusations, lies, drama, bickering over something as petty as MSN, questions, accusations, more break-ups, more make-ups...... I mean- don't you have anything better to do with your life than to involve yourself in this joke? Is this all you want for your life? Is this all you want out of a relatinship? When do you think these games are going to end?
Anyway-- people go to chat rooms to interact with other people- you can figure it out from there, right?
Meanwhile... your life is passing by every day while you and your insecure boyfriend argue over MSN chat.
2006-10-19 07:09:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i don't think it is to hook up but i have heard alot of ppl say they don't like they bf or gf go into chat rooms... and myspace is the biggest relationship issue... I think if your not flirting then tell him to sit next to you while you chat to see what you chat about... but once insecure he won't stop till he gets over it... just an fyi...
2006-10-19 07:14:37 · answer #3 · answered by SweetOne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I started using the computer chat rooms when my husband and I were splitting, normally people go on to meet friends but I can say now that I am happy at home, engaged to someone else, I never get on to chat rooms, hell I never get on the computer except to do homework. LOL- This is my first time on in a year and its only because I am at school and we have nothing to do lol. You may need to reevaluate your relationship.
2006-10-19 07:07:31 · answer #4 · answered by lynlee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MANYYYY people surprisingly just go to chat rooms to flirt.
But it doesn't mean you're one of them.
A long time ago, I used to go on every now and then because I was THAT bored haha.
If you're in a chatroom and you're not looking for anyone to hook up with, TELL YOUR BF THAT. He just needs to stop being insecure and start trusting you!!! It's just a chat room.
This relationship is not gonna last if he continues to act this way.
2006-10-19 07:06:23 · answer #5 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can understand why he gets mad! he thinks you're trying to hook up because that what people does on that sites...but explain to him that that isn't the reason why you go on to the chat room! if he doesn't understand and still doubts you then really give him a reason to worry! then look what he'll do! and say ya but you though I'm doing some thing wrong so i might just as well do it!
2006-10-19 07:10:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he gets mad that you chat with randoms in a chatroom, how does he feel when you go out with girlfriends? Even worse? Sounds like a control freak. The insecure are the worst kind, they will make your life hell even when you're innocent.
Good luck!
2006-10-19 07:21:45 · answer #7 · answered by JenJen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, that's not the only reason people chat...but plenty do use it for that reason...the internet has been the catalyst to create and to ruin many a relationship because of how people use it.
If you cannot get your bf to trust you, then the internet is probably a lesser concern in reality.
2006-10-19 07:04:38 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well alot of us are chat online cuz we are bored at work. but i think there is a bigger problem. do u flirt with peeps in front of him. do u look at other guys while u are with him. Do u make him feel secure when u are with him. See there has to be a reason he feels this way. I have had or have this problem myself. my gf would look at other guys and make comments about them infront of me(thats very disrespectful) in the begining of our relationship and now i feel very insecure and she wonders why. So i hate it when she is online chatting or on myspace cuz who knows what she is doing. And the only reason i feel this way is cuz of the way she acted in the begining so it kinda scared me so its kinda her own fault i feel this way.
2006-10-19 07:16:51 · answer #9 · answered by dunebugger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you really want to make things work with this guy, you have to respect his feelings. If he suspects you are cheating on him then maybe you should cool down and give him more attention. You should be more patient and help him get over his insecurities. Are you sure he is not just feeling guilty and maybe he is cheating on you? Just making sure... Communication is key..if you can't do that then your relationship should be non existent. Best wishes to you both.
2006-10-19 07:06:14 · answer #10 · answered by Acid Burn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋