my best friend is a christian and the first thing she said to me was,
"you really need to thank god for this."
I replied,
"well I really need to thank someone."
I was offended as she knows my beliefs and has never been so blatant with disrespect before. Both of us are very respectful of each others beliefs. Should I ignore it, or talk to her about it?
2006-10-19 06:58:44 · 26 answers · asked by ? 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I'd ignore it.Some things are not worth getting upset over. This is one of them.
2006-10-19 07:06:15 · answer #1 · answered by . 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're going to remain friends, you have to ignore it. My mother, who is a staunch christian, busts out with comments like that from time to time, and I've learned it's just not worth arguing about. You're not going to change her mind on the topic, and if she's generally very respectful of what you believe, just let it go. Sometimes we say things before we really think them through, it just so happens that this one really hit a nerve for you.
2006-10-19 14:05:05 · answer #2 · answered by lcraesharbor 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your friend was trying to disrespect you. She was probably just excited for your good news and just said it. I wouldn't say anything unless it became an everyday thing. She probably was just very happy for someone she cares for. I sometimes slip with my friends also, I mean no disrespect I just get excited and say what I am feeling at the moment. I hope all works out for you. Good luck with you pregnancy and new baby.
2006-10-19 14:58:20 · answer #3 · answered by celtic925 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are respectful of her beliefs, you will either say "why don't you thank him for me," or just ignore it. After all, you said you are respectful of her beliefs, and SHE believes in God.
That you do not should not impact her. I mean, she didn't say "you HAVE TO thank God, or I will rip your child from your womb," right? She made a suggestion.
Aside: If I were to say "Merry Christmas" to you, would you be offended?
2006-10-19 14:04:15 · answer #4 · answered by Jay 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is your friend. She is a Christian. And that is standard Christian language that they pop off with when the emotions get a little high (both good and bad emotions). Give her a hug, smile, and just move on from the moment.
What I'm saying is, if she is your best friend, let it go. If she starts getting antsy in the future, you can deal with it then.
2006-10-19 14:08:21 · answer #5 · answered by Twoflowers 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
see how you feel when you have had the baby lots of people have a religeous experience through giving birth try to keep the relationship with your freind relationships are precious beyond belief remember being a freind means forgiving somtimes just as you need to be forgiven or I for that matter my self.
Love keeps no record of wrongs we live such short lives lets us love one another then!
2006-10-19 14:03:28 · answer #6 · answered by proscunio 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the problem here is that your best friend is a Christian.
Just kidding!
I don't see why you were suprised by her reaction and I certainly don't feel it's worth a confrontation. Unless she was trying to use this as a tool to convert you in which case I would run for the hills!
2006-10-19 14:06:48 · answer #7 · answered by Edit_Cat 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ignore it unless she brings it up again. Then say "I'm thanking those little spermies that FINALLY found their way to the egg!! About time they stopped getting lost! Must have used Mapquest this time!"
Hopefully she will get the point. Congrats on getting pregnant, too!
2006-10-19 15:07:08 · answer #8 · answered by drewsilla01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how was she being disrespectful? by telling you the truth? you have been trying for 7 months to get pregnant, now that you are did you do anything different this time in order to get pregnant? no?well, did you ever think that maybe your friend prayed to God for you? why would you get hostile to your FRIEND because she's happy for you? just be thankful that you got your heart's desire... which is another thing that God does for you
2006-10-19 14:12:58 · answer #9 · answered by antoinette m 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If it was just a simple thing like "Bless you" I'd ignore it. If she brings it up again, ask her who you should thank if you (sorry to say it) have a miscarriage? Or what would she tell someone standing right in front of her who simply can't get pregnant? God hates them?
2006-10-19 14:01:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋